Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

A Story of Soothing Self


Flowers Arising, 36 x 38, Acrylic, SOLD

Many of us have experienced much judgment on our life’s paths. The habit of judging one another is so prevalent in the culture. Many parents want others to see their children as well performing and well behaved and if the children are not, the parents take the judgment thoughts as condemnation of their persons as well as their child’s.  Work cultures, societal cultures, the examples abound.


Cantrella has been doing inner work

for over thirty years. She has reached for uplifting the judging thoughts that flow up and run as habits of thought in her head. Over the years she has become aware of more and more of them and sooner. “What a jerk you are for ___________________. Wait a minute! I do not believe that is true about me.” One time it related to how dirty the dish water had gone as she cleaned dishes by hand in the sink. The harsh inner master declared, “You should know to freshen that dish water, You are lousy at doing dishes and attending to household chores. Etc.”

The Incident

Usually Cantrella lives lively and vibrant health. Recently she visited her Naturopath and reported various symptoms around feeling unbalanced, stomach off, a minor malaise. The practitioner labeled the condition in Chinese medicine terms and got busy developing a new herbal formula for her daily dosing. This fellow also recommended some Qi Gong movements. Our star received some body work too and felt worse as the treatment proceeded.

Cantrella paid up and felt a bit draggier leaving than when she had come.

As C rode away in her car, she realized a few things. 1) She felt awful about herself and wanted to be soothed. She wanted the Naturpath to know how to do that. He did not. 2) Our star felt disappointed in him., 3) Ruminating she realized she was projecting. The practitioner had presented the information with clinical care and had not had a judging tone. 4) Cantrella had created her attitudinal hurt and from that she was suffering.

The bodily condition of feeling worse cleared in a couple of hours. After that she felt improved from when she had come to her clinical appointment. The body work had helped quite a bit in ameliorating her discomfort.

Self Soothing

Ok, C awoke to the fact that it was her job to lift her spirits. This dear woman had judged herself, and she reached to turn the mood around. What could she tell herself? Cantrella brainstormed she is:

  • Strong in spirit.
  • Predominantly healthy
  • Already turning this minor blip around.
  • Attuned to feeling a good chunk better.
  • Glad to realize that she is the one doing the judging of herself.
  • Stopping this flow of judgment now 😊.
  • Talented and wise.
  • Regularly inspires herself and others
  • Growing in awareness
  • Learning from this incident
  • Milking it for additional insight.
  • So glad she becomes aware of habits of thought that produce suffering.

Our heroine impressed herself with how well this rampage of self-appreciation worked. Wow she felt majorly better. Worth going through it to feel this boost!

Do you have a tale of how you turned around your self-judgments? Or how you raised your spirits from other kind of hurt? Please comment with it! Your example with raise the others who read this blog.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She has a gift for inspiring others to know themselves compassionately and to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-three-year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl@streamofyes.com to arrange an appointment.










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