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June 29, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Focus for Strength

We all benefit when we read an example of overcoming fear. Isn’t it inspiring when we learn how someone shifted her focus toward what she could do bit by bit? Direct herself toward building strength?

In moments when we feel a trepidation, strong and pulsing, oh my yes, we may want to run or hide.

With practice and commitment, we can put our focus on WHAT WE DO WANT. And move in that direction.

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Janine’s Example

Janine received notice that her current situation for storing her possessions could not continue: she would need to find other accommodations for her stuff. Oh dear! This woman felt a flood of panic and dread. Wow she felt so threatened! Yikes!

To deal with this request represented a lot of work. How would she ever accomplish that? The new plan for storage represented a mini-move that would take some weeks.

Her Approach

J reached for soothing herself. She knew it would involve allowing the strong feelings, fear, insecurity, and more, to pass through her while calling on wisdom and powerful techniques.

A voice inside her spoke, “The beliefs behind this fear are outdated. Last time I got this scared there was not really any danger,” recalled Janine with a smile.

Our protagonist could not shift her strong flow of emotions on a dime. No human can. Let’s all recognize that and make it ok to proceed one breath at a time.

With kindness towards self, when our heroine felt strong negative emotion rising up, she employed these tools from her self care toolkit:

Enjoy walking in nature
Read a novel
Visualize some helpful, protective and loving inner figures.
Ask Inner Guide for next steps
Seek and receive support from friends
Rest and rejuvenate
Appreciate each step as it went well
Focus on what she DID WANT.

As she could, Janine worked her agenda. Each day this dear woman became clearer and more energetic, action by action applying herself to what needed doing.

Before too long friends with trucks volunteered to assist her. She got assistance in many forms. She accepted whatever time it took.

Outcomes

Many folks received some new treasures, charity shops benefited. Space left behind felt more open.

Janine stood tall, basking in her aliveness, more able to take life as it comes. She enjoyed seeing that now she had greater strength in addressing fears as they arise. How satisfying!

Do you have a story when you stood by your commitments, moving through your fears to your brighter future? What worked for you to make that passage? Please comment. Let’s share our wisdom!

June 22, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Affirm What is Wanted in our Body

Do we take advantage of how we can promote the healing of a condition even in how we describe it to ourselves? We are so powerful: it’s impressive! 😊

We attract what we want by not only envisioning a preferred outcome but also by viscerally feeling as good as though we already manifested our dream. When we experience a body blip of some kind, some hurt, illness or condition, we marshal more energetic influence when we bathe ourselves in an inner picture of Well Being.

Be clear in the knowledge that bodily conditions move through. Keep focus on the Force of Well Being pouring around and through you right now.

Maintain Your Eye on The Prize of this Healing.

One Success Story

Jeanie was diagnosed with a condition called leaky gut syndrome. In this circumstance, the body allows food particles to get out of the gut and into the next layer of the body. As a result, the body acts as though it is allergic to all those foods that escape.

J chose a holistic physician and followed the recommended protocol: five different supplements at each meal and a specific food plan based on the food allergy testing.

How did Jeanie talk to herself and others about her condition. At first she tested allergic to many foods. Since she believed in her treatment and ability to heal, she chose her statements about her condition carefully. Instead of declaring, “I am allergic to ___________.” This was not an eternal condition—she would be able to eat it again before too long.

Instead, our heroine stated, “When I was tested last August, I had a reaction to that food but now I am healing my gut and expect to be able to eat it before too long.”

Jeanie complied with her program for one year. At the 12 month mark, this dear woman was tested for allergic reactions: results showed that all but one of the long list of foods was ok to enjoy again! Jeanie had healed her gut!

If we have something in our bodies we want to shift, let’s not talk about it like it will always be true! Instead, use our awesome personal power to bring on the condition we want to experience.

Another Illustration

Margie had a leg condition which made it hurt when she took a step. Facing this, M wanted to find some aspect to put her focus as she went through her day, a way of paying attention that was not complaining or reviewing unwanted.

Margie got out of her car and said, “I am able bodied! I walk around on my own steam.”

She engaged in a healing strategy combining a body work and Chinese herbs. Together she returned to walking with ease before too long.

As we follow this path, we can expect to have moments when our habits of thought pop up. Oops we find ourselves thinking/saying, “What a pain this is!” or “I want to feel better right now!”

We are kind to ourselves and make it ok to have reactions, pain and grumps. Then we can inspire ourselves again by reaching for statements that serve us even better.

Do you have success stories demonstrating how you have healed yourself? Do you have questions about how to empower yourself as you allow healing to unfold? Please comment! What you say matters to you, to me and to all of us!

June 15, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Caring for Loved One with Dementia

Some of us will find ourselves in a position to care for a loved one who is suffering from dementia. What insight and strategy are available to us in light of perspectives in this blog?

The dementia sufferer may complain a fair bit, not appreciate much of anything or anyone, behave non responsively. How can a caretaker care for self under those circumstances?

In such a situation there lies particular incentive to focus on ourselves with love and care. What an opportunity to deepen our training on looking for Good more and more wherever we look.

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What Some Caretakers Do in Looking for Good

Lara was caring for a family member, yes. She also ran a thriving acupuncture practice. L tuned into each client and greatly enjoyed the process of treating them and observing each to feel better upon leaving.
Candace talked kindly to herself during her day. She provided food for herself that she relished. On her break she went outdoors and relished her nature the natural environment around her.
Remi affirmed, “The sun continues to shine behind every cloud.” And “Source has my back.”
Marlene made it ok to feel her hurt or discouragement in some moments. It was so understandable. Sometimes she reached into her toolkit and reminded herself of what she appreciates about herself.
Darla saw herself as a duck with a greased back: negative comments could roll off her back not affecting her. Using this inner picture, our heroine more easily did not take negative asperions personally.
Applying the advise in this piece over months, Ella focused on what she enjoys bit by bit and testifies now that it feels like she has a different life– even a different husband! She experiences tremendously more fun– this stuff works!

Of course we can apply of these approaches if we choose. When we embody Good, we get so many pay offs. We are then able more readily to appreciate and focus on what we want, living our life with more joy.

Embodying Good has so many pay-offs. This is just your excuse for getting better at appreciating and focusing on what you want and living your life with more joy.

Do you have a success story from caring for someone like this? Each of your positive thoughts brings light to the world– thanks for yours and isn’t that wonderful to know!

June 7, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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A Relaxed Second Look

We are in charge of our perceptual lens. What we see and how we interpret what we see is entirely subject to our assumptions, the way we think.

If we judge something with a quick glance, and decide it is not up to our standard, we can miss out. Perhaps we can get pay off in taking a second look when we feel better and then making a second survey.

Part I

Jamelia was led to realize the truth of a Second Survey with two incidents flowing to her within an hour one morning.

In the past several weeks Jamelia had put one candle aside due to frustration with its wick “disappearing.”

Where was the wick? For a moment she wondered.” Have I wrecked a perfectly good candle? Grrr!” J persisted in this rescue effort for awhile and then woke to the fact that her efforts were coming to naught. She made the choice to put it aside.

This fine morning Jamelia pulled out this piece of paraffin. She felt happy and relaxed and took another look at the glim. One glance down and easily J saw that that black smear was the wick. Oh. In less than a minute our star had adjusted the wax light resulting in a working candle. Success! Wow with her perception was calm and clear, her power was regained and her task was so easy. Interesting lesson!

Part II

Jamelia had a recent date, got emotionally wound up. J corresponded with another man and admittedly had buttons on alert with this second man, Tim.

Tim wrote about feeling excited about their connection. As she read the recent missive, she felt nervous because she did not feel as strongly as he sounded. Uh oh, our heroine started to get out of balance again.

Jamelia took her attention to resting and breathing. Then she pulled an oracle card—the point of which conveyed that we all have divergent feelings inside ourselves—we can make them all ok.

This dear woman realized that her correspondent was free to have lots of feelings, and they were not a threat to her. “Oh my, I see I started to think his emotional reactions were my responsibility. And if I don’t feel the same, I am causing suffering. No, he is experiencing his richness inside. I am free to feel inside me.”

Following this insight, J reread his note to her, and calmly and interpreted it quite differently. When she let go of feeling self-blame, she breathed easier and enjoyed his message more. More reward for a relaxed second look!

Do you have a comment or a story to share? Please comment! We inspire one another!

June 1, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Feeling Discouraged: A Wake Up Call

What a wonderful thing to come into our personal power more and more each day! This journey will involve our noticing what annoys us. Grr!

As we live in more awareness, we recognize that what shows up reflects something in our energy. Certainly, we are creating how we react to what crosses our path. Yes, we are taking charge of how we perceive what is there before us—we can take a reading from the navigational dashboard of our life—and make course corrections.

We don’t take as truth every habitual thought that passes through – nor do we take these feelings as reflecting “who we are.” No! If we feel less than good, our state is pointing out past thoughts we may want to clean up..

A Story from Adele

Adele attended the meeting of her supervisor and his direct reports. At Adele’s check in, she mentioned how she felt tired.

Later, her colleague Gwen told the boss that with that assertion Adele was implying to her colleagues that she worked harder than all of them. In reaction, the boss then cautioned Adele to watch how she spoke at these meetings. Our star felt misunderstood and disheartened by this exchange.

Adele consulted a friend on the path of active evolution. That person offered:

“Whatever we feel is ok—your discouragement is ok.”

“Your feelings showing up are unwanted — what do you want?”

“You want to please your boss and colleagues. You want those outside you to show you respect”

To get the respect of others, first we may need to respect ourselves more.

“How to do that? What can we list of what we have accomplished that pleases US, qualities that serve us well?

Adele’s friend reminded her:

Last year A had managed a huge project where she assisted in the design of a new building, an significant expansion, plans for the move, including the move itself to that site. More than a year later the results exceeded every prediction of success by 50% and more. Further, her skills and confidence grew enormously. There were so many rewards to reap.

This dear woman can review this story to rev up her self respect. And in the way of things she will then attract more honoring from others. Adele did feel better as she reviewed her own accomplishments. A shift of her focus helped a lot! We have that personal power!

Want to share a story where your feelings woke you up to what shifts you could make inside? Please comment! We love being inspired.

May 25, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Trusting Ease

So many of us have been told that trying hard is recommended. Working hard is rewarded. What if we relax into doing what we really enjoy?

What if we smile and do what is easiest and beloved by us? Trust that what we want will work out “on its own.” This formulation is so counterintuitive to many of us.

A Reminder Comes to Marigold

Marigold runs an online meeting every couple of weeks.

Recently she noticed a phenomenon on her schedule. She had a long scheduled eye doctor appointment on the same afternoon as her internet gathering. Hmm.

Our star saw the two appointments, one before the other and kept going. She thought, “ No problem.”

The time approached and she did stop to think about it a bit more. This dear one thought, “Hmm there was some travel time involved. It could get close. I will ask another group member to start the meeting without me.” So she did that.

On this matter Marigold felt supported and upbeat.

Then the day of the meeting arrived. M had second thoughts prompting her to call the eye doctor practice.

The administrator heard her ask, “I know this is wild and crazy. I have a 2:15 appointment—is it possible to come earlier today?”

Response: “Well as a matter of fact a person just cancelled at 1:45 pm today. Would you like that slot?”

Marigold, “Oh wow yes please. That would be perfect!”

And so the two meetings flowed in excellent timing.

Conclusion

Formerly Marigold would have been more concerned about the conflict, done more fretting, called way ahead to see if she could “fix this.” Instead she trusted well being.

Do you have stories of ease to share? Please send them in the comments section. Thanks!

May 19, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Episode of Growth

Isn’t it great how much we empower ourselves as we understand what is behind our episodes of anger or grief. When we take a kind attitude towards ourselves, our understanding and acceptance grow deeper for both our own dear self and for others.

Read about one person’s account of how an uprising of anger toward another catalyzed learning more about herself. She gained more self-love with more choices for behavior going forward.

Cassie and Polly have been friends for many years. Both women are growing, and some friction has developed.

Recently Cassie phoned Polly to ask if she wanted to attend a concert with her. Polly habitually reviews all the factors in order to decide: what would it involve for her, her hunger, her feelings and more.

Cassie does not want to listen to this processing. Yes she had done so in the past, but now she felt anger rise quickly. They began to argue, each defending her position. C pointed out she did not want to attend to Polly’s internal decision making. Polly was not willing to stop doing that. Before too long they ended the call unsatisfied.

Cassie did want to learn what was going on inside herself and in what way she could take more power in this situation. C knew that she did not rely on the other changing so that she could have more calm!

First, she thought she could stop interacting with Polly altogether. End that friendship. Is that what she really wanted? Not really.

Our star was able to get some help with this from someone who was neutral and empowered herself.

Here are some points of perspective that this dear woman received as guidance:

It is ok to have our buttons pushed. When we are growing, we can find ourselves feeling deeply and unexpectedly.
When we are changing mental/emotional habits, we will catch ourselves “doing that thing we do.” It may seem we do it MORE than we did before we decided to change—this is because we have more awareness. Key point: this is part of this process and not something “bad” about us.

Cassie had noticed she used to listen more than she wanted to. She used to feel she had to do that as a friend. Now she no longer wanted to attend that much.

Wow she became aware that she felt shame that she used to “put up with it.” Oh, is self-shaming what fueled the triggered anger today?

Ok this heroine could forgive herself right now for what she did in the past. She could have an exchange with this friend, choose not to listen, and feel calm as she did so. Oh wow.

Tuning in, Cassie felt relief from the anger and better about her situation with her friend. Shifting her thinking about it, forgiving herself, helped a lot. YAY!

This process evidences growing in self-mastery. Do you have some tales to report that inspire us all? Please comment!

May 11, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Palpable Faith

We can listen in wonder to what unfolds in the lives of others and feel interested. Hmm isn’t that great for them. Still we feel at arm’s lengths from that kind of occurrence, it might happen to others, but…

We can like our lives and not feel particularly excited about them. Sometimes we reach for a knowing that this can also be true for us. We want to experience KNOWING it can happen to us, too: a palpable faith.

Here is what happened for one woman recently.

Lauralee was focusing on inner work and was in the process of healing past hurts and putting more of her focus on positives in her life.

For this day near her birthday L scheduled a healing session for her body and also planned to buy herself some birthday treats. Off she went on her day, feeling good.

On the first stop our star chatted with the Dina, the receptionist, as L waited. D had been raised Hawaiian and enjoyed a close relationship with Jesus. Dina deeply felt his presence all around her, and she knew she was protected. Lauralee admired such a faith and wanted that for herself.

L proceeded to many stops on her itinerary. At the tire store treated Lauralee excellently. At a plant store, this dear one found all the items she needed, bought herself a lovely big petunia that was just what she had envisioned.

Rolling on a wonderful mood, spontaneously our star got a hit to take herself for a lamb burger, one of her favorite meals. As she sat with her meal, she noticed a a guy with an army uniform seated nearby.

To entertain herself, Lauralee wondered what he had done recently and how his service had been.

Then in a few minutes he caught her eye and they did began to chat. He had served and now was teaching criminal law at UVA. Lauralee asked him some questions and had fun in her exchange with him.

Back in their own company, she saw him get up and leave. Soon L finished and called for her bill.

“Oh no,” said the waitress, “That gentleman that left ahead of you had covered your bill—he took care of that about half hour ago.”

Our heroine was stunned. Not only did this man pay her check, he had taken that action before the two of them chatted. The staff knew and kept the secret. These “strangers” created a birthday celebration for her–it felt so miraculous—almost beyond belief. How had she attracted a benefactor? He was kind before they even spoke!

Riding home this dear woman realized that she felt so supported by the Universe. At the start of the day with Dina, Lauralee wished to know faith and was gifted with the visceral experience in the next several hours.

Wow what a birthday!

Do you want to share a experience which inspired your faith? Do you have other question or thought? Please comment.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

May 4, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Self Talk with Kindness

Most of us talk to ourselves in our heads. Only we know what’s said… do we notice what attitude we take in that conversation? Do we feel good when we are listening to our own inner commentary?

In this post the author offers an example of a possible alternative story to one person’s review of her suffering and frustration. How could this dear heart express herself and find a way to feel better too.

Any human will run the language and thought pattern from our culture unless each has done something to change those formulations.

Let’s read about a kinder possibility. This sort of compassion has great value: we are more empowered on our path of evolution when we support ourselves. And as a result, we increase our ability to show our heart space with others.

Illustration

Aleta was telling a story about how she got so angry and frustrated with herself when doing a project. She had meant for her focus to be on contentment as a topic for the piece she was writing.

This gal reports how triggered she had gotten and how difficult it was to turn off this inner tantrum.

Alternative

Once she realized how she was running a toxic inner atmosphere, what else could Aleta say to herself? She could:

Make it ok to feel frustrated or angry.
Note that she was angry with herself
Become aware she had concerns about what others thought about her
Realize how deep down she felt “not enough” and this incident might prove it.
Recall how this increased awareness is a good thing
Smile at the thought that noticing is the path to changing a pattern for any human. Again a good thing.

Rather than a self-condemnation she can understand she is involved in a growth process that is praiseworthy!

She is right on track?

Is someone reading thinking this: Yea but what about this kind of thinking? What would I do for that?

Please comment and share. This author will be glad to respond to questions.

We live in times of transformation and we will all assist one another.

April 28, 2022
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice the Buzz and Shift

We can have fun noticing “every day” miracles, outcomes we want that give us a boost of pleasure. It is particularly satisfying when we shifted our thinking and got a desired result. As we practice, we focus easily.

Daria admired a man online and did some flirting. In this world of internet dating, she had connected with Mr L a few months ago, they had a few phones. Mostly they texted. Thousands of miles distance daunted the thoughts of meeting in person for another chunk of months.

D liked this man from the notes and phone calls. When Mr L announced he was going to do a project in Italy for months she clearly stated, “I am going to continue to date online. Since I have not met you, I will keep interacting with other men. This seems like the sane response,” she told him.

D enjoyed his brief texts and mostly did not initiate messages. Why not write him? One day he asked her. Immediately the words came up. “I do not want to attach to a phantom.,” she said.

Weeks turned into months. She interacted online and she noticed that the qualities she saw in Mr L pleased her more than those of many fellows who lived much closer.

Daria continued to reach for feeling good as her highest priority. This protagonist focused on developing more clarity and love. One morning she realized she felt a yearning to hear from Mr L; he had not texted for two weeks.

Yearning? What was this? That was not feeling good. What was going on with her? She sat and made some declarations to herself. This heroine brought forth her power to feel better now. Daria was:

Composed of love, and D loved herself.
Completely loveable and this dear woman would attract love whether or not Mr L wrote or did not write.
Strong and our star focused on being stronger. Yes, she attracted love and Yes, she could feel good right now.

Then Daria released the issue and proceeded with agenda for her day.

Within 4 hours, D heard a ding on her phone, incoming text. Mr L had written, her desired outcome. “Oh cool! Prompt result!” thought our heroine.

Point: Daria shifted her thinking away from the adolescent yearning and away from trying to make something happen in an earth plane way.

This person turned it over to Source Energy and got her result—and fast.

Want to report an account where you got clear and then got what you wanted? Please comment.