Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

July 24, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Sanity and Harmony

In our heads we have voices telling us right from wrong. Those messages reflect what was said to us as young people unless we decide to make choices about what inputs we accept. Have you values changed since early childhood? Probably some have.

Some of us have disciplinarians speaking, or missives of worry and caution, sometimes mean in tone. We can feel helpless to reach for more positive feelings. Please know we do have some power to wield.

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Nina

Nina and her husband had been shopping for housing. The two found a house they liked, they pondered whether and at what price to make a bid. The house went under contract before they acted. The protagonist worried, bemoaned, berated herself for missing that house. “Woe is me! I am too slow! I am not good at house buying and more” thought she.

N’s story unfolded and before too long another house with many desired features came on the market. They bid sufficiently high so that our star was sure they would get prospective house #2. Their bid was accepted.

Then Nina worried they paid too much.

Time passed and the first house info became publicly available. Nina discovered their initial thought for a bid on house #1 was under the sale price. Their bid likely would have landed the terrific house.

In reaction to this data, Nina’s mind railed against her ferociously as being incompetent, foolish, disastrous and more.

The dear woman found herself in a torture chamber of her own thoughts obsessively beating her up. N met with a therapist who directed her to stop those thoughts. She found she could not. Aware of this destructive pattern, still this protagonist seemed helpless to rescue herself.

This is when N called on Wise Counsel.

The Wise Counsel (WC) Session

Nina reports to WC on what messages she has been hearing in her head. “I feel unable to help myself! Please offer some relief!”

WC: Recently I watched a video of a spiritual teacher named Timber Hawkeye. I resonated with his message and one of his key statements stuck with me. Paraphrased he said, “If you notice you are worrying, in that moment you are not connected with Source Energy. If you feel angry, then you are making anger more important that connecting to Infinite Intelligence. It requires awareness and focus to live ‘I put God first’. We must develop self-mastery bit by bit.

I will not participate in a conversation where you beat yourself up. Do you realize you are taking a bat and whacking at yourself? I reject every word of that attitude and tirade.”

Nina: She sobbed for a moment.

WC: Maybe you can choose a word or phrase to remind yourself to shift your thinking toward faith, joy, Forces of Good. One friend of mine is using “Christ is King.”

Then WC moved to applying Jin Shin Jyutsu on Nina’s body.

The hands on session lasted about 55 minutes.

Afterwards, Nina felt transformed. She felt very much better, the voices stimulating despair silenced.

N felt “saved”, and basked in the relief. She offered WC a shower of gratitude.

The art of harmonizing the body’s energy, Jin Shin Jyutsu brings dynamic relief. https://streamofyes.com/jin-shin-jyutsu/ Verbal exchange only can rarely produce results as effectively.

Take Aways:

Notice when you are listening to a mean voice talking to yourself. Don’t believe every thought you think! As you can, talk back to the tortured messages.

When in distress, distract yourself with an activity which brings more harmony, takes your attention, puts you in touch with nature or provides an opportunity to express yourself.

As you can, connect with some way to shift your energy such as Jin Shin Jyutsu, tapping, Reiki, yoga, etc.

Do you have success stories to share? We want to hear and share them. Please comment.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

July 17, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Allowing More Ease in Our Lives

We all work so hard. We are taught to pull our weight and try our best. In this post we are exposed to a different approach: one where we allow more ease in our lives. To begin let’s read this passage from Emmet Fox, a spiritual teacher from first half of the twentieth century.

Words from Emmet Fox

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“We do not have to create good. We do not have to persuade God to be Love or Life or Truth or Intelligence. We do not have to ask him to remember us. We could not ask for any good. Fundamentally evil is a false belief about power and the availability of good.

If we draw down the shade in every room in a house, that house will be in the darkness and is likely to become damp and unhealthy as well, no matter how brightly the sun may be shining outside. Salvation consists in raising the shades and opening the windows—then He does the rest.”[1]

Striking

We might be stopped in our tracks by the punchline of that quotation—just raise the shades and open the windows—that’s all? Good does the rest? How would that go?

One Person’s Experience

As Danica grew in personal power, she found herself more able to live in the present. This dear woman identifies issues as they arise, trusting Source to show her how to handle each.

Last month D needed to close out a private office, move the contents on a deadline. Inside the heroine she had been intimidated by such an effort, a few moving parts, many physical tasks requiring strength and skill and more. In this post we learn examples of what the Universe can produce when we stay relaxed, patient and aligned with Good.

Example 1

A friend, Nancy, offered our star seedling plants. While D visited, the two shared the dramatic events of each’s last year of news. In the course of the conversation Nancy got this win-win idea: Nancy volunteered to assist with the project in trade for some JSJ sessions.

Danica loved that suggestion, she had prayed for that kind of help!

Example 2

Another girlfriend with whom D shared art excursions, folk dancing, and more stepped up to assist with the project, too.

At first Nancy’s husband offered to hang a heavy piece of art on D’s wall. As the deadline grew near, that man further volunteered to be a key helper on move day.

Example 3

In the course of the project preparations, Danica and Nancy discovered that an important piece of art was badly damaged. D thought, “Oh my what shall I do about that?”

At a monthly body work trade, this protagonist received a referral to a woman who has a framing business. This led to Danica’s receiving just the assistance she required and at a reasonable price! It just showed up!

Example 4

Last week an associate informed D that her healing room air needed freshening.

She pulled out an infuser, could not get it functioning, laid it aside and succeeded renewing the air with alternative approaches. A few days later after teaching a class, our heroine stood with the students and mentioned that she needed an infuser. One in the circle chirped, “Oh I have one you can have!” Wow easily delivered.

Summation

If we feel so moved, we could read the passage above again and see if and how we are inspired to shift our habits—as always bit by bit.

Harmony and Flow                            

As you experiment with letting life be easier, please share what people, places, events and things show up for you. Please regale us with your effortless successes!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Fox, Emmet, Around the Year with Emmet Fox; Daily Readings (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1952) p, 168

July 10, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Trust Well Being

How do we describe what’s going on for us? We are learning just how important our own attitude is toward what happens for us.

When something is off in our bodily condition, we can become frightened and formulate what’s occurring such that we intensify our fear.

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Instead, we can weave a tale of Well Being, knowing the Forces of Good are always surrounding and protecting us. There is a pony of success in this barn of unwanted waste. Read about Tabitha’s situation and turn-around.

Tabitha

Tabitha diagnosed herself with a urinary tract infection, a circumstance she found distressing. Western medicine usually prescribes an antibiotic for treatment of this condition. T had experienced an unfortunate number of these disharmonies, so she knew what doctors often prescribed.

For T’s being this antibiotic disrupts her overall functioning. She feels sick in other body systems for months if she used that medicine.

As an alternative, our heroine turned to an herbal treatment regimen that had worked in the past.  When first identified, the condition brought painful and dramatic symptoms; after 10 days on the herb T soothed those extreme reactions. At this point in our tale, T still experienced some discomforts.

Tabitha thought, “If I don’t get rid of this infection, it will spread to my kidneys and then I will be seriously ill! So I “should” go on the antibiotic.

But, if I go on the antibiotic, I will stop that spread, but then I will suffer in other ways—digestion and more—and for longer than I prefer.

I perceive a no-win conundrum: this situation is so distressing!”

An intervention

Tabitha consulted Wise Counsel for help.

Wise Counsel gently pointed out that T felt agitated and suffered in a conflicting mental state. In feeling so afraid, T suffered from both symptoms and upset.

With Jin Shin Jyutsu we allow the robust flow of Well Being bringing calm, relaxation and more.  Wise Counsel suggested some JSJ for T. With this art of harmonizing the body’s energy, T could 1) stop the progress of this condition, and 2) shift to more relaxed thinking in place of the fear.

The star felt satisfaction with her session. Immediately she popped with ideas for further adjustment to her self-care and felt the presence of Forces of Good from unseen levels. Hooray Tabitha felt better!

The next day T visited the doctor and discovered the infection no longer showed up in her urine. In about one more day T enjoyed more vibrancy!

Healing Underway

In her mind she made the case that the discomforts she still felt were indicative that the disease process roared within her, but in fact, her healing was well underway. T continued some of her fearful thoughts, and still T’s dear body had been healing well from her herb and other care.  The power of Well Being did remediate those unwanted symptoms despite the fearful emotions. We can assess our circumstances more clearly when we align with Forces of Good and can access modalities that deliver results.

Do you have stories like this that you would enjoy sharing? Please comment with them.  We are very much enriched by one another!

We can notice how we frame our “problems” and set up for more success. Let’s tell a story that support ourselves.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

July 3, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Good Flows As We Proceed

We have a project of significant size to direct. Many components and perhaps more detailed steps unfold as the effort proceeds. This post is noticing how Good Flows as we proceed, performing tasks as each becomes apparent.

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The Background

Delores was clearing a space she had rented for many years. Formerly our star got nervous in this kind of endeavor. Instead now she behaved with greater consciousness of her habits (feelings of incompetence, shame and being overwhelmed) and supported herself with attention to the Forces of Good. This story involved donating outdated computer and office machines.

Recently, Delores had asked a small computer repair company if they took old machines. The staff indicated affirmative. D enjoyed knowing that there was a place to accept them.

Last week a strong friend had unplugged the devices and loaded them into her vehicle. After a week driving around with them, D decided to drop them off.

Tale Unfolding

On this day our heroine drove to the repair place, went inside to get assistance from strong company representatives to unload. There, the attentive staffer Harry explained, “No we don’t take the kind of machine you have in your car. To verify I will come out and look at them.”

In the parking lot, Harry took a look in her trunk. He said, “No, sorry, we don’t take devices this old. Some of them still carry dangerous elements and our partner re-use yards do not accept stuff like this.”

D: “Where do you suggest I take these?”

H: “I recommend S ( office supply store or BB (electronic device retailer). Those are the places that come to mind. Good Luck.”

Reaction

Delores took a sharp intact of breath and then exhaled. She felt disappointed—she had momentum to get this task done.

Taking another inhale of optimism D said to herself, “Well I planned to get food shopping done. A route there involves driving right by one of these stores. Off I go.”

The Store and the Shift

In under five minutes she walked into suggested store, asked if they take her machines. Not only did they answer yes, they smiled with enthusiasm and eagerness. That manager grabbed a shopping cart and followed her outside. One at a time, D and the manager placed the devices into carts.

That staff went to the register and tallied the exchange as “recycling” which qualified the protagonist to earn discounts on future purchases.

In five minutes the amazed Delores was back in her now empty car.

In her head D heard “Oh ye of Little Faith!” After being daunted a bit at the first drop off attempt, she received immediate assistance and succeeded in her mission. Wow to the Forces of Good.

Delores observed how she might have dropped into a complaining grumble after the first place would not take her items. But wow she got what she wanted in a flash following the tip without any great effort on her part.

Do you have some tales to tell where solutions just flowed to you easily? Please share in the comments!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

June 26, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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New Calm

We practice living in the present moment, trusting the Forces of Good to provide us with guidance we need as we proceed. We experience fewer stressed thoughts and emotions and notice increased self-mastery bit by bit. Here is one incident where the protagonist realizes her strengthening personal power.

The Story

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Meredith loved art and pursed it in her free time beginning in her mid-twenties. By her thirties Meredith had studied acrylics painting and produced work applying a texture onto paper before painting. In that period she created some pieces on large pieces of heavy paper – about 35″ x 50″.

For a birthday M asked her two close friends to accompany her to a frame shop and specify how to get a few pieces framed in glass—a few small and one large.  The big work hung in her home for about 8 years. Then our star moved it to VA, where it hung for 15 years in an apartment. Then Meredith rented a bigger apartment and has lived there 7 years.

Discovery of Damage

Presently our heroine creates a healing art room in her dwelling and determines she would enjoy hanging the big glassed art again, With a helper she opened its cardboard box from the last move. Meredith’s friend sees the glass is cracked, the piece was broken, unusable as it is.

“Oh,” this dear one thought, “What a bummer. That’s disappointing!” They closed up the cardboard and moved on to other preparedness tasks for the rearranging.

Improved Attitude

Usually M would be upset, blaming herself for the mishap. She had not made sure the artwork was packed competently.

Today Meredith was able to stay in the now. “Gosh, “M pondered, this item broke 7 years ago. Apparently, I can live without it because it has not hung recently. I am ok right now.

“In the past this piece showed to me that I ‘a good artist.’. All these years and scores of paintings later, I no longer feel that piece ‘proves’ my talent.

It does not feel good to blame myself (in fact it feels horrible to shame myself with self-blame) nor to blame someone else (the movers.)

The heroine is awake to continuing without the blame drama. Instead, she can look into rehabbing the damaged piece, remove broken glass and researching alternative and less expensive ways to hang the piece.

As a result of her inner work, the star can experience this episode with a new calm and relish the personal power. What a fun alternative to experiencing a significant emotional upset!

Expansion

After a few days, Meredith visited a frame shop and discussed getting new glass for the piece.  This woman is thrifty with her money. Somehow though coming from balance and optimism, the estimated price from the shop seemed worth considering—about what she had paid in the 90’s.

She mused, “I am learning how  to let life be easy. I like it very much! Ahh! A new calm! A new life!”

Do you want to share a story where you noticed how far you have come in your self-mastery? Please write it in the comments. We empower one another!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

June 19, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Maintaining Sanity

Many of us practice purifying our thinking, i.e. to feel Good and know Good. As we proceed in life, some incident is likely to stimulate feeling a deep fear and then we have an opportunity for processing it. In this post Carmen seeks relief from terror and worry that grips her in the wake of a house purchase.

Carmen’s Worry Rant

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Carmen and her husband recently purchased a house after months of searching. Now she is worried because her husband  is unhappy. He declares often, “We paid too much for it.”  Though our star does want this house, she wants to please her husband,too During the bidding process which they experienced side by side, the husband did not air his misgivings at that final bid. 

C bemoans, “My husband did not share his true feelings.  Now I want him to be happy with the house. I want to fix this situation and I cannot! I am so upset”

This heroine consulted a wise counsel to get some relief.

Wise Counselor Assists

Wise Counselor offers,

“How would one measure that one “paid too much.” There is no sane way to ascertain that as a fact. No one knows what bid the other side will take. Actually, even the sellers do not know in advance what they will accept because the variables of other offers and market conditions form a unique mixture of circumstances.

When one lines up with the Forces of Good, one does not berate oneself. Telling ourselves we ‘paid too much’ tortures and shames ourselves. We inject a chemical soup of stress pouring into our bloodstream. This line of thinking damages ourselves! With practice we can learn to stop doing that!

Yes, many around us talk like that. Viewed conventionally. “we paid too much”  may sound “normal”. Instead, those reading this blog are learning to live more in line with Good.

Humans live in this moment only. What could have happened or should have happened represents unsound formulating, less than sane.

We do not know what bid a seller may or may not have taken at some point in the past. Therefore, you do not know what price ‘you should have paid’ or what price was ‘too much’.”

Carmen asks the counselor, “What would I do to get relief from worry here?”

Counselor answers, “As you notice you are very upset, distract yourself with another activity. Rest from that troubling topic.  Perhaps, exercise, gardening, do something you love. What can you appreciate in your life?

When the emotions run negatively and high, we can use a tool such as Jin Shin Jyutsu or Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) to recover our balance, soothe our thoughts and feelings. If you have begun to use JSJ, that art will calm you as you hold each finger separately for two minutes.”

Jin Shin Jyutsu Soothes

The conversation stops and the Counselor offers JSJ to Carmen. With that harmonizing session she can let go of that uncomfortable mind set and allow the flow of the Forces of Good. Soon Carmen feels peaceful and relaxed. She is returned to feeling aligned with Good.

Conclusion

When we feel upset, we can help ourselves.

We know we are surrounded imbued with Forces of Good, protective, loving, healing energy. Let’s line up with feeling Good.  

Let’s live in this moment, let the past go.

We know that others manage their own feelings and we cannot make them happy.

We can relax and restore ourselves. Then we keep going.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

Going Home 2010

June 12, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Aligned We Attract What We Want

Let’s report on what wonderful outcomes can flow to us as we live keeping Forces of Good on our mind. Isn’t it fun when as desired objects or events show up seemingly without effort. Illustrations follow:

Plant Shows Up             

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        Laura basked in the burst of spring all around her. An avid flower gardener, she walked to destinations noticing blossoms of plants highlighting patches in yards. L had a big section of garden that required plants that grow in part sun. This season our heroine admired a plant with dark green/red leaves under a spike of pale pink blossoms.

        In herself she realized she wanted that plant. She did not know its name and had not told a soul.

        Within two weeks time, her dear friend brought her that plant, including its name.

        Laura thought, “The chances of that happening were infinitesimal!”

        Wanted Resource Appeared

        Candace was moving her office. This type of activity represented a big deal for her skill set—she did not do it easily.

        This star wanted some assistance, loved pondering a barter arrangement and one that flowed easily.

        Candace attracted that! C visited a former client/friend who shared her abundance of plants she started. With enthusiasm the women took turns sharing recent highlights of their lives. Candace was quite surprised when this friend proposed she help with this move in barter for the healing art Candace offers.

        C thought, “Pinch me! THis friend just offered just what I wanted! . WOW. It popped with no effort on my part.”

        Summary

        We can experiment with looking for good and finding it. Isn’t it enriching to stay relaxed as we formulate desires and prove to ourselves that we are supported.

        Do you have some stories to share about how this is working in your life? Please comment.

        About the Author

        Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

        June 5, 2024
        by Janet Pearlman
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        Pay Attention to How We Feel

        We realize now the great power we wield wherever we put our attention.  How does it go?

        1. We want to notice more and more how we feel. 

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        2. If we don’t feel great, what then? Ease up. We can pause and let our natural good feeling rise again. Things go so much better when we act from feeling good.

        3. We distract ourselves to flow along in a new direction, one that feels better.

        What can we learn from the following?

        Example I

        In distress, Danielle called a wise friend Penny. D reported, “One of the classes I teach may not be renewed. Management of the center prefers someone else. And, at a family meeting what I have accomplished got outshined by someone else, touting his productivity and successes. I feel miserable! Help!

        Strategically, Penny asked Danielle about a subject D would love to discuss. P asked, “What were you painting on that vacation you just had?”

        D responded “I loved looking at the island in the lake. So many perspectives were fun to put down, different slopes, different times of day. For longer painting stints, I even toted a comfortable light weight. Aren’t I clever!

        Additionally, I met new people and had some exciting discussions. One of them enjoyed sharing food plan stuff with me. Great to offer my experience.”

        Penny observed after about half hour, D now chatted away with animation and liveliness. What was the secret to help her?  Directing attention to an aspect of D’s life that was going well, that she loved to discuss.

        Example 2

        Chadra noticed she felt lousy, fatigued, low energy. She had had a poor night’s sleep. C ran thoughts about her circumstances, pointing out how recently things had not flowed well.

        Then, C remembered her power. “Hey I want my zing back. Let me review how I love to live what I talk about, through my day noticing how I feel and then what is it I am thinking? In this moment am I using the teachings that are important to me? When I teach, I admit that I catch myself frequently wanting to shift my perspective to a more positive one, telling stories of what and how I am learning.”

        VARoom ! My energy spiked like a spark connected with a pile of dry grass! I fuel my upswing ruminating on folks who are innovating, creating new companies and services and more. Hey going further I can appreciate my good fortune, reviewing some wonderful things that had happened for me in the last year. I shifted, found my mojo and good spirits.”

        How did Chadra help herself? She put attention on what makes her feel good

        Wield the Focus on the Good Stuff

        1. How we feel
        2. What we love
        3. what goes well
        4. For whom we easily feel affection and why
        5. Tick off some successes

        Closing Thoughts

        Become aware of what works for shifting your mood.

        Create new habits of thought and bask in the pay offs!

        Do you have questions or reports? Please comment! It feeds the flow of inspiration!

        About the Author

        Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

        May 29, 2024
        by Janet Pearlman
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        Recognize our Self Put Downs

        So many of us are becoming aware of how deeply Good we are as humans. Ernest Holmes asserts,

        “There is a Power operating through me, a Presence inspiring, guiding, and sustaining me. Upon this Power, I place my reliance. In this Presence I feel myself to be an outlet of immeasurable Good….

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        I am conscious that there is an Infinite Wisdom directing me. Whatever I should know, I will know….and because of this Infinite Intelligence that is mine and within me now, I am compelled to recognize my Good.”[1]

        Unfortunately portions of the culture around us have not integrated how Good we are. Instead, many of us have been raised with the thoughts and feelings of being flawed and fears that we have done something wrong.

        Awake to a Casual Comment

        Katie has pursued her own transformation of thinking for most of her life. Recently in a small tour of a master’s garden, K overheard a man fretting over whether or not his butterfly weed plants attracted “enough” butterflies. He put forth that his plants brought fewer butterflies into his garden than did his neighbor in her yard. He was concerned.

        “Oh  my, “ Katie silently exclaimed in her head, Mel is putting himself down over how many butterflies he attracts!”

        Our star K spoke up, “You are a Good person! You were a Good person before you planted butterfly weed and remain so no matter the number of these lovely insects your plants attract!”

        We might mentally tell ourselves something like this if we do not pay attention. What a mental hygiene practice worth shifting!

        K imagined this self-talk for Mel, “I love my butterfly weed plants. Every butterfly in my yard is one we are helping to thrive and one that enriches me. Aren’t I fortunate to assist any such creatures!”

        Let’s wake up and be kinder to ourselves. Let’s notice these silent judgments of ourselves and appreciate more and more of our positives instead.

        Self-put-down thoughts and “Am I enough” worries constitute part of our inner chemistry. Let’s shift this tone as we recognize it and clear that toxic inner environment bit by bit.

        Have you been making progress in your unfolding? Please share a story that inspires us all.

        About the Author

        Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


        [1] Holmes, Ernest, 365 Science of Mind Reader ( New York: Jeremey P. Tarcher/Penquin, 2001) p.153

        May 22, 2024
        by Janet Pearlman
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        Progress in Self Support

        We are becoming more and more awake to what we are thinking and to how that feels.  We love when we feel good.

        With momentum on feeling good more and more, Good flows to us in a myriad of ways. We realize more and often frequently, “Oh my, I am blaming myself again,” or “Oh dear, I am finding fault with someone outside myself. “

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        These kinds of changes are at the core of moving to the next step in our evolution.

        Bruce Lipton, well known author of Biology of Belief[1] and internationally known speaker, tells us that 95% of our time we operate from subconscious programming. Living in the now, we will wake up and, “Wait I don’t want to be doing that or saying that– I am catching myself in the habit.”

        Then we have a choice point: Will I blame myself for repeating a habit I want to shed? Or Will I cheer myself on for noticing that I want to shift what I just thought or said? I have certainly increased my consciousness. I can see my progress and make some right now.

        Read a story how one woman shifted away from a habit to a more supportive view.

        Illuminating Account

        Laney realized her favorite boots were no longer comfortable.

        “Bless me, apparently my feet are expanding a bit at this stage of life. The boots I have used for the last five years are no longer comfortable. My toes hit the front—today they feel too short.  I had thought I would make do with them until recently when I came home from a hike with a big toe ache that lasted a day or so. Yuck!” L awoke to the fact that she now requires a bigger size.

        Our heroine continues, “Inside I started to get upset about this. And I realized, ‘Wait a minute I am blaming myself for needing another pair. Did I do something bad? I should have….   Hey, I have the money, I can order online.’

        Whoa! SHIFT! Why not make it ok to need a bigger size. My feet spread. Oh well. I can skip this self-scolding. What if I simply accepted that my feet expanded, and I need new boots.

        I ordered them, they came, they fit. they are comfortable.”

        Not all of us would scold his or herself for this. On the surface it seems so simple.

        Laney found it an important new choice in thinking. She thought, “When I skip the self-deprecating thinking and then concomitant emotional upset – it is akin to finding space in a formerly cramped closet. Life is so much more enjoyable! and EASY. I can say WOW. That is a life I want. I love that I let life be easier.”

        Let’s be aware: the building of new habits will involve us noticing that we just said (or thought or did) something that we used to believe …and now we are back and remembering we have more power.

        We need lots of repeating the new pattern: we make it ok to notice what we were was just doing. We say to our dear self , “Good going… I  returned to present time! I remember another way to think!”

        Rejoice! Isn’t it great that we are learning and progressing! I am learning– this is what waking up looks like!”

        Do you have a story about your process to shift your habits of mind? Please comment.  Be part of all of us creating more fun!

        About the Author

        Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


        [1] Lipton, Bruce, The Biology of Belief (Santa Rosa, CA, Mountain of Love/Elite Books, 2005)168

        (Mission statement here).