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July 19, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice, Pause, and Shift Thinking Part II

We are practicing our self-awareness and our ability to change from unwanted feelings to more empowered states. In this post the protagonist notices her own judgment and fear and is able to move toward a happier vibe.

As the blog author was creating this article, a post from Pam Grout, spiritual teacher of A Course in Miracles, popped into her inbox with totally harmonious thinking. Ms Grout wrote, “My mission, rather than to protect myself from what looks like some slight or wrong, is to stay open and draw out the truth, to feed the part [ed. in others and ourselves,] even if it seems invisible, that dreams and wants to give love.”[1]

Below read about a protagonist’s process of waking up to course correct her formulations.

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Initial Event

Penny was enjoying interacting with a particular man online. This man communicated a strong attraction to her. The two after casual emailing for a few days moved to make plans to meet.

They had identified a point half way between their locations. At one point in the conversation this fellow named Leonard asked her to plan an overnight with him for the next week. Leonard planned meet this week, do an overnight next week.

The Trip Wire

Penny felt an emotional trip wire go off. She sat a minute and took a breath. Then she responded, “No I am not making that kind of plan now.”

Judgment ran amok in the mind of our heroine. In her head she said “OMG! He is Mr Lust! I do not base a relationship on that!”

Greater Awareness

Wait, P notices that she has generated fear inside herself. The she wakes up to her process” the review of the situation makes her more upset. She does not want more upset!

The inner voice is contemplating skipping this meeting.  Our star muses, “Oh my I am worried about maintaining my integrity. I might behave weakly!”

Before very long Penny decides to call a friend for support. This wonderful friend reminds P that a person needs to know more before she assesses a man’s character.

The heroine shifts inside, “Oh yes I am making discernments based on meager evidence. I admit that.”

The interchange with Leonard had gone back and forth a bit. In her reactive emotions this dear woman became alert to her distorted lens: she had started to misread his meaning in her fear. With a calmer view P saw what she had read as a rejection was not so at all. Leonard was indicating he wanted to continue. “Oh,” says she, “Good to notice! My fear blocked comprehension!”

Therefore, the two confirmed the arrangement to rendezvous the next day. She felt balanced and knew she could make a fresh start as they laid eyes on one another.

Reprieve

Then the next morning, P received a note from Leonard apologizing that he had to reschedule their meeting for the following week.

Our star felt relief. Yes, she did want to meet him. Penny felt grateful for her ability to transform after the emotional ride of the day before.

Penny knew she was being assisted and protected. Wow, she received confirmation of her results: the Ernest Holmes reading for that day ( see last post); the oracle card pulled; and the Pam Grout message in her inbox within a couple of hours. Cool!

She felt very good as that “cancellation day” proceeded.

Conclusion

Isn’t it great how powerful it is to experience such a flow of circumstance! She caught herself judging and caught in anxiety. Then she called up The Power of Good, and with resilience tuned in to her loving mindset.

Do you have a story that comes to mind to share now? Have you experienced or witnessed some jumping over to an uplifting neural pathway? Please comment!

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.


[1]https://wp.me/pzTRI-582

July 12, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice, Rest, Change the Thought Part I

We are committed to this path of growth. So many of us are following the guidance put forth in these posts and feeling better as we grow. Noticing where our thoughts are running is such a key! If we don’t feel good, we decide to reach toward some glimpse of uplift, feeling better bit by bit.

Ernest Holmes led people in this way of thinking during the twentieth century and has many followers carrying on his work. The following passages form the centerpiece of this post.

In 365 Science of Mind Ernest Holmes wrote, “… Out of my personal experience come the negative suggestions that arise from the race consciousness. If I permit them to, they act as a mesmeric or hypnotic power over my imagination…. But I know that there is a Presence, a Power, and a Law within me, irresistibly drawing everything that makes life worthwhile into my experience. … I know that nothing but good can go out from me, therefore the good I receive is but the completion of a circle—fulfillment of my desire for all….

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So, I refuse to judge according to appearances, either mental or physical, no matter what the thought says or what the appearance seems to be. There is always a higher Power. Upon this Power I rely with absolute confidence that it will never fail me. I have dominion over all apparent evil, which is merely a belief in which I no longer indulge.” [1]

Learning to live into this understanding: we notice unwanted thoughts and feelings and shift. Below is one illustration. Other examples will follow in upcoming posts.

Gabrielle’s Story

Gabrielle had an unplanned visit from her landlord. He drove up, asked her a question about a health condition. When he did not like her response, he went on a long-winded speech about how he did not approve of a choice she had made and how he viewed the issue. He went on in an angry tone, a harangue, for at least 10 minutes. At one point he started to apologize for coming on so strong, and instead of making amends continued his monologue.  Gabrielle chose not to engage him, and he left fairly soon afterwards.

She had listened and found her patience. And she observed she felt tense, annoyed and yes, frightened by his remarks. Soon, G started to research local housing, starting a path to becoming more calm. Then she went on with her life, diving into activities she enjoyed.

The next day Gabrielle could sit with herself and review what she knew at a deeper level. As Holmes had asserted, she remembered the enormous, unstoppable Power of Good. In finding the rental opportunity where she now resides, she had turned her situation over to that Power.

In daydreaming G resonated with how wonderful she felt in receiving the guidance, protection and “the good find,” one fulfilling a list of features she wanted. Calling this up into present time, our star filled with a strong Positive Vibration. She had turned it over and been provided for and kept safe.

That power was still with her. Oh! So exhilarating to get grounded again into that!

Do you want to share a similar experience? Perhaps one where you again tapped into your strength of knowing the Force of Good? Please share. We connect and raise one another up!

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.


[1] Holmes, Ernest, 365 Science of Mind (New York, Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 2001) 192

July 6, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Fun Assistance Popping

As we practice reaching for a positive attitude day to day, we can have the fun of assistance popping for us. Perhaps you have experienced the Parking Spot Fairy? Feeling good, we drive to where we are going and want a parking spot to show up for us. And it can happen often!

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Story # 1

Kathy loves visiting the beach. She walks on the sand, splashes in the water: so rejuvenating and refreshing in the heat of summer.  On a whim she started driving toward water and then began to head for a well known beach further from her home than she usually drives.

When first Kathy looked for parking, she saw all the spaces taken, several lots and no luck. Paid parking cost a hefty $25. Hmmm,our heroine took charge of her point of view. What was she saying to herself? K heard a voice in her head shift to “It’s gonna work out!”

Pause, pause.

K drove around a bit and went up toward the ATM machine. Pop! There by the restaurant she found an empty space, just waiting for her!

This dear woman was so excited. Not only did she identify a spot but she knew her mood shift had been the key. K phoned this author to tell her story!

Story # 2

Maddy got out of the habit of finding parking near downtown since so much time had passed in the “focused at home” last year. The Friday activities were featured again so our star decided to check it out. She was even meeting a friend.

Would the parking places she often got still work that magic for her?

So often she felt happy and so often spots appeared for her.  “She’d be fine,” she thought.

Maddy drove straight to where she expected a spot and drum roll…. YES there was a place for her car—and it was plenty big enough for an easy parallel the curb maneuver.

YAY!

Simple principle—feel good and expect some surprises and delights. Fun to experience that we are supported by Source Energy.

Want to share some illustrations from your life? Please comment! We are getting a roll with fun.

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The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

June 28, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Build Strength from Upset

Those of us reaching for feeling good are building new neural pathways moment to moment. These new pathways represent new strength in our ability to focus.

When we are born, we are guaranteed that choosing our focus will be part of our life experience –we will find ourselves close up and personal with something we do not want. We focus on what we DO WANT so we get more of it.

We get what we hold in our thoughts in this attraction-based world.

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In this account Selah has an experience she really does not want. What can she do to build strength instead of magnifying the upset?

This star, Selah, reached for being connected to Source Energy often in her day. She felt good vibes flow from her heart and frequently spent time enjoying her yard. Daily she would create various projects: crafts, home improvements, garden.

On one particular day two houses down the street a man drank heavily and spoke loudly. It had happened previously. This time the invective was as if the cursing was pounding the air, accented by a menacing din of blaring music.

Our heroine lost her composure for a bit, triggered into a distressed and depressed reaction. Selah felt at her wit’s end — in her head she wailed, “This is my home!” And still, she reached for a response from a higher consciousness.  What on earth could she do?

This dear woman sought out assistance from someone who would give her advice that she could respect. This guide began, “The most important thing for each of us is to maintain our connection to Source Energy. We make our priority our own nervous system—regaining that “feeling good” place. First put some focus on calm, perhaps distracting ourselves with something pleasurable. Certainly, offer ourselves time to recover.

This assistant offered the inspiring words of Howard Thurman, influential author, philosopher, civil rights leader. “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”  https://libquotes.com/howard-thurman/quote/lbn4k5i

This situation hurt Selah deeply. This shifting to a calmer and contented place took days into weeks bit by bit through the days. Internally at times she heard herself complain, “But I want to work in my yard!” Stronger, she did not dwell there, pivoting out of that victim mentality again and again.

Moving on, S found ways to soothe herself and knew she was taking power in her mindful steps to recovery. Her ability to focus where she put her thoughts represents her power, and she kept choosing to build resilience in how she uses her consciousness.

Once she got feeling better, options to continue popped into her mind, she could:

  1. Wear earphones and play desired music for our own ears.
  2. Put special attention on the beauty surrounding herself. Relish each aspect—the color of the flowers, the combinations, the textures!
  3. Review strong positive memories.
  4. Appreciate the many friends she has attracted.

She was so glad she was using this situation to grow. She was expanding her love for herself and her understanding of others. Her courage expanded too. With delight she embraced the continuous practicing needed and S loved expanding her capacity for love.

Did you find this piece thought provoking? What bubbled up for you? Can you think of more approaches to strengthen ourselves under similar circumstances? What do you do for yourself?

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The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

June 15, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Success with Intention

We know that we can marshal our power to fulfill our wishes. How to do it? Get clear what we want, work inside till we feel as happy as we will when we have it, relax and let the universe provide. Since we are already feeling good, the time required becomes less important because we already feel good! Review this example.

Background

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Horatia needed a new place to live. At first there was a loose deadline as the owners where she currently rented were not requiring a near term move-out.

In the first contemplation of the move, our heroine had felt some worry.  Mastering her emotions more and more she reached for feeling better. H began pursuing ads on craigslist and other housing sites, clear that she would find a satisfying new home.

Horatia affirmed her connection to Source and the protection available to her. She wanted to assume the best, to live with an open and loving heart, to have courage.

Each morning she practiced a soothing feeling of divine protection. In her heart she could feel some doubt, lingering fear of “no where to go,” and when noticing, shifted back to feeling the best she could moment to moment.

Early in June, the land people requested H clear storage areas and remove possessions (not big pieces of furniture) for carpet cleaning. Accomplishing this required a significant move effort to storage.

Late in the month she got busy visiting vacancies and evaluating them for rental.

Crisis

On hot day in late June, accompanied by a woman friend, our star traveled a distance to view a property. Just before finding it, Horatia pulled over in distress. Lost, discouraged, and emotional, to her friend she spoke out her upset with intensity, waving her arms a bit as she did– for about three minutes. It was like an over heated radiator boiling over, steam streaming up with a hiss.

Shortly, this dear woman got a grip, proceeded on, looked over the prospect and nixed it.

That evening reading her book H came upon an account of a minister who had been run over by an 18 wheeler truck, laying in agonizing pain. The man did not care about his life, suffering so. The visiting friend assured him, “We will pray you to live.”

Reading that passage, Horatia received a big flash of insight accompanied by a big internal shift. That day she had felt so alone and terrified.  Now this protagonist knew what she would do: she would turn over this situation to Source. In that moment H surrendered the burden of the search, the stress and worry, and trust more strongly her divine help.

Years of practicing inner work paid off: our star was able to make this live! H could feel the wonder of receiving help to find a nurturing home. Horatia could feel ease; she could breathe into her success!

Manifestation

For another few weeks this strong one kept looking. H was cool and business like, finding prospects, viewing the promising ones. The goal had been to find a desirable rental close by.

One early morning our heroine found a favorable ad, a decent price, in the town where she preferred to settle.  When she got there, she reviewed the list of what she wanted: plenty of light, sufficient space, laundry facilities, decent storage, some way to handle lawn work. Check, check, check. OMG! H even liked the owner.

The next day Horatia signed the rental agreement. Success! Such a sweet place, where she wanted it, meeting the requirements she had.

Take Away

In this story, this dear woman not only affirmed what she wanted, she was also provided with the opportunity to let go of deep feelings that were in her way. And then what she wanted could flow in. Don’t you love that help showed up for her? Isn’t it great she could see the gift and take advantage of it? She took on a challenge and grew in the process.

Wow! She felt confident and ready, then her housing showed up.

Do you have a story of success to share? Did you go through inner changes on that journey? Please comment and tell us about it.

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The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

June 8, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Growing Self Respect

As we walk a path of growth, we become more attuned to noticing our reactions. The power in noticing can be milked for greater insight. In the example below we read the guidance delivered to someone who feels hurt and discouraged from an exchange at her job. Please see if what’s offered provides a useful template for your own journey of unfolding. We will review the story from Ruby and the counseling she received.

I. The Incident

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Ruby attended a management meeting with her supervisor and section chiefs where each provided a status report. When our protagonist spoke, she commented that she felt tired a lot with her update to colleagues. After the gathering, one of the team complained to the boss that Ruby’s statement implied to them all that R worked harder than all of them.

In reaction the leader then cautioned Ruby more carefully to monitor how she spoke at these check ins. Our star felt misunderstood and disheartened by the exchange.  She sought counseling from Cassie, one with lots of experience in using upsets to further her growth.

II. Some New Thinking

Cassie said, “I am glad to offer some thoughts.   Do you feel hurt that that teammate took what you said as your promoting yourself unfairly?”

R replied, “Yes”

“You want to be respected and you feel that was lacking?”

R emphatically blurted, “Yes”

Cassie spoke, “First you want to let yourself rest, and recover from this uncomfortable meeting and your reactions to it. Maybe not discussing it with others right now nor reviewing it in your own mind.

Ruby ends the visit at that. In a couple of days and feeling better she calls her advisor.

This heroine begins, “What do you recommend now?”

C continues, “As you recognize your upset, you acknowledge that your feelings are up to you. In my metaphysical understanding, you are the one creating the feelings.  At first that might seem astonishing—You may have always assumed the cause is outside of yourself! Actually we are the ones who generate all this emotion.

To take responsibility then, you could start by listing what you appreciate. There is so much all around you: nature, objects, situations, family and more. What do you value? About what are you grateful?  List the ideas that flow easily.

I will brainstorm with you now.”

The dear guide began acknowledging aspects of R’s character. C was able to include some impressive accomplishments from what C had observed at Ruby’s workplace.

Ruby had managed a big project of her section expanding and relocating.  More than a year later measurement of her efforts showed goals had been exceeded every prediction of success by 50% and more. In addition, R had greatly increased her management skills in many ways including logistics, supervision, and more.

After Cassie’s roster of all these positive, she checked in with R.

R responded, “Yes, I feel so much better! What that co-worker said seems like no big deal now”

C continued, “To continue practicing on your own, I recommend taking time to appreciate morning and night. You may find that you begin to notice what you admire in your own demeanor, performance, handling of staff, interactions with your family and more. Appreciating ourselves often takes some focus and repetition.

As we feel better and better about ourselves, we see we have more patience and compassion for others. And then we receive some less than flattering commentary from whoever, we feel more resilient.

Fun metaphor: the gunk just slides off greased feathers — and the unwanted beading up, running off with no effect. As we affirm all of our cool qualities, we are less hurt by what is stated outside ourselves.”

III. Summary

Ruby learned much about herself from events she would not have chosen. Now she has the choice whether to beef herself up by doing some focus on appreciating. We are all rooting for her!

Do you have a question about this post? Do you want to share a story of insight flowing to you, or how you handled comments? Or please share some self appreciations. We allw ant to cheer one another on! Go for it!

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

June 1, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Go for Loving

For many of us in our culture family relationships easily bring up guilt and shame. For some just mentioning family means obligations and we start to squirm. Those thoughts of “what I should do” or “what I should have done” or “what he or she should have done for me” trigger such discomfort! Do we withdraw? Do we placate? attack? Some of each? What might be possible if we brought new understanding to handle such situations?

Filled with grace, we can learn to uplift ourselves to love before reacting.

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Read about reaching for new perspectives in a family situation:

Denice felt uncomfortable and wanted to reach for the most evolved response she could find. Our heroine had discovered her sister had been hospitalized and was not well. She had not known this dear sibling had been having hip pain for a year.

D hesitated. What did she want to do? D consulted her friend Lenora who wants to live the teachings as offered in this blog. When Lenora received the call, she felt clear and happy.

L knew the two sisters had once felt closer. In fact, they have not been communicating as much as they used to even 3 or 4 years ago. In addition, like some families, they created fewer family gatherings during this last year of people staying home much more. She began,

“In a recent interview Neale Donald Walsch, the man who wrote Conversations with God[1] puts forth that in the nature of the universe all of us are inherently, unconditionally loved from birth. Therefore, none of us needs forgiveness because in divine eyes we have not committed any transgressions. We are seen as completely enough and ok already. The Abraham Hicks teachings and other spiritual works espouse harmonious viewpoints. We can live into that!

“You feel all this hesitancy? Do you fear your sister may judge you for how much you reached out to her? Maybe you are tempted to think she could have tried harder to contact you. And what about almost a year of discomfort—why were you not called let alone consulted for your knowledge of alternative healing?

Denice, you are already using these teachings. You can take in this radical message: Skip thoughts of guilt, “not enough,” “should have” etc. Yes, you may feel an impulse rising to go down that road. But now consciously you are ready to absorb that all that represents fear-based thinking.

You have practiced the mastery of feeling that love for you pouring down. You see that defending yourself is not needed. In light of that, you make it ok that she may not want your views on politics, health or medicine. It’s nothing personal.

You love your sister deeply. Communicate that! Go right for expressing that.”

Immediately, Denice allowed the wisdom of what her friend was telling her. She was right there – ready to say “Oh yes, yes I see.”

Lenora continued,

“You can go immediately to accepting her as you find her now and to soothing her.  Easily you can tune to that and to expressing the love for her that already fills your heart.

And you can skip any ideas of your ‘owing’ something, no hooks on you.”

Denice paused in silence for a moment, absorbing the words. “That was so valuable! Thank you! I might have reviewed ‘But why didn’t she call me’ for a spell, but no I won’t go there. What a relief to release of all the past hurts or possible recriminations! That was dense and I can digest it.”

We can realize that what matters most is to express our appreciation, acceptance and understanding of one another. So many squabbles about some kind of proving ourselves, one upping, blaming, even placating – we can drop all of that.

Go for loving. All That Is already loves us, and we enjoy beaming that to others.

Do you want to ask a question about what you read here? Do you have a tale of your success in using this principle that you are eager to share? Please comment! We are on the path to loving our lives more and more!  

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The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

May 24, 2021
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Supported by Good

The Forces of Good support us more than we might imagine. We have had experiences where we felt afraid, waking up to the fear, shifting our point of view, and then feeling relief. Isn’t it great to feel that all is well after all. We can focus ourselves so that can happen as much as needed. So wonderful.

A day in the life of Charmaine

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Charmaine read a message in a newsletter, and she became frightened. The dear woman got triggered for sure, starting to imagine, scenes of prison camps and humiliation. Sure, this topic troubled many people who felt their lives at risk. She had shifted out of terror, and there she breathed, catching a whiff of terror and anger too.

At first it all seemed so real, C called a friend as part of her reach for comfort and got some kind and balancing words. Also, she felt love and respect in what beamed back to her. Ok good start to calm down.

After that conversation, Charmaine followed her morning ritual to pull a card. This “oracle” told her that her fears were running away, and she did not have to go that direction. This lady had divine support and was safe. Wow – amazing what a “on target” message came—what a perfect morning for that guidance.

Feeling better she moved into her day.

In about an hour, her phone stopped accepting or making calls. Charmaine checked all the settings she knew to check and still no go.  Staying fairly balanced, she used the landline (God Bless it) to call a tech friend. That fellow had a strong hunch that the issue was with the provider. Sure enough she called there and presto change the phone worked!

Within less than an hour—she had a “problem,” received the direction she needed, and got just the right assistance.

Just after that, our star opened yesterday’s mail to find a letter from the company that stores some of her possessions. For this heroine at that moment it felt ominous, she had “feared” the rent would spike sharply. Relieved again, in fact, this notice informed her that the new charge represented only a modest increase. Somehow another fear did not come true. Protected.

At the auto shop appointment, she was greeted warmly, offered great service and told that she needed a 3 hour service next time. As she mulled and wondered out loud who would drop her off and fetch her, the owner of the shop offered, “Oh if you are stuck we will loan you our car.”  A nanosecond of fear and then help. Another awesome moment!

At a food store, she again greeted warmly, given extra customer service. She admired the flow of her day. So much Good and So much Ease.

About mid afternoon the protagonist’s path took her to the building from where that newsletter had been issued, a location on which she had projected her fear. Readers won’t be shocked to here: it had been False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR). What she had intimated her did not materialize.  The flow of her positive mood carried her and Charmaine was shown that the trepidation was unfounded.

Then in the class she attended C got an extra dollop of affection thrown in. She had not had the imagination to picture such Good.

Effect on Charmaine: she got more experience in reaching for thoughts that feel better. She practiced, she got results, she deepened her connection to Good.

Smiling she knew it was easier and easier to catch herself and KNOW Well Being.

Have you a story of shifting your thoughts and getting relief from fear? And then were you delivered into an unexpected reception of Good? We’d love to hear those. Your example assists us all.

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

May 19, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Tips on Forgiving Ourselves

Many of us feel guilt and shame and at times judge our actions. Wow what a very uncomfortable feeling! That inner voice of condemnation can sound so true! In truth we are wondrous beings growing toward Good!

Let’s review some methods for soothing ourselves when that is happening. Over time we can learn to skip the judgment altogether. In this post we can take a look at some key recommendations provided in the book Radical Forgiveness[1] by Colin Topping.

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Sylvana’s Story

Sylvana had been enjoying a friendship with a woman for over 6 years now. They checked in each week and often arranged some outing they could both enjoy: a lunch, browsing in a charity shop, talking a walk. 

Each recognized they had many differences and still they appreciated one another staying largely on topics they shared.

Sylvana in particular, wanted to focus on what she could enjoy together, looking for the good and finding it.

During the last year, new tensions arose with pressures on the women from pandemic and polarized attitudes.

One day the friend called S in distress, shared deep upset and blamed her for it. This woman announced she could no longer be her friend and this was goodbye.

For Sylvana this was shaking, unnerving, disappointing. Her mind went to a common refrain under such circumstances, “What did I do wrong?”

Tipping offers some guidance for self forgiveness that S decided to employ.

1) Take responsibility and Accept What Occurred.

S accepted her active participation here. Of course she had played a role. She could reach for accepting what had occurred. Of course she would continue to thrive. This would be ok.

2) Notice the self judgments.

In her mind S did start down the road to blaming herself. Our star began to tell herself that she had shared too much and ventured to areas where they do not agree. She put one foot on the path to “Boy I did something ‘wrong’!”

Sylvana had been practicing self love for awhile now. Alert she had been she was catching herself fairly promptly when she heard self judgment. “Wasn’t it great,” she thought, ” that during that phone call I reached for a kind attitude even as the other accused her of various transgressions!”

2a) So many of us humans experience thoughts like this.

Yes we notice self judgments and we can make it ok that we have them. This lady knew that “making it ok includes the self blame–this phenomenon runs rampant in our culture.

Good Awareness! We noticed and now have power to shift.

3)  Cultivate a willingness to accept oneself as is.

S had let herself flow with some opinions, express as she loved to do. Her friend really did not like what this protagonist had said, and this friend got disturbed. Alas, our heroine greatly valued her clarity and knew she had been true to herself.

4) Tune into this present moment.

Sylvana called another for support and continued her practices of uplifting and loving herself. She put more focus on tuning into what she could enjoy—the landscapes, her creativity, reaching out to make new friends and enrich the connection with others in her environment.

Yes, this lovely woman heard birds chirping all winter, relished the music that played in her head after she left folk dancing class and more.

Depending upon the depth of hurt, forgiving can take some focus and time. The effort carries fabulous pay off. It is so worthwhile to experiment with Tipping’s suggestions, learning when and how they help us. Let’s employ what’s useful in our toolkit for changing our habits of thought.

Please share what happens for you in the comments. What questions arose, if any? What parts enriched you? It feels so good to lift our guilt and let life flow!

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.


[1] Colin C Tipping, Radical Forgiveness, Making Room for the Miracle(Marietta, GA:Global 13 Publications Co, Trust, 1997)

May 10, 2021
by Janet Pearlman
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Robust Flow from Unwanted

It is a strong cultural habit of thought to complain when some event occurs that we very much do not want: serious injury, death of a loved one, a job that does not come through and more. That habit might include, “Poor Me!”

Readers of this blog reach to replace that habit with clearer thinking and with positive attitude. Such events offer us opportunity. As Darren Weissman, author of The Power of Infinite Love and Gratitude, calls it, “Gifts in Strange Wrappings.”  

We could begin to notice how some of the unwanted occurrences in our lives birthed unforeseen advantages. How we perceive the “bad” things, how we choose to react shapes our lives in such profound and astonishing ways.

Here are some dramatic illustrations

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  1. Caroline Myss, internationally known spiritual teacher and author, tells this compelling story. A woman (call her Lana) went off a steep embankment in her car, a horrible accident. To save her life she experienced amputations below the knee on both legs. Lana had loved to run and she wanted to run again. Determined to run again, she experimented with artificial legs. L discovered the ones available did not allow her to propel herself in an optimum way. Undeterred, she designed her own artificial limb– apparently in the shape of a question mark which provided more spring for steps. Years later in response to a press question, this valiant soul commented on her car wreck. “Before the accident, I never inspired anyone. Now I do. I really value being inspiring.”
  1. James was seriously injured in the 2013 bombing at the end of the Boston Marathon. Sent to rehab, he healed there for months. There he met a nurse with whom he became friends. When he healed, they courted and then they married. He is quoted as saying, “I am actually glad I got blown up.” https://www.huffpost.com/entry/boston-victim-marries-nurse_n_5718501?1409144598=

3. Gianna experienced a break up of a romantic partnership which had spanned 27 years. As it was happening and for a time afterwards, the ending seemed like a horrible tragedy. This protagonist felt unplugged from connections and thrown down on the mat of life.  In those early months after the separation, she had no idea what could come out of this heartbreak.

As G’s life unfolded, in less than two years’ time Gianna was creating a new life,  moving to a new state and beginning a next chapter. This dear woman got busy learning how to be lift her mood moment by moment and before too long Gianna felt happier than she ever had imagined being.

Key was a shift in attitude, grabbing the freedom,  allowing the juice from the pain to catapult her to an unforeseen adventure.

  1. Goodnewsnetwork put forth a piece entitled “Something Good Always Comes Out of Something Bad.” Its author, a mother, widowed, kept quotes from her daughter in the years after the father’s death, words about how the daughter saw things. Using that material this star, Eileen Douglas, wrote and published a children’s book entitled “Rachel and the Upside Down Heart”.   In the piece she goes on to include accounts of how this book helped other children heal from great losses.  Ms. Douglas conveys beautifully the essence of the point of this blog post. Read it here:_ http://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/upside-down-heart/.
  1. Spencer Quinn has written novels featuring Chet and Bernie in which a man and dog make an effective detective team and the canine narrates the story. Chet, the dog, recounts the way he flunked out of canine school, apparently with an unfortunate incident involving a cat. Mingled with his regret, this wise animal understands that out of those circumstances resulted meeting Bernie, his current master and partner, and realizes the huge positive life change that flowed for this “tragedy.”

Do you keep inspiring stories such as these handy for yourself? From published accounts, those of friends and some from your own life? Please comment and share some! Doesn’t it feel wonderful to inspire one another?

Collaboration with Readers

The author wants to respond to concerns and questions from readers. Do you have a circumstance about which you could use a hand shifting your point of view? Please comment with your suggestion or question. Together we are creating a more satisfying journey! Really please ask for what you would like to know to shift your thinking!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.

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