When we bring our awareness to our infatuations and dating, we can learn much about ourselves. What if we took the attitude of “no blame: neither the Other nor Self,” creating a practice of compassion and understanding for all parties. Continue reading →
We can have strong emotional reactions, bless us. In these times some media reports of “polarization” between those supporting the two prominent political parties. Let’s pump more life into a world where individuals differ in a choice for voting and continue friendships with warmth and comradery. Continue reading →
October 27, 2020
by Janet Pearlman Comments Off on Activating Compassion
Oh boy! We can choose to activate our compassion in lieu of running our hurt reactions from the past. Yes, we can explain past grievances and wounds, feel justified. (Even gather a crowd who will support our righteous indignation! 😊 ) Why not play a more empowering game where we create a world filled with acceptance and healing? Why not admit that we created our pain, then find relief on our own? Let’s review one story of how this is done. Continue reading →
October 20, 2020
by Janet Pearlman Comments Off on Give the Benefit of the Doubt
We are all under so much stress these days. Isn’t it easy to find ourselves frustrated with the behavior of others? “They should not behave that way,” so easily pops into our minds and perhaps out of our mouths. Let’s train ourselves to offer the benefit of the doubt to ourselves and others.
So many of us were judged a lot in our lives—as children and then continuing to our schools and jobs. In fact, we might have noticed that we hear the judging voices in our heads about ourselves. Aha! That might just explain why we formulate negative thinking about another. We see outside ourselves what we are experiencing inside. Oh my! Continue reading →
October 1, 2020
by Janet Pearlman Comments Off on Accepting Our Stuff and Becoming New
We all want to get relief from past hurts. Don’t we love it when we can behave in the present in fresh thinking and feeling good!
Sometimes an opportunity for healing shows up as an incident which kicks up negative emotions.
For starters, let’s accept that we sometimes feel upset. We might bury this, pushing it away, telling stories over it while not feeling it. It has been known to happen 😊.
Instead, we can bring focus to our discomfort and mindfully turn things around. Let’s see if this example provides some useful tools where new results are possible. Continue reading →
September 27, 2020
by Janet Pearlman Comments Off on Commitment to Courage
We all gain value from stories of courage. Isn’t it enlightening to learn what steps are taken inside them to live that ideal? This account delivers some insight:
Lizette enjoys pulling an oracle card or two each morning. She’s selected decks that spoke to her and L relaxes knowing the thoughts for the day will be inspiring and constructive. Continue reading →
Isn’t it great that with being focused at home some of us have more time to become aware of ourselves and to accept ourselves with more openness, less judgment?
We notice, “O, Look I am doing that again. Is that putting forth the atmosphere of the world I want to live in? Uh, not really, I want to shift.” Some may realize that we are more tense and less balanced than we prefer, with the world changing, more time alone than we have had in our lives, less contact with friends. Continue reading →
When we experience what we do not want, we get much clearer about what we DO want. If we are afraid, we can easily put out words and behaviors that are not mindful of the effect on others. We can easily spread fear and promote folks becoming more isolated from one another. Let’s use unwanted to move ourselves forward more constructively. Let’s find our own balance and from there put out calm, kindness and good will. Below one story that inspired greater mindfulness. Continue reading →
We promote the healing of a bodily condition even in how we describe it to ourselves. Our words matter much to us! We gain benefit from formulating what we observe in an empowered way.
For example, we may have heard ourselves say:
Many of us have experienced much judgment on our life’s paths. The habit of judging one another is so prevalent in the culture. Many parents want others to see their children as well performing and well behaved and if the children are not, they take the judgment thoughts as condemnation of their being as well as their child’s. Work cultures, societal cultures, the examples abound. Continue reading →