Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

October 20, 2020
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Give the Benefit of the Doubt

We are all under so much stress these days. Isn’t it easy to find ourselves frustrated with the behavior of others? “They should not behave that way,” so easily pops into our minds and perhaps out of our mouths. Let’s train ourselves to offer the benefit of the doubt to ourselves and others.

So many of us were judged a lot in our lives—as children and then continuing to our schools and jobs. In fact, we might have noticed that we hear the judging voices in our heads about ourselves. Aha! That might just explain why we formulate negative thinking about another. We see outside ourselves what we are experiencing inside. Oh my! Continue reading

October 1, 2020
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Accepting Our Stuff and Becoming New

We all want to get relief from past hurts. Don’t we love it when we can behave in the present in fresh thinking and feeling good!

Sometimes an opportunity for healing shows up as an incident which kicks up negative emotions.

For starters, let’s accept that we sometimes feel upset. We might bury this, pushing it away, telling stories over it while not feeling it. It has been known to happen 😊.

Instead, we can bring focus to our discomfort and mindfully turn things around. Let’s see if this example provides some useful tools where new results are possible. Continue reading

September 17, 2020
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Creating the World I Want to Inhabit Part II 

Isn’t it great that with being focused at home some of us have more time to become aware of ourselves and to accept ourselves with more openness, less judgment?

We notice, “O, Look I am doing that again. Is that putting forth the atmosphere of the world I want to live in? Uh, not really, I want to shift.” Some may realize that we are more tense and less balanced than we prefer, with the world changing, more time alone than we have had in our lives, less contact with friends. Continue reading

August 25, 2020
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A Story of Soothing Self

Many of us have experienced much judgment on our life’s paths. The habit of judging one another is so prevalent in the culture. Many parents want others to see their children as well performing and well behaved and if the children are not, they take the judgment thoughts as condemnation of their being as well as their child’s.  Work cultures, societal cultures, the examples abound. Continue reading

August 17, 2020
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Brainstorm What You Love

We can offer ourselves a rampage of joy. Who knew? Starting the roll we inquire, “What do I love and Why do I love it?” We can have a blast playing with this process.

Each of us can select a topic about which we have enthusiasm. Some folks have grandchildren—when they get sharing stories of the visits and the antics they light up like a Christmas Tree. Continue reading

July 22, 2020
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Another Illustration of Waking Up

Many of us are eager to learn to wake up more and more to what we are doing with our thoughts. Let’s review this process—always worthwhile since changing habits of thought requires much patient review for our dear selves.  We know habits take a period of time to shift. 😊

Henrietta traveled the path of growing more and more. She was determined to get more power over her experience. H keyed into noticing her feelings more and more. “Hey what is going on with this dip I feel?”    Continue reading

July 14, 2020
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Something Fun

How do we keep ourselves in a good mood? Chilling out and focusing on something fun. Let’s also pull up the outstanding “coincidences” that pop for us and fill us with delight.

True, at times we feel the effects of unwanted events. Why don’t we keep really juicy stories in a special file to remind us of what’s possible? Here’s one worth sharing:  Continue reading

July 8, 2020
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Change YOUR Thought

We might not like the behavior of another person. How could that happen? 😊 We might strategize how to convince him to change. Often this approach is not effective. Who likes to be on the receiving end of that kind of discussion? Let’s consider how to make a change in ourselves that brings some relief.

Aubrey loves to feel affection expressed to her with physical contact. She admits she appreciates that reassurance and her own physical expression. Continue reading

June 30, 2020
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Find More Fun Shifting Our Perception

We invent what we see! Isn’t it good to notice that we can create more fun – even with frustrating circumstances! When we feel lousy viewing some situation or person, let’s recall that we have the power to change how we see that and then shift how we feel. That way we feel good a lot more often and enjoy life more!

Juice of Satisfaction flowed in the following two examples. Find Inspiration! Continue reading

May 28, 2020
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From Self Blame to Self-Compassion

How do you activate compassion for yourself? How do you find it and allow it to flow more and more? Where to begin? This author will offer periodic posts on self-compassion providing guidance with true stories featuring a growing soul who acts more deeply in compassion for self.  Today, read on: two examples follow.

The Self-Blame Tirade

Sometimes we can call ourselves derogatory names in our head. Continue reading

(Mission statement here).