We might not like the behavior of another person. How could that happen? 😊 We might strategize how to convince him to change. Often this approach is not effective. Who likes to be on the receiving end of that kind of discussion? Let’s consider how to make a change in ourselves that brings some relief.
Aubrey loves to feel affection expressed to her with physical contact. She admits she appreciates that reassurance and her own physical expression.
Lately her man has felt a loss of vitality and, accompanying that, he has slowed way down in expressing his affection. He seems to be worrying about something, too.
In response, our star misses receiving that expression. Oh yes, she feels reluctant to “confront the situation” directly to him. Does that “lay it out there” approach assist someone to find more energy with ease? Doubtful. Aubrey kept reviewing the “problem” and it was dawning on her that was a totally ineffective remedy. Really this dear woman would greatly prefer a playful attitude and feeling good!
From the point of view expressed on this blog, what might work better?
At first A knew she wanted to turn her attention to a solution. But again and again she would become aware, “Uh oh, I am letting her mind continue to review the problem while my brain searches for how to fix the problem. I realize I feel sad, empty and frustrated.” I want something else.
That night in her journal Aubrey asked Source for guidance or a sign on how to shift this in herself.
Wow quick results! The next morning our heroine felt drawn to a book she had pulled off her shelf a few days ago not read for years. There it lay at her feet while she sat to meditate, The Sermon on the Mount: The Key to Success in Life by Emmet Fox.
Scanning through table of contents she spotted one that attracted her: “Resist not evil.” Recently, this phrase from this same book had been recently mentioned on a seminar she watched online. She flipped it open and read.
What did this chapter offer in essence? Fox’s spiritual approach to “resist not evil” involves turning the other cheek, turning your complete attention to WHAT YOU DO WANT.
Ok our dear one thought, “I can do that.” There she sat creating a list of what she did want, qualities and behaviors from this companion. Then she made the statement succinct and more focused on the crux of her concern. Soon she typed it, began to repeat it mentally and planned to put in on her mirrors.
The deeper into her new approach she went, the more relief she felt. Phew, our girl had turned over this worry, was surrendering. Know what? She was already successful because SHE felt better!
Usually in this blog the post has the resolution included. This time the situation has not yet shifted on the outer planes. Readers, you are sharing this journey unfolding, a taste of how to live the processes articulated each week. Aubrey already feels so much better.
Want to share a story where you shifted your thinking and got results? Please comment. Please come trust, surrender, breathe and feel the freedom.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at email@example.com to arrange an appointment.
 Emmet Fox, The Sermon on the Mount (New York, Hagerstown, San Francisco, London, Harper & Row, Publishers, 1938) p. 70