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May 29, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Recognize our Self Put Downs

So many of us are becoming aware of how deeply Good we are as humans. Ernest Holmes asserts,

“There is a Power operating through me, a Presence inspiring, guiding, and sustaining me. Upon this Power, I place my reliance. In this Presence I feel myself to be an outlet of immeasurable Good….

I am conscious that there is an Infinite Wisdom directing me. Whatever I should know, I will know….and because of this Infinite Intelligence that is mine and within me now, I am compelled to recognize my Good.”[1]

Unfortunately portions of the culture around us have not integrated how Good we are. Instead, many of us have been raised with the thoughts and feelings of being flawed and fears that we have done something wrong.

Awake to a Casual Comment

Katie has pursued her own transformation of thinking for most of her life. Recently in a small tour of a master’s garden, K overheard a man fretting over whether or not his butterfly weed plants attracted “enough” butterflies. He put forth that his plants brought fewer butterflies into his garden than did his neighbor in her yard. He was concerned.

“Oh my, “ Katie silently exclaimed in her head, Mel is putting himself down over how many butterflies he attracts!”

Our star K spoke up, “You are a Good person! You were a Good person before you planted butterfly weed and remain so no matter the number of these lovely insects your plants attract!”

We might mentally tell ourselves something like this if we do not pay attention. What a mental hygiene practice worth shifting!

K imagined this self-talk for Mel, “I love my butterfly weed plants. Every butterfly in my yard is one we are helping to thrive and one that enriches me. Aren’t I fortunate to assist any such creatures!”

Let’s wake up and be kinder to ourselves. Let’s notice these silent judgments of ourselves and appreciate more and more of our positives instead.

Self-put-down thoughts and “Am I enough” worries constitute part of our inner chemistry. Let’s shift this tone as we recognize it and clear that toxic inner environment bit by bit.

Have you been making progress in your unfolding? Please share a story that inspires us all.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

[1] Holmes, Ernest, 365 Science of Mind Reader ( New York: Jeremey P. Tarcher/Penquin, 2001) p.153

May 22, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Progress in Self Support

We are becoming more and more awake to what we are thinking and to how that feels. We love when we feel good.

With momentum on feeling good more and more, Good flows to us in a myriad of ways. We realize more and often frequently, “Oh my, I am blaming myself again,” or “Oh dear, I am finding fault with someone outside myself. “

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These kinds of changes are at the core of moving to the next step in our evolution.

Bruce Lipton, well known author of Biology of Belief[1] and internationally known speaker, tells us that 95% of our time we operate from subconscious programming. Living in the now, we will wake up and, “Wait I don’t want to be doing that or saying that– I am catching myself in the habit.”

Then we have a choice point: Will I blame myself for repeating a habit I want to shed? Or Will I cheer myself on for noticing that I want to shift what I just thought or said? I have certainly increased my consciousness. I can see my progress and make some right now.

Read a story how one woman shifted away from a habit to a more supportive view.

Illuminating Account

Laney realized her favorite boots were no longer comfortable.

“Bless me, apparently my feet are expanding a bit at this stage of life. The boots I have used for the last five years are no longer comfortable. My toes hit the front—today they feel too short. I had thought I would make do with them until recently when I came home from a hike with a big toe ache that lasted a day or so. Yuck!” L awoke to the fact that she now requires a bigger size.

Our heroine continues, “Inside I started to get upset about this. And I realized, ‘Wait a minute I am blaming myself for needing another pair. Did I do something bad? I should have…. Hey, I have the money, I can order online.’

Whoa! SHIFT! Why not make it ok to need a bigger size. My feet spread. Oh well. I can skip this self-scolding. What if I simply accepted that my feet expanded, and I need new boots.

I ordered them, they came, they fit. they are comfortable.”

Not all of us would scold his or herself for this. On the surface it seems so simple.

Laney found it an important new choice in thinking. She thought, “When I skip the self-deprecating thinking and then concomitant emotional upset – it is akin to finding space in a formerly cramped closet. Life is so much more enjoyable! and EASY. I can say WOW. That is a life I want. I love that I let life be easier.”

Let’s be aware: the building of new habits will involve us noticing that we just said (or thought or did) something that we used to believe …and now we are back and remembering we have more power.

We need lots of repeating the new pattern: we make it ok to notice what we were was just doing. We say to our dear self , “Good going… I returned to present time! I remember another way to think!”

Rejoice! Isn’t it great that we are learning and progressing! I am learning– this is what waking up looks like!”

Do you have a story about your process to shift your habits of mind? Please comment. Be part of all of us creating more fun!

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[1] Lipton, Bruce, The Biology of Belief (Santa Rosa, CA, Mountain of Love/Elite Books, 2005)168

May 14, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Calm Fear

Let’s develop the skill to soothe ourselves when we feel a fear reaction. There is so much pay off to do so. When we skip fear or switch out of it, we remember how much Good is always flowing.

In this illustration Marlo calms a fear and then is able to reap the benefit of the Good that follows.

To Begin

Marlo loved showing her art. This story begins as she begins to hang the show at a showroom venue. The show will hang in three rooms. In one of the rooms the wall offered no art hanging feature. The venue coordinator informed her that she would have to use one of the 3M Adhesive products from the Command Damage Controlling Line.

Our heroine is not familiar with these products and does not consider herself handy. The opening was the next day. Suddenly, Marlo felt fear at an early stage.

Receiving instructions to go to a nearby store, M went off to acquire needed product. This dear woman bought something, her best guess of what was available, came back. The item’s adhesive was not strong enough. Our star got more anxious.

Marlo turned to another venue staff, Elise, to request assistance. At first that Elise grumbled, “I thought you knew how to hang art shows.” M’s jaw tightens and she reaches for composure.

Signs of Solution

In another few breaths, this second staffer remembered a solution that worked in a past exhibit. E agreed to put in hooks along the window frames by tomorrow for the use of our dear one.

Filled with unease, M left and stopped to get an additional 3M product that she thought might work– in case she needed it.

Awareness of Inner Life

At home over night, M cried, “OMG the exhibit opens tomorrow and is not yet complete!” She called a friend for support.

While sharing, this protagonist felt calmer, then she had a clearer thought: the gallery staffer will put in those hooks as she committed. Elise wants the opening to go well and look good.

Marlo awoke to her own thought stream: she scared herself by envisioning things going badly.

Once those hooks are in place, the remainder of the display is easy to assemble. For heaven’s sake, M could trust Good to flow.

Resolution

The next day M texted the coordinator to check whether the hooks were in place and ready for the hanging solution. They were!

Midday our star went to finish the exhibit and all went well. In fact, she got additional unexpected assistance to get the show in place. Near opening start time, yet more help came her way to fit more photos on the walls.

For part of a day, Marlo had blinded herself from seeing that the problem was being easily solved. She had gotten afraid. Meanwhile Good was right there, assistance came quickly in unexpected forms

Won’t it be helpful for each of us to notice what we are feeling? Then when we notice our own perspective clouded with upset, we can pause till calm returns. It is so worthwhile to find balance before drawing conclusions or acting on what appear to be problems.

We can trust Life more than we formerly believed!

Do you recall some incident from your life where something similar happened? Want to share? Please comment! We uplift one another!

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May 7, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Aligning with Wholeness Facilitates Healing

Louise Hay tells us that a change in attitude represents a key to heal bodily conditions[1]. We have all experienced parts of our body not functioning as designed to operate. To return to full health we must address not only the body but mind and spirit.

We use medicines, allopathic, homeopathic; western medicine, energy work, herbs and more. In our wisdom we bring our thoughts and feelings in alignment with the Forces of Good– feeling Love, seeing the wholeness, basking in ease.

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An Illustration

When Melanie was in her 40’s, she worked hard at a job in business. Over a period of years now and then M experienced fatigue of a “virus.” M experienced no respiratory or digestive symptoms– she felt exhausted with general malaise.

In those days our star could let it all go when she was ill. She “had to” spend in bed and rest.

M started to know she got relief from stress through these times of bed rest.

At that time this time of repose adjusted her perspective and healed toward more balance.

Below are some remarkable stories illustrating this point:

1. Appreciate What Works

In 1966 Catherine Ponder published her book The Dynamic Laws of Healing. This book offers many stories of dramatic healing from a shift in attitude.

In one account under the subtitle “How Praise Heals” this author reported that a woman who had failed to get relief from her doctors came for a session. After listening to the client’s long list of woes, Ponder asks the woman to tell her something that was going well with her. That client did not itemize any condition.

Catherine persisted pointing out that the woman had walked into her office, was not bedridden, was apparently seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching. The client responded after some contemplation– her right little finger was perfect.

The counselor told the woman to go home and focus on the perfection of her little finger, to praise its health, to give thanks for Life and refuse to think of her ills. In three days the patient returned and felt better in her whole hand. The client continued to see Catherine and before too long the list of healthy parts grew and grew.[2]

2. Help from Abraham Hicks Teachings

I happened to view a video segment dated 1993 from an Abraham Hicks seminar. In it a female participant told Abrham this story. In her recent past she had been given a diagnosis of cancer. Spurning medical care, she went home and immersed herself in the Abraham teachings (reading this blog offers the essence of the Abraham message.) In a few months she was found to be completely cancer free.

3. A Focus on Acts of Kindness Creates a Miracle

A fellow had had a serious bout with cancer, got to a point where the doctors had no more treatments for him. Already in a wheelchair and wanting to make the most out of his remaining life, the protagonist decided to focus himself on doing random acts of kindness. The man threw himself into it, relishing the work.

A year later this dear soul received tests for his malignant stomach cancer. They showed him to be cancer free. The doctor declared the MRI results could not be explained by western science. So happy with his work that man infused himself with Well Being!

Man’s Cancer is Healed After Doing Random Acts of Kindness for a Year

4. Thoughts to Remember

a. We have awesome power available to use for bringing ourselves back to balance: align our inner state to that of love, peacefulness and Joy. Lets’ bask in this!

b. We are wise to notice on what our attention is focused– our health depends on it.

Want to share some tales of how focusing your mind was part of your regime to heal a condition? Please know how your story contributes to the health of all of us! Thank you for telling us about it.

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[1] Hay, Louise, Heal Your Body (Santa Monica, CA: Hay House, 1988) p.1

[2] Ponder, Catherine, The Dyanmic Laws of Healing, (Marina del Ray, CA: DeVorss &Co, Publisher, 1966) 99-100.

April 30, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Deeper Learning on Self Love

As we proceed with our growth, we will encounter situations which flush up outdated programming. As we process this “stuff” we love ourselves more deeply and become clearer, stronger and more free.

The Incident

Marlana was grocery shopping, enjoying some samples as she picked up staples. As she munched, M cried inside, “Oh my, I cannot align my jaw. Something is wrong.”

This dear woman walked through the store, noticing that the wrongness in her mouth persisted. Then she then headed for the ladies room. M took a look, found to her relief that her crowns were still in place. Regarding her jaw she knew Well Being abounding would take care of things and soon her eating would feel right again.

Within the hour Marlana arrived home, ate lunch and felt an easing in her mouth. Then she realized in horror, “My mouth feels aligned again. Oh my, I think the crown has come out. I need to call the dentist.” The dental office scheduled M an appointment for the next morning.

The Reaction

Like lightening Marlana’s feelings spiked into self-blame: She had not stopped to do something to preserve the crown.

Immediately, our heroine felt just awful. Inside, she continued to review her “crime” of not waking up to the “saving” in time to succeed there. Meanwhile, Marlana did love the feeling of relief in having her jaw feel right again.

The Recovery

The dentist gave Marlana the choice whether to replace the crown. That day she realized her suffering resulted from the self-blame. “Wait a minute,” our heroine exclaimed, “I want to feel good again and enjoy my life! I must forgive myself and I know where to turn.”

She prayed for assistance first to feel better and also to get clarity on whether to go for the crown.

A long time girl friend, Zee, telephoned M to get help with an upset. Zee’s husband had insulted her in a manner he had previously. That dear one reached out to Marlana for rescue. As Marlana soothed Z, M got benefit too.

Zee listened and did not perceive anything worthy of blame in M’s actions. In a couple of minutes, the women were laughing at their situations.

With curiosity and purpose, Marlana perused books that remind readers how to summon divine protection and love.

M awakened to how her own review of her “transgressions” fueled her awful feelings. “Oh my,” the dear one smiled at herself, “I want to stop doing that. Better fill my mind with positive thoughts of myself!!”

Our star made lists of what value she added to this world, her strengths, talents, etc.

This heroine enjoyed her dance, yoga, walks, friends.

By the second day, this protagonist had strengthened her resolve to accept herself and knew that she would proceed to get the crown. With introspection, Marlana recognized how blind she had been to seeing her Good when she felt so troubled.

Take Aways

When we feel flooded with angst, make it ok to feel awful.
When we notice our negative feelings are filling our consciousness, those emotions will require some time to dissipate.
We can feel compassion for the dear inner self who is suffering.
As we become aware, we can cease reviewing what we judge as “bad actions.”
We are not defined by our feelings. We are not “bad”. Unhappy moments are ok.
Thinking “I am bad” shows us that in that moment our perceptions are distorted and misleading. .Best not to act when self blame is disguised as “truth” in our heads.
So many texts for lifting our spirits are around us—they help us remember: Source Energy has our back!
What relief to feel good again!
Actually we can increase the depth of self love through such experiences! Processing unwanted leads us to feeling stronger and livelier!

Do you want to share a dramatic learning story of yours? We would benefit from sharing your journey and insights.

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April 23, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Healing Self Blame

So many of us blame ourselves in harsh and hurtful ways. Hey those statements are NOT TRUE. The inner attitude of shaming damages us further; it adds no value. Self Blame represents a habit of thought that many of us are changing now.

Learn how the change happens. Awaken to the bit by bit steps and the enormous progress it constitutes.

Below one story of releasing the grip of self blame bit by bit, getting to more ease.

The Incident

On April morning Lily backed her car into another vehicle parked askew in the driveway. Oh my! She had come out of the house feeling rushed and irritated. At impact this heroine flooded with panic and self blame. L wanted to handle this in balance and ease—soon it became clear that no she felt deeply upset.

This heroine notified the owner, exchanging information, etc. A neighbor said, “These things happen. It will be ok.” That wash of kindness over her felt really good, highlighted against her inner horror.

Later that morning at yoga class L’s friend shared how she had an embarrassing fender bender in her own driveway, the friend’s car hit the husband’s truck. Lily felt some relief as she got a glimpse of a bigger picture, one where she realized others on occasion experienced such blips as hers.

Aware of what her mind was doing our star noticed her mind kept reviewing the incident, hearing the crunch sound,blaming herself and calling herself stupid.

Lily took time to dissipate these strong emotions. The yoga helped. The self-blame reaction did not stop immediately.

The book by Cherie Huber entitled There’s Nothing Wrong with You, brought a bit of soothing. This volume described how prevalent this running of self-hate is in our culture and how many easily feel fear. Lily found comfort in knowing her reaction was so much a part of a larger cultural habit of thought, so common to many.

Gratefully, Lily was able to picture Guardian Angels, Michael among them, close by and touching her. Through that lens she remained worthy and lovable. :) By the evening of that first day she felt more accepting of herself.

On the second day after the accident L started to have fun again. Hey Lily became awake to the fact that she was the one creating such a painful reaction. “Hey,” L cried, “I can stop doing that!” Reaching for connection to Unseen Good was working!

This protagonist saw, “Wow these self -judging thoughts are so active in me. I want to run my life with a kinder, more compassionate attitude starting today.”

Two weeks later she was experiencing more calm and balance. In those first hours, Lily had not pictured any good coming from this contrasting episode. Before too long, the gain in self-awareness produced very important insights that continue.

Hooray for the clarity to commit to more self love. How wonderful to dedicate herself to this! Perceiving what she can do feels marvelous. Knowing how much like other humans is she also soothes her.

Do you have a story of self- forgiveness to share? How we let go of attitudes and recover makes powerful medicine to share. Please comment.

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April 16, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Thoughts We Choose

We are building our awareness of ourselves: thoughts, words and deeds. The more awareness, the more empowered we become. That feels so good.

When we feel an upset, what is our reaction? Is this response aligned with the Forces of Good. Does it feel like a boost and promote Well Being? Below another story to illuminate the empowerment process.

The Story

Katelyn, one of five children, learned that one of her siblings suffered a fall. The 66-year-old brother Pete seemed most vulnerable of her family, a man living with autism and Parkinson’s disease, residing in an excellent group home.

In the last two months Pete’s accodemt damaged one of his legs. He was briefly hospitalized and then received physical therapy as his residence stepped up to provide what services he needed.

Katelyn got frightened for Pete. Immediately she monitored his situation, visited, and increased her communication with him.

K brought her response to Pete’ story to a counseling session. “I notice I am telling myself now that ‘Life is fragile.’ As I scan my self-care regime, I notice my fear that I might fall, that my balance is not good enough. Life is so fragile!”

The Counselor

The Counselor asked, “Is your life more fragile because your brother took a tumble?”

No in fact life is not more insecure. You just got scared.

Moving forward, let’s lay out some messages for yourself that encourage what you DO want.

Law of Attraction tells us that on what we put focus attracts what we get. Wow.

‘Life is fragile.’ Do we want the results of a fragile life? No! Of course not.

Instead, how about this kind of statement: ‘I am becoming more balanced and stronger.’

With a broader view what else has come from this happenstance for Pete?

He has more kindness flowing to him, more connection in his home and with his siblings.

Now you can put attention on how much is going well, your own power and resilience, and the excellence of your self care.”

Katelyn: “Yes I feel that shift inside myself. I pay attention to my strength and how much I am growing. I thrive now.”

Please share your own wake up story. We benefit from the wisdom we acquire on this path.

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April 9, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Awake to the Beauty Around Us

Let’s relish the beauty all around us. We can appreciate unanticipated delights. Here are some examples in which to bask and recall our own treasured vistas.

Example One

Early one morning Ernie took a quick look out his window.

The light was rising; the sky was clear; a brightening, pleasant unremarkable scene.

In a few minutes E felt an impulse to turn his head back to the window. Gazing, Ernie’s breath caught in astonishment. The horizon line was bright with oranges and yellows. As his eyes rose, he beheld layers of color, purples in stripes, all through the clouds. The sky was completely infused with color. It flabbergasted him!

Example Two

About twenty years ago Ned readied for his commute. Our star took a quick glance out the window, a fine day, lovely if unremarkable morning light. Soon after, N stood at his car scraping windshield ice. Ned felt a pull to look up to the heavens. Wow! Ablaze before him the hero gazed, mouth open at glorious sky: a sunrise brilliant with strong mauve, oranges, yellows and pink. These colors were intense and vibrant. The vista was so unexpected…

This protagonist had no idea what delight was in store. There had been no sign.. So much Grace.. That fabulous events show up without warning.

We feel can reach for feeling good and to perceive the bounty offered. We can attract delightful experiences of all kinds.

Example Three

Ben drove the main road to the nearest city where there were more businesses, classes and more. One December morning B came upon a familiar scene: a large field, barn and trees behind. On this day there was a fog and the view was one of awesome beauty. In Ben’s head he heard, “Stop and take this picture!”

He pulled over, grabbed his camera and started to shoot. Infused with awe, B took pictures effortlessly.

Months later Ben accepted an opportunity to submit photos to a calendar contest run by the local monthly paper. A new activity, he picked out a few shots and recalled this one and included it. That submission won and was featured on a monthly page. The whole atmosphere around this picture felt like grace.

Take Away:

Look around for beauty and find it!

Know surprises await you in many forms.

Feel satisfied and be ready.

I would dearly love to hear some of the wonderful things that arrive to delight you. Please comment.

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April 2, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Self-Compassion Worth It!

As we practice new habits of thought, let’s be kind to ourselves along the way. We humans require process, practice, time in order to shift our patterns of thinking especially about how we talk to ourselves!

Let’s make it ok to be just where we are at any moment. We may realize we are spewing unproductive self-talk that limits and shames us.

In this post an everywoman catches herself coming from an outdated premise and judges that in herself. Then she opens herself to a better alternative.

Heidi’s Story

Heidi consulted a wise and respected friend.

H shared, “I am very upset. I caught myself taunting the man I am dating by asking him if he was running home to his girlfriend. Now I see I did not have the courage to tell him I want him to be exclusive with me.”

Heidi felt distraught and ashamed of her words to her male friend.

Dixie, the advisor, wants H to experiment with an alternative to shaming herself.

Advisor’s Response

D reports, “In Good Morning, I Love You the author Shauna Shapiro points out the chemical effect in our beings when we trigger shame. Shauna writes, ‘When we feel shame, the amygdala, the part of our brain that is central to memory, decision making and emotional responses, triggers a cascade of norepinephrine and cortisol chemicals. That chemical soup increases our stress level, narrows our perspectives and perceived ‘threats’ and inhibits our cognitive flexibility. Shame puts in the fight, flight or freeze survival response, thereby inhibiting the learning center of the brain… If we want to learn from our mistakes, we need a compassionate mind set, not shame. “[1]

Heidi inquired, “What could I say to myself that would be more constructive?”

Trusted D continued,

“First let’s understand what was going on with you inside. You meant to respect your male friend. You did not want to demand too much from him or crowd him. We can see you were feeling your way to interest him, maintain the connection and the flow.

In this processing, you now discern your own inner desires. You do want more from him—exclusivity, a bit more commitment and closeness, perhaps more frequent visits. You have more clarity about what you want, always a good thing!

A Bright Future

You have a bright future! When you feel ready, you can share with him that which you have learned about your deeper desires. You can accept yourself as you enjoy this companion. It’s ok to know you want something more committed. Will he be turned off when you inform him that you want that? We don’t know until you have that conversation, and you can call the shots.

You can support yourself as you prepare yourself to share more of your heart. You are worthy of your own love for yourself right now.”

Do you want to offer yourself more self-compassion? Do you want to share an account about acting with kindness to yourself? Please comment! We love empowering one another.

[1] Shauna Shapiro, Good Morning, I Love You, (Boulder, CO, Sounds True, 2020) p. 79

March 26, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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A Clearing Self Blame Moment

As we grow in focusing on Good, we flush up past moments of self- blame and clear them one at a time! Hooray! We realize certain self-put- down habits of thought are no longer true and now we want to refocus and align with Good.

That first step of recognizing some negative on self is a success already. We let these irritants come to the surface and then question them. Do I still believe this?

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Second, are these poorer feeling thoughts true to us now? Do we want to shift that habit of thought? For those images that were unkind and limiting, we most certainly DO want to change them.

An Example from Natalie

Natalie lost an item in her wardrobe and spent a day searching, releasing the need to find it, then finding it.

As she sat with all that effort, she recalled her father near to his dying day telling her she was “too hard on herself”. At the time, she felt like that label was a “bad thing,” i.e. that she should not be.

During that search for a piece of clothing, N woke up to what self-talk she had been running. She had been worried that she had made some mistake, of discarding something she did want, and of being too disorganized. “Oh My,” thought N, “Am I too hard on myself? Did I just demonstrate that quality again?” If she was showing that unwanted attribute, then that habit of thought said she had a deep flaw.

Wait a Minute! Let’s Reframe

“I rise to put this story in perspective!” cried Natalie internally.

“So what if I had habit of self-blame in that stage of life! That was a coping mechanism of the situations in which I found myself.”

Our heroine continues, “I had parents who each turned to me for support as. they went through a messy divorce filled with blame for one another. Neither parent ever mentioned wanting to safeguard the feelings of me or my brothers.

Without realizing it each parent asked me to function at a level I could not possibly do elegantly at age 18. For me back then, I did not know how to care for myself lovingly and support parents.

I had been supporting them, stuffing my own feelings. I could not give them what they needed and did not meet my own needs either! Then I felt badly that I did not succeed.”

Accessing Anger

For a moment N tapped into anger at those parents and also that label. “Too hard on myself”

In the present moment feeling that rage felt satisfying. And our star then knew how to champion herself despite that categorization.

“So what if I still harbor some habits of thought that cast me in “lesser” light? I am well along with speaking to myself kindly and in this moment I claim more compassion for the young person who did her best under impossible circumstances. “

At that time no one had ever modeled caring for his or her own dear self. Up to then, no one she had ever met knew how to be supportive while caring for his or her own boundaries.

In present time Natalie flowed with loving understanding for that young woman of her past. N forgave herself and she released that denigrating label.

What a caring and brave person she had been and still is!

Have you uncovered outdated assumption about self and reevaluated them? Have you reclaimed your dignity and cast away past misperceptions? Please share your story—Help us see that we all can do this and how good it feels!

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