Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

December 18, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Composure in the Face of Confrontation

What a glorious moment when we realize we can “protect” ourselves by NOT fighting back. What if instead we strengthen and stabilize our own knowledge of Well Being.

In the moment of a confrontation, we might fill with fear and follow the impulse to defend ourselves. Isn’t that done all around us? We have habits to fight.

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Is that our only choice? NO! Instead, we can face hostile words with composure. What we remained balanced, marshalled our own personal power and forfeited taking the “fight” bait.

The Tale

Geraldine and her partner P have some habits of interacting that are based in anger and fear. For example, P would ask G to do something for him in a commanding voice. G would feel ordered around and not want to be addressed in that tone.

Soon, the exchange would shift into two angry raised voices, hurling of insults and the like.

Geraldine was noticing her own reactions. Becoming more aware of her thoughts and reactions. “Hey,” G exclaimed, “I want a happier life! What are steps I can take to get that? I often list how I want that other person to change, but what can I do?”

Our star acquired some support and crafted some new strategies for interactions with P.

New Response

Geraldine dove into experimenting with responding differently. When P started directing angry accusations her way, she did not react. She chose to remember she was safe no matter what he said and to maintain her calm.

What happens when invectives are thrown and there is no reaction? Interestingly, P was taken aback. He stalled and sputtered. He turned up the meanness of the insults. G stayed calm. He backed off.

Geraldine felt immediate pay off. Whereas with the former approach, she fought and hurled insults. This time she kept her composure and her feelings were not wounded. The fight had no fuel.

Empowered Perspective

This heroine stood up to her own deep fear. Formerly she had thought her safety depended on fighting back. As she supports herself, she succeeds in creating a happier life.

Have you taken a new posture toward a habitual exchange that had been unsatisfying? Let’s share stories and support one another in these acts that take composure and courage.

We can all cut the wires behind those “buttons” in us that get pushed. We claim freedom!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

December 13, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice Our Inner Stories

We are putting focus on finding good bit by bit. Our habits shift. An aspect of this unfolding is observing how we feel.

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Below is an illustration of a protagonist who started to feel uncomfortable and unsettled. As most humans, she gave herself “reasons” and “justifications”. She had feelings which she projected onto what appeared to be “facts.”

We become more alert to what stories we invent and if the content of those tales rings true. (We can discover more Good than we realized!)

Please read on.

The Illustration: Two Parts

Part I

Darnella had been doing some art events and outings with a friend J for a couple of years. She had been invited to some family dinners, included in parties, enjoying one another. During a recent period, the new companion got very busy and joined in fewer excursions.

Darnella saw signs of a waning friendship and felt a bit abandoned. “No big deal,” thought D, “Of course I am fine and will do other stuff. I wonder if I offended her.

As more time passed the heroine admitted, “I miss this friend. I wonder what I did wrong.”

Time passed. Darnella moved on, put focus on other things, enjoyed other people and activities.

Pop in her inbox our star had an invitation to do a couple of things with friend J. With surprise, D realized that she had thought she was disliked or left behind. “Wow,” exclaimed D to herself, “I made up that she disliked me. I had projected my past hurts and self-blame onto friend J. Forces of Good are flowing more strongly than I had been letting in!!”

Friend J still welcomed her companionship. D had been incorrect in assessing this situation.

Part II

Mauricia was experiencing some strain and discomfort in one of her legs. Over the years M had healed unusual leg conditions and at times those conditions did reoccur. Here she was again.

In the past she used a practitioner of the work of Moshe Feldenkrais, Movement through Awareness, to learn to use her body in new ways. The concomitant changes allowed M to find a comfortable gait and new patterns for walking. She awakened to know she needed more of that kind of training.

The last time Mauricia interacted with her practitioner, G, she had cancelled an appointment without 24 hours notice. That  therapist had accepted her reasons without charging her. M felt a bit guilty for that.

First M emailed G, no response in four days. Then M thought to leave a voice message (her memory that G did not like texting.) Within 24 hours G responded.

In her life G had lived through many changes and explained what was required to work with her in her new circumstances. Within another day Mauricia created an appointment with G who was delighted to work with her again.

M thought, “All this guilt I felt was not relevant to G. G carried no ill will. My discomfort was from what my being had generated. G was happy I got in touch for more therapy.

Isn’t it good to notice how I can allow more Good to flow to me!

Do you have any questions? Do you discern how we get pay off when we notice our own mindset and uplift it? What stories can you tell to inspire us? 

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

December 2, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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See as the Forces of Good See

We have been trained by our culture to judge others—look for qualities we don’t like, for rule- breaking etc. Many avoid admitting their fear because it is an undignified quality—not respected and makes us vulnerable.

In order to grow more self-awareness and personal power, we will want to notice when we feel uncomfortable. We want to allow ourselves to know when we feel fear, guilt, shame.

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We notice we feel other than good. These discomforts tip us off that a habit of thought is operating in us. With practice, we know we can shift those bit by bit.

Let’s make anything we feel ok, even interesting tho perhaps uncomfortable. In that gaze inside, can we take the stance of our innocence, view ourselves as a deeply loving figure would?

The Fear Reaction

Meryl was following one teacher on line and enjoying the inspiration and growth the woman sparked inside her. M listened to one podcast recently, and she admits she got triggered off.

Amidst the tension, M perceived the teacher seemed to be deviating from her key message: encouraging the listeners to do inner work, reaching past hurts and acculturations to align more and more with pure love. Instead, this leader appeared to recommend very specific actions from her followers with a warning if he or she did not there would be dire consequences.

Meryl felt a withdrawing and tightness, a fear reaction. She thought, “This is too difficult for me! I want to use my energy in other ways.!” Then, this star pulled back from the speaker. Earlier the leader had crafted messages wanting each “student” to think for his or herself and check out recommended actions with individual personal guidance internally.

Our heroine felt confused, uncomfortable, threatened.

What Next?

What did our heroine do? First of all, M made it ok to feel thrown off her game, to experience all those feelings coming up.

Truth be told, this state did not clear in just one day or two.

Meryl made that ok.

The protagonist proceeded to focus on other activities, ones she enjoyed: eating out, juicy conversations, trips to local beach, gripping novel and more. Additionally, Meryl made lists of people for whom she was grateful to have as friends and M called up her own treasured qualities she delighted to offer the world.

As she did this, the dear woman felt good and happy again.

And after several days when she then put focus on what had troubled her, M could proceed, assimilate what she liked, discard the rest. She felt her own power, ready to move forward. Meryl felt strong.

Resolution

Seeing herself as innocent during this process represented such a fundamentally important first step. In making it ok we know the judging voice is not true. We know that we always have a Loving Figure inside us accepting us throughout our journey of unfolding.

On top, we discover that we are easily able to see others in our life as innocent too and release our judging habits.

Do you want to report on an occasion where you accepted yourself and then were able to shift your thinking? Please share! 

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

November 25, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice the Worry, Then Refocus

We love feeling tip top.  We realize that part of our living we will have times of feeling other than good. When we pause to refocus, we expand, we attract what we want and ALL THAT IS benefits. Perhaps this account from Petra’s life will illuminate this process.

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Petra’s Art Show

Petra had a gig to hang an art show at a venue with high ceilings, walls painted with a color providing excellent background. The setting up process required someone who was agile, preferably tall and good on ladders.

In the past Petra attracted someone to offer the help she needed.

As installation day approached, Petra felt worried and nervous. She thought, “Would the available ladders be sufficient high to allow us to reach the fishline hooks on the ridge, to align the height and spacing of the pieces without great stress? I usually love hanging art shows.”

With the anxiety and stress-out feeling growing bigger suddenly this heroine exclaimed inside, ‘Wait a minute! I want to return to feeling balanced and good about this art show. How can I get some soothing?”

P reached out to a man recommended for the task who could not commit to her job. Interestingly, this dear woman felt much calmer once she spoke with him, even though he did not offer to help. She had started the action. Petra began to feel that it would all be ok.

Inspiration Comes

After that call, dear P received an inspired plan. Into her head popped the idea to ask a young tall man who vends at the farmer’s market and who had been friendly with P for many months.

Our protagonist fueled her inspiration with Abraham Hicks recordings as she headed to the market. As this star approached his stand, in his joy he chanted Petra’s name! What a welcome! 

She began, ‘If I ask you a favor and you don’t want to, you won’t hate me, will you? Guys just say yes or no, right?’

Petra explained her big ask and offered some healing sessions for he and his wife as balance.

Wow he thought about his schedule, then he said yes.

That next day this fellow offered fabulous assistance to hang the paintings. With long reach, skill and a big smile he whipped those pieces on the wall.  The other helper and P arranged the work, judged wall positions and more. Great team.

Take Away:

Petra wanted to create a lovely display at this venue. When she became aware of her worry, she refocused on how well the installation would go.

The bubble up of tension stimulated a new awareness. P received inspiration, followed a clear path, felt better. Then she attracted all of what she wanted.

Do you have a tale when you noticed, shifted your mood, and got results that pleased you?

Please share! It is so soothing to support one another on our journey.  

Early on the previous artist had recommended a man who she pays to assist. P reached for trust in Well Being to supply a competent assistant who would barter for services rather than require a cash payment. That is what our star really wanted.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

November 19, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Tips on Self Support

When we analyze a situation deciding what action to take, we can face a myriad of factors many of which can be daunting. Oh my! how can we sanely sort through a complicated circumstance?

Track this: we want to think as positively as we can. How can we find balance when events feel overwhelming?

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Wait, are we focusing on what we do NOT want and thereby creating more of that?  Let’s shift that pattern to dwell upon WHAT WE DO WANT thereby, becoming more effective!

Assistance for Tanya

Tanya received some money from her sister, invested it and lost a chunk of it. T blamed herself thinking, “I could have bought a lot with those funds that slipped away! I feel awful!”

This dear woman’s fear about money got stimulated and feelings of hurt came up about past financial projects that did not go well. T felt fear every morning.

So many of us can relate to the habitual response to repeat self-blaming patterns.

We want to change to affirmative cognition!  Our heroine sought help to regain her strength and her knowledge of abundance. For assistance she contacted an advisor.

Enter Wise Counsel

Wise Counsel spoke:

  1. “It’s such good news that you want to clean up the thought pattern that finds fault in you and creates more of what you do not want. How wonderful that you catch yourself! Isn’t it great to be practicing positive thinking and building a trend to attract what you want.
  • Let’s cultivate compassion for yourself. We know you are ok in this moment however you feel.
  • On this human journey, our habitual thoughts require some considerable practice to shift. What a worthwhile undertaking!
  • Appreciate whatever you can. Perhaps you can build in times of the day when you purposely pause to notice what is going well.
  • Flow with what is easiest. And offer yourself plenty of rest in your day.
  • What you are doing is enough!”

Outdated thought: “It is taking me so long!”

In addition, our heroine realized she was on a journey of changing deeply held habits of thought and that shifting these will take some focusing over time. This is what the growth looks like for everyone.

Outdated thought: “I should be giving more service to the world”

When we are feeling frisky, full of life, feeling good, flowing and creating—tuned in, tapped in, turned on—we are giving abundantly to this dear planet.

We are one with humanity and when we thrive, we contribute mightily.

Feeling Success

This protagonist felt great relief as she shifted her thinking. T tasted the ease that is possible. For additional help she received some Jin Shin Jyutsu allowing the release in body, mind and spirit. And she supports herself with the directive; “Keep Going!”

Please share your stories of lifting your own self talk. Do you have a question? Please ask it! Together we are creating a more satisfying journey!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

November 14, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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More “Good” Than We Know

We recall the story from times past of the farmer whose son broke his leg at harvest time. The farmer felt so discouraged and cursed his bad luck.

Then, shortly afterwards, the ruling army rides up to his home seeking maturing sons to fight in the war with enemy forces. The farmer’s son could not be drafted due to his injury. So, the son is left safely at home.

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Sometimes, one event feels disappointing and then through an amazing serendipity (divine grace?) all goes well after all. We get pay offs from maintaining our emotional balance and trusting in Forces of Good.

Account

Netri loved arts and crafts and enjoyed viewing them. N got excited about participating in the artisan studio tour of her geographic area.

Last year our star had enjoyed going with a special female friend, Dena, who organized a day’s trip and drove. N reached out to Dena to ask if she might go with her for this year’s tour. In the first conversation it sounded like, no, this time D had conflicting activities. Then as the event was to start soon, this protagonist reached out and new plans were afoot. They chatted briefly and determined D was now free to do this tour, they set the hour to meet. Netra felt delighted and looked forward to a Sunday drive together.

On Saturday morning, D called N to ask her where she was and that D had been waiting for her. N said, “Oh my, I thought we were going Sunday.” D responded, “No I knew I was freed up to go on Saturday.”  N cried, “Oh I am so sorry for the confusion. Please go out and see the studios. I have a conflict on Saturday morning.”

N realized then that somehow in the planning conversations she and Dena had never stated the day of the rendezvous clearly. Oh my. N felt disappointed. Not only was she stimulated by the event, she valued the companionship of traveling together all day.

Carrying On

On Saturday, Netri did not go down the path of blaming anyone. Instead, she appreciated the uplift in her body and mind from the yoga class she attended. N had a phone call with a distant friend scheduled and enjoyed the catch up including an adventure in healing from a broken hip and replacement.

She focused on looking for good.

Unexpected Rendezvous

On Sunday Netri decided she would go out and view a few artisan studios locally. Our heroine walked in the door to this lovely pottery and gift shop and there was Dena. Surprise!

Dena had attended church and then had headed out to a day of visiting creators of crafts. N asked “Could we figure out how to do this together?”

Soon they determined where to park and leave one car for independent activity at the end of the afternoon.

The two had a good day. They popped in at about 9 studios. Netri soaked up the enjoyment, marveling at her good fortune.

The Universe had granted her wish in such an unexpected way.  This dear woman flowed with gratitude and awe!

Good flows to us when we actively connect with Good.

What tales can you share that demonstrates how this works for you? We love giving and receiving inspiration.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

November 5, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Allowing the Universe to Support Us

Something happens that does not please us. An appliance (in this cases tv) seems to have stopped working, and we miss it. What if we let the “problem” sit for a while and see what happens. Wait for some inspiration around it. There is wisdom in allowing the Universe to help us.

Story

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Hattie lives in an area where no tv signal could be received unless through a cable service. For this dear woman the investment in paid tv did not provide sufficient pay off—most channels offered unsatisfying programming.

She had used her tv to watch movies and shows on YouTube.

One day to her dismay, Hattie discovered that Youtube did not open on her smart tv. Contacting a friend, an electrical engineer, they walked through the problem by phone together.

After about half an hour, the technically fluent pal found that the Sony company had discontinued supporting that smart tv model (about ten years old). Therefore, that friend seemed to indicate that H would need to buy a new tv.

For Hattie purchasing and setting up a new tv was a big project and not one for which she felt well informed, confident and eager. “Yuck,” thought H in her mind. So she asked the Universe for help and let it go.

In 2024 our star had a laptop on which she could watch YouTube programming and did that. She postponed replacing the tv.

Shift

After about two months, an idea popped in Hattie’s mind. A dear friend had installed Roku on her device more than a year ago and she had never used it. “Why don’t I find out what I can watch on that?” mused H.

This gal contacted the buddy who had installed Roku. One evening he volunteered some phone time to investigate what they could activate and discover.

Within an hour, Hattie and friend had set up the tv such that this protagonist could watch YouTube on Roku! She found another avenue to accomplish her goal on the same tv.

That tv was not “broken” as one might have assumed. One feature had ceased to work.

Take Away

In releasing the “problem” Hattie accessed a solution that she could not possibly have foreseen. Instead of rushing out to purchase a new device, she released it, stayed content, let time pass. Then Voila, the Universe provided an unexpected work around! Wow.

A small example to demonstrate that we can remain upbeat and trust Life.

Do you have a story, too, that makes a similar point? Please  comment to uplift all of us!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

October 31, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Eye on Uplift and Strength

Let’s bring more awareness to what we do with our attitude and vibration when we have some kind of physical disharmony.

Most of us have experienced unwanted physical conditions, injuries and the like. At first, we are likely to focus on the actions to take – what to physically do, whether running for antiseptic and bandages or calling for medical professionals. Then when we can settle, we notice to where our thoughts have wandered…. and remediate when those thoughts don’t feel good.

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A Look at Dorothea’s Approach

Dorothea’s leg felt heavy, a recurring condition for her. In her case no immediate medical intervention was needed.

Fortunately, our star was not experiencing pain. Still, D required some concentration to recall Well Being Pouring Down Around and Through.

She could feel habitual questions in the periphery of her mind. “What caused this?” “What did she need to do?” With those thoughts she would feel anxiety, worry, inadequacy.

Instead, Dorothea wanted to bask in her Faith that All was Well. Appreciate how well she still felt, how she took her daily walk easily and worked well at her part time gardening job.

Yes in her past, our heroine had behaved like many do in our culture: We notice a condition, we judge it – perhaps “not good”, we feel upset, we review it a lot.

Alternatively, D wanted to soothe herself and put focus on enjoying her life.  What can I appreciate right now even with this heavy leg?

Dorothea envisions, “Hey what beautiful weather, sunny skies, moderate temperatures! I use my free time to pursue creative expression; I bask in many chrysanthemum’s blooming, a vase of multi-colored roses, how good the yoga feels.”

She recalls:

  1. Recovery is already well underway. Revitalization is rising up in the mist of discomfort.
  2. Lessons on healing easily come to us.  The additional rest promotes health.
  3. We can use our focus to visualize and experience my leg as whole and perfect now.
  4. Discomforts in life are not only to be expected but provide fuel for growth.
  5. In fact, feeling uncomfortable means positive expansion coming.
  6. Time moves and new opportunities show up.

D allowed improvement bit by bit and kept her mind on enjoying her now.

Take Away Message

The blips are precious life moments. Let’s appreciate what we can.

Let’s relax as best we can and breathe in lifeforce and Faith.

When we align with Source Energy, we will be provided with the insights we need—resources we need, who might provide them, healing opportunities of all kind. We are available for messages offering relief and assistance.

We relish reading pieces that inspire us—perhaps tales of overcoming difficulties and recovery from illness.

For example,

“When you ca’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That is where your power is.” Anonymous

“The hard days are best because that’s where champions are made,” Gabby Douglas, Olympic Champion gymnast.

For further lift peruse: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/motivational-quotes-for-injured-athletes

Do you want to share tips for how you handle injury or illness? What are your tools for keeping your spirits up? We benefit so much from shared accounts that inspire.

In a few weeks our protagonist’s leg felt improved. After having been uncomfortable, afraid and worried, Gabby felt energetic and satisfied.

Like reveling in sunshine after a rainy day, when this protagonist weathers a bit of a “crisis,” she notices the enrichment her process provided.

Today G relishes the experience of being able bodied. Sometimes she moves slowly and enjoys some new perspectives that accompany that pace.

As maintenance, this restored being tunes into her connection to Source Energy each morning, does yoga daily along with her exercising.  Frequently through her day this empowered one deepens her trust in Well Being and the Forces of Good.

The program of keeping focused on health and wholeness has paid off for Gabby and continues to do so!

Do you have a tale of how you used your shift in attention to recovery from injury or illness? Please comment with what worked for you to keep your perspective and what lifted your spirits. Let’s share our successes!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

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October 23, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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We Are Loved All the Time

Many of us were raised with the impression that we had better behave well in order to keep the love coming to us, to receive that attention that nurtures us.

In this blog we are offered another proposition: we are loved all the time without accomplishing a certain goal or acting in any particular behavior. Those who are attending to their growth are reaching more and more to embody this expansive proposition.

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On our path when someone may refuse to assist us, may treat us poorly, we may trigger anger and hurt. We are flooded with this kind of thinking: “Did we do something wrong? “ Are we in danger of losing some positive regard, some love by another? These questions are based in the fear rumbles with the anger and hurt.

How To Respond

In such instances, how do we want to respond?

Michael A Singer, author of The Untethered Soul, addresses the question in this paragraph from his work as follows:

“A wise person remains centered enough to let go every time the energy shifts into a defensive mode. The moment the energy moves and you feel your consciousness start to get drawn into it, you relax and release. Letting go means falling behind the energy instead of going into it. It just takes a moment of conscious effort to decide that you not going to go there.  You just let go.

It’s simply a matter of taking the risk that you are better off letting go than going with the energy. When you are free from the hold that the energy has on you, you will be free to experience the joy and expansiveness that exists within you.”[1]

Doreen’s Experience

Doreen asked her partner for a favor. When he shopped at a certain food store, one he frequented each week, could he pick up a certain baked product for her? He refused. Even after she pointed out that he would be there shopping, he continued to shrift off her request.

Doreen felt her temper rise. This was so unfair, mean and hurtful! In her mind our star made a strong case for why this man “should” fulfill her ask.

D consulted Wise Counsel.

WC: We each are in charge of our own inner reactions and our happiness.

Yes, you have a strong case to make for how poorly this man is behaving. Now turn your attention to turning up the light under your own happiness. Your time is better spent focusing on the fun to be had, eh?

D: I am so glad you are reminding me. I will drop the review of the aggravation and get busy with some fun plans.

WC: What a great boon it is indeed to wake up to how loved we are right now—even as this dear person speaks words pinched off from Source Energy. We are not turning to the neighbor for our love (even if a life partner) No! We go direct to the divine presence for that. The Forces of Good are always with us right now.

We are wisest when we “let go” of that emotional response and turn instead to joy and expansiveness available to us.

Doreen absorbed the message of Wise Counsel and enjoyed her next hour. In shopping she found some satisfying pieces of an outfit she is creating for an upcoming event.

Then her phone rang. Her partner called to report that he would do her food shopping in the stores where he would be.

Do you have a story to share with us all that demonstrates this point further? Please share it in the Comments Section.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Singer, Michael A, The Untethered Soul, (Oakland, CA New Harbinger Publications, 2007) p.65

October 18, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Recognize the Momentum

We flash strongly with our emotions. Our upsets create a color across our perceptive field. “That is the way it is,” we pronounce. Pause, pause.

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Let us learn to add to our awareness as soon as we can, “Perhaps at this moment.”  Wow, at times we can forget that Source Energy is always there with us. Likely there is more good than we might see right now in our situations.

Illuminating Story

At home Calley lost her internet connection and landline. She got busy making phone calls to get it restored.

Two days later she waited at home all day for the scheduled repair staff. They did not show.

She went to reschedule and was given a date a full week later.

Calley felt so angry and victimized. Inside she got filled with tension, experienced restless and reduced energy. For this protagonist the world seemed gray.

From this state she hardly could recall how to uplift herself. It was as though the climb was a sheer wall with no foot or hand holds in the rock face.

Recovery

Before too long she did remember she used to feel better and that it must be possible now.  No, Calley was not instantly transformed. What does “reaching for feeling better look like?” For each of us it may appear differently.

For our star, C cleaned debris in her garden, took walks in sunshine, had some chats with sympathetic friends. This heroine had forgotten how slow the progress may feel.

After a day or so, Calley realized she had triggered into some traumatic fears from her past. The feeling ran quite deeply.

The circumstances did not appear to benefit much from her efforts. She acted still filled with all this “suffering” vibration.

Bigger Shift

By the third day this dear woman could recognize some of the blessings coming out of this “unfortunate” situation: learning a lot about delivery options for internet services; proficiency in smartphone navigation and usage.

Importantly, C stepped back from her compelling experience and saw how caught up in it she had become. How much her fear and related feelings dominated her gestalt.

Certainly, as she felt joy again, the contrast provided a delightful experience!

In a more balanced state, solutions started to flow to her. An improved data usage coverage for her phone, collecting information on other internet providers.

Calley can breathe and feel good with or without internet connected in her home. Yes, she misses the convenience of her connected laptop. Traversing this territory, she sees she has had to summon more courage to address many fears: using phone for so much, feeling more isolated, not having instant and convenient access to searches and entertainment.

Things are much better than they may seem when we feel afraid. We make up quite a doomsday story and believe it—until we wake up.

Can you call up one of your stories of emotional perspectives and then recovery? Please share how you built your strength.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

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