Have you noticed that at times you praise another person, appreciate what a great job he has done, and the dear man kind of keeps talking or makes light of your words—he does not seem to hear or enjoy it?
And have you become aware that at times you behave that way too? We all want validation and yet sometimes we cannot let in the praise.
Many of us in this culture put a lot of effort into what we do. We want to get it correctly, push for success and get the gold star. But often, we get to pushing too hard and life does not flow well for us. Let’s review an example of how we can be easy and receive the help we need. Please review this account of Larry and Marge.
Many of us are eager to learn to wake up more and more to what we are doing with our thoughts. Let’s review this process—always worthwhile since changing habits of thought requires much patient review for our dear selves. We know habits take a period of time to shift. 😊
Henrietta traveled the path of growing more and more. She was determined to get more power over her experience. H keyed into noticing her feelings more and more. “Hey what is going on with this dip I feel?”
How do we keep ourselves in a good mood? Chilling out and focusing on something fun. Let’s also pull up the outstanding “coincidences” that pop for us and fill us with delight.
True, at times we feel the effects of unwanted events. Why don’t we keep really juicy stories in a special file to remind us of what’s possible? Here’s one worth sharing:
We might not like the behavior of another person. How could that happen? 😊 We might strategize how to convince him to change. Often this approach is not effective. Who likes to be on the receiving end of that kind of discussion? Let’s consider how to make a change in ourselves that brings some relief.
Aubrey loves to feel affection expressed to her with physical contact. She admits she appreciates that reassurance and her own physical expression.
We invent what we see! Isn’t it good to notice that we can create more fun – even with frustrating circumstances! When we feel lousy viewing some situation or person, let’s recall that we have the power to change how we see that and then shift how we feel. That way we feel good a lot more often and enjoy life more!
Juice of Satisfaction flowed in the following two examples. Find Inspiration!
Our experience arises from how we perceive what is going on around us. Can we awake to what we “see” hurts us? This post constitutes another entry into “What story do I tell myself?” Isn’t it powerful to notice when we are telling a tale that does not feel good? Fruitful journey of discovery!
Some among us experienced much discouragement in childhood. Practicing appreciation through our day can build a confidence muscle! Internally and for a time the ridiculed person may feel the external messages were the truth about their make up. But those who reach for feeling better moment to moment may decide to overcome these past hurts. Read what empowerment is possible—Nessa tells this story.
As we practice the mindfulness, we discern when our perception is clouded with past hurts. This piece offers an example of one man shifting his previous position from what was a long past unwanted experience to one of seeing a positive future, to expect the good.
Malin’s Story Begins
Last year Malin dated Tara for a month. At the time Malin wanted her to attend some events near his home and Tara was reluctant to travel much to his part of the state. For M that was very frustrating.
We can boost our spirits knowing than our good has momentum. When we attend to living in the flow of life, to feeling good and noticing Good around us, more Good comes to us and in unexpected ways. As we practice catching ourselves in habits of thought, we get help. Isn’t this a benefit for which it is worth reaching!
Read about one example.
