Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

May 6, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Empowered by Affirming the Positive                

As we recognize our autonomy, we are empowered as we affirm the positive. This is a huge step for many. Where do we focus our dear self with the energy of this freedom? Read about this account to learn about further steps in our path of unfoldment.

Story

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Bella attended a memorial for Gail, a woman of her generation. B had not known the person well and still enjoyed hearing all the heart-warming testimonials regarding how the speakers had benefited from knowing this deceased dear one.

In one friend’s account, Gail was entertaining the group at a party when she declared, “I no longer want to be a good girl—in the past I have devoted my life to that. No More! “

The gathered folks at the memorial all enjoyed that anecdote and admired Gail’s awakened spirit.

Observing Bella felt a strong impulse to say more about that. To flesh out what that “good girl” sentiment meant to her and what she personally had done with it.

Bell’s Perspective

As the event was ending, Bella received an invitation to visit with a new acquaintance for dinner. Delighted, Bella accepted.

As the meal unfolded, B took the chance to talk more about that “good girl” remark.

B: Yes, it is great for us each to expand beyond roles that we were given early in our lives. It is so important to tune into our own reactions desires and dreams. We shift our focus off pleasing others or meeting a societal standard but on what we really want.

I want to reframe my consciousness to serving Love. My mind jumps to attuning to an inner force of unconditional loving.

“I am not a good girl.” 

Bella continues: Outwardly I may appear to follow a path of societal norms. Being a good girl can look like a compassionate response, a kindness, a gesture of generosity. That feels great!

Saying no to being a good girl could look like an expression of anger, defiance for its own sake.  For the mostpart I want to move swifthly through those to reflect the Forces of Good operating through me.

My goal is service to Self-Mastery in Love and not some random rebellion. And we know much focus is required to pass up resentment, anger, hatred, blame and the like.

For me shedding the good girl label does not open the floodgate for the opposite of love and care to dominate.

Another way to say it: I want to live in a genuinely Good way.

This requires me to pay attention, not to behave as though straight out of society’s can of programmed “sweet or quiet” attitudes, but instead to move towards nobility, calm and openness.

The dinner companion nodded and smiled, “I see your point. I cheer you on for living into those high ideals.”

Soon the two parted. Bella’s comrade hugged her with affection and said, “You are a treasure. I am so fortunate to have happened upon you. Thanks for taking time to have this visit.”

We have all been through passages of shedding outdated roles and imposed rules. Please share stories of your next steps and joys you have experienced.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

April 30, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Softening in Our Emotional Reactions

We move on the path of growing more self-aware and seeing the world with greater compassion. We discover deeply and long held habits of thought which inhibit the generous and good feelings we prefer to exhibit.

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When we feel a sharpness of a hurt reaction, how can we shift off that and get back to feeling good?

Answer: the best we can in that moment and step by step.

We don’t always release this stuff on a dime. Some of our material may not leave with the first pass of awareness. We make where we are ok and keep reaching for feeling better.

How a Recovery Process Might Go

Lucy aspires to releasing her hurts as quickly as she can. L cheered herself on for noticing her hurt reaction and accepted that in herself. Wait a minute, how can she shift out of this?

Luce reviewed “what happened”.  A fellow with whom this star was interacting turned out to be writing to another woman. Hmmph! His focus was not exclusively on her!

To start this dear woman distracted herself by watching some tv. Some relief to get her mind on something else.

In this story, Cindy Lou did not readily release this particular disturbance. Yes, she could notice that her habits were running strong.

Her inner voices were saying, “I guess I am not good looking enough to keep his attention. He has made me feel humiliated and rejected! I must had said something he did not like. “

She was not ready to be cheered up yet. Several like- minded friends offered to help with her reframing. Lucy closed off their input.

In her head boomed, “Shut up and leave me alone. GRRR.”

A Gradual Turnaround

In the second day a back ache showed up and did not easily clear up during the day.

On the third day, our protagonist relaxed her thinking and let in more air and light into her mood. Then L’s dear body produced quite an upset stomach. This too passed through her.

Softening

Lucy listened to a podcast by an experienced leader of A Course in Miracles. This speaker reminded this dear one that she controlled her life with the thoughts she entertained.

As she went about her morning ablutions, she let in the realization: she was defending her hurt reaction, making “out there” more powerful than “in here.” As she forgave herself, she had the power to feel good again.

Alright, alright L accepted that she had stepped on a landmine of past hurt. “Ok,” she admitted, “I have been resisting recovery. I embrace now that my good continues to surround me.”

To find more ease she crooned to herself, “Hey Angel Pie, I am releasing another layer of sludgy feelings from the past. This is so human and understandable. I remain loveable as I purify and release these painful times from the past.”

On day four Lucy started to flow with good feeling again! YAY!

Take Away

From time to time we may feel hurt from past experiences, and might review it (lick our wounds for awhile.) “Hey this is not happening now. Let’s change our thinking.”

We make it ok that it takes as long as it takes to let go of past pain. We persist.

This is the process of growth! Good for me! I am growing stronger and more resilient!

Please share a story that resonates with this post. You inspire us all!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

April 22, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Fresh Response to a Familiar Difficulty

We can have “bad” experiences with a service provider. Yes, we might pop with the temptation to “badmouth” them as we request their help. Oh my, many of our friends will eagerly cheer us on in complaint. Hmm. What about a more creative and effective approach? Read on…

The Scoop

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On a recent morning Ines went to use her computer and realized she had no internet. She felt a distress rise. She had an appointment that morning, checked the clock and decided she had time for a quick call to the provider to get a repair ticket going.

On that first call she made it through the automated phone screening, got put through to those service people but no one picked up the call. She heard a room full of chatter and noise but nothing else. Oh, dear she felt a bit of aggravation start to rise.

Six months prior our star had had a traumatizing series of interactions with this provide resulting in having no service for 10 days.

At that time Ines had become very distressed, struggled with the situation, felt frustration and shared about her difficulty a lot, upgraded her phone to handle paying bills in the service gap and more. So many friends jumped on the bandwagon to agree that the provider she had was “awful” with a poor record for service.

In the present at lunch time this dear woman sat calmly to call for a service repair.  Inside Ines felt an impulse to start with her sad story from six months ago and adopt a disgruntled attitude.  “Really,” Ines said to herself “Are you devoted to inner work? Do you want to step into a new moment? Yes I do. Dump that complaining tone!

Let me address this person with an authentic well-mannered request for assistance. Let me be in the flow.”

Before too long after a stint on hold, the customer service person offered her a repair slot for the next day.

The inner dialogue: “I do have commitments for tomorrow. This company wants customers to have an eight-hour day free to wait for the service. In my schedule I don’t have a whole business day free till a week from now.”

Insight from a Higher Source spoke, “Dear One, cancel those morning appointments. Go with the flow here, it will be fixed in no time!”

This heroine followed her wiser self and next day awaited the repairman.  He came midmorning and completed the fix in less than one hour.  The job was accomplished in less than twenty-four hours from when she called it in. Such an easy experience this time!

Ines insisted on living an open and cooperative attitude and wow what a big difference that made!

Have you had occasions when you withheld a frustrated blaming tone and chose to interact with a fresh good-natured approach? Did you see results? Let’s hear about it! We inspire one another.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

April 15, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Spiritual Beam

We are strengthening our inner compass; more and more we connect with the means to direct our path. Can we live flowing with unconditional love? Yes, as we practice more and more, bit by bit, we recognize the way to proceed.

Please take in this inspiration from Emmet Fox:

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“Those who believe in the Allness of God have a spiritual beam on which to navigate.

You are off the beam the moment you are angry or resentful or jealous or frightened or depressed, and when such a condition arises you should get back on the beam by turning quietly to God in thought, claiming his Presence, claiming that His Love and Intelligence are with you, and that the promises in the Bible are true today. You are back on the beam and you will reach port in safety.”[1]

Example

Carey was caught off guard by a client. After a session of body work and walking that dear one to her car, the recipient turned in hostility to Carey and harangued about their political differences. That person accused our star of being misguided and ignorant and went on in that vein for several minutes.

Our heroine did her best to remain balanced, keep her poise and placate the client. A few days later, C turned to Wise Counsel to ask what she should do about that client. Wise Counsel’s response below:

“You want advice on what to do going forward? I recommend doing work on your own inner planes.

Have you forgiven this person? That is an important step. You can acknowledge that you are not actually harmed and that you hold no grudge.

You can also spend quiet time appreciating her. That may seem counter intuitive. This act is designed to move your focus from your distressed human response to one more like seeing the story as a divine being would. You can shift to more unconditional loving. What good qualities do you see? What do you enjoy about her?

From this prayer time this situation will shift. Certainly, you will change yourself. And it may be surprising what else will transform.”

Carey responded with an expression that appeared to say something like “You have got to be kidding.”

WC: “Seriously I recommend giving this a try.”

Have any of you readers experimenting with this kind of inner action?  Please share your experience. This author has and the results have been impressive. The “troublesome” person often responds with sweetness over time.

What are your thoughts? Please comment.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Emmet Fox, Around the Year with Emmet Fox, A book of Daily Readings, (New York: Harpers &  Brothers, 1931) p.103

April 9, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Sharpen Focus on Promoting Bodily Well Being

Let’s sharpen our focus on how we talk about our bodily conditions.  Have you heard this kind of talk?

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1. That leg always acts up when it rains.

2. I am afraid I’ll throw my hip out. I’ve done that three times.

3. I have a bad right knee.

4. My back has not been right since that fall.

In these examples, the language focuses on what we DO NOT want and sound as though the condition will continue as is for the foreseeable future. We have more power than this talk indicates.

Illustration

Gloria was diagnosed with a condition called leaky gut syndrome. This heroine followed the guidance of a holistic physician who recommended a specific food plan to heal many food sensitivities, including items to eat freely, rotate every four days and those to eliminate. G also took five supplements at each meal.

How did our star discuss her condition as she lived through the next year? She chose NOT to declare, “I don’t eat that I am allergic to it.” Instead, Gloria said, “When I was tested last August, I had a reaction to that food but now I am healing my gut and expect to be able to eat it before too long.” 

This gal stuck to her regime. Each time she was tempted to stray, she told herself, “No one else cares if you eat that. Do you want to get better? Yes, so let’s skip that for now.”

After a year G was retested for the reactivity to a roster of foods: the results showed that all but one of the long list of reactive items was ok to consume again. She had healed the gut.

If we have something in our bodies we want to shift, let’s not talk about it like it will always be true! Instead, let’s express acknowledging we are a healing project underway.

Revisiting the disharmonies mentioned above. How about this language instead:

1. Sometimes I notice sensation in my leg in weather conditions of high humidity. It is healing now so rain annoying me is time limited.

2. Right now I’m attending to my hip, and I feel how easily it moves. I move more easily now!

3. My right knee feels on the road to recovery. I feel improvements in subtle ways, I sense the healing process.

4. My back strengthens each day. I picture all my vertebrae of my spine lined up and feeling good.

Well-Being abounds! I align my thoughts with that harmony and effortlessly allow improvements in my body.

Does this essay inspire some thinking for you? Do you have stories to tell me or questions? Love to hear from you at jpearl@streamofyes.com.  What you do for yourself matters for all of us!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

April 1, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Love and Wholeness

We all travel the path to wholeness. Some of us are becoming more conscious of the power we can wield with our focus to make lives around us better, including our own.

Background

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Olivia attended an online class related to personal growth. In one coaching session the teacher recommended to students that each identify an inner voice that the teacher dubbed the “mean girl” i.e., when a person receives inner advice filled with criticism and provoking guilt. That leader suggested the listeners select a name for that voice.

Olivia was not drawn to this business of talking to a mean girl inside. However, she was intrigued by noticing other voices and possibly naming them as a device for greater consciousness. Olivia called Wise Counsel to garner helpful thoughts on the topic.

The Exchange

O: What do you think of picking names for our inner voices?

WC: I have not used naming my inner voices as a tool myself. Here are some guidelines I recommend regarding inner voices.

  1. Please cheer yourself on for noticing an inner voice. You are growing in your awareness.
  2. All the parts of you are worthy of positive regard. Even a voice that on the surface seems mean spirited can be accepted and understood.
  3. We may have voices that echo scolding authority figures in our life. Some of that may contain self-loathing feeling. Any message that we deserve our own loathing, rejection, is not one to follow.
  4. More and more we want to feel whole and integrated. We can listen to any voice that arises and see how it feels. We accept our process of growing in our consciousness.
  5. Yes, we will become aware of the effects of the way we have been treated earlier in our life. As we grow toward and with Goodness, we will perceive that unhealthy, unwanted programming on the way to dissolving it.

O: I agree. I want the consciousness of the messages inside and I select the ones that are loving to act upon.

A Story as Example

Scarlett stopped at a mall to entertain herself. In her mind popped the voice, “I want some ice cream. In this mall there is an especially tasty ice cream shoppe. Let’s go there. Yum.”

This inner voice eagerly directed our star toward the ice cream.

Pause, Pause Wait a Minute!

This heroine was becoming more aware of her adorable inner voices. S had been following a food plan that managed her food allergic reactions and helped her reduce her weight.

Alas ice cream for both its dairy and sugar content was not on her current food list from the allergy practitioner consulted. It did not help with her weight reduction goals either.

This time Scarlett rose up in her aligned self-parenting and honored herself. This dear woman skipped the ice cream.

Summary

We want to become aware of what voices are in our minds. We want to act on thoughts that are aligned with unconditional love for our dear selves. Each day each hour we move toward embodiment of more self love.

The person who grows becomes aware of his or her inner environment. Likely those on this path will notice a flow of unloving messages from the past.

As that consciousness arises, we let go of the chaff of put-down chatter and sharpen the focus on deep acceptance of Source. We move toward greater discernment about what messages from inside we will believe and feel again. We are building the inner experience of LOVE.  

What stories can you share about how you overcame negative messages from within? Please inspire us!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

March 25, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Tipping’s Thoughts on Forgiveness

Many of us have been trained to judge ourselves and when we do so, we feel uncomfortable, agitated and weary. The feelings of guilt and shame run and that inner voice of condemnation can sound so true!

How can we soothe ourselves when we find ourselves in that unwanted state? Let’s look at some key recommendations provided in the book Radical Forgiveness[1] by Colin Tipping.

Isla’s Story

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Isla had been enjoying a friendship with a woman, Irene,  for over 6 years now. They checked in each week and often arranged some outing they could both enjoy: a lunch, browsing in a charity shop, talking a walk. 

Each recognized they had many differences and still they appreciated one another staying largely on topics they shared.

During the last year, new tensions arose with pressures on the women from pandemic and polarized attitudes.

One day Irene phoned feeling deeply upset. This friend could no longer accept their differences in political points of view. Irene announced she could no longer be a friend to Isla and this was goodbye.

For our heroine this was shaking, unnerving, disappointing. Her mind went to a common refrain under such circumstances, “What did I do wrong?”

Guidance on Forgiveness from Tipping

1) Take responsibility for what was created and make it ok.

Our Dear One knew that she had been an active participant here—of course she had played a role. Issy reached for accepting what had occurred, and she knew she would continue to thrive. This would be ok.

2) Notice the self judgments.

Yes, Issy had started down the road to blaming herself. Our star began to tell herself that she had shared too much and ventured to areas where they do not agree. “Oh dear, I fear I erred in the way I spoke and behaved,” thought Isla.

Isla had practiced many tools of self-awareness and bringing self-love. In this account the star was catching herself in these judgments quickly and appreciated that she knew how to be kind to herself, even as the other accused her of various transgressions.

So many of us humans experience thoughts like this.

Yes, we notice self-judgments and we can make it ok that we have them. This phenomenon runs rampant in our culture.

Good Awareness! It is ok to have been raised on Planet Earth in these times!

3)  Cultivate a willingness to accept oneself as is.

Issy had let herself flow with some opinions, express as she loved to do. This friend got disturbed. Our heroine loved the path of growth and self-expression. She greatly valued her clarity.

4) Tune into this present moment.

The protagonist called someone for support and continued uplifting and loving herself. She put more focus on tuning into what she could enjoy—the landscapes, her creativity, reaching out to make new friends and enrich the connection with others in her environment.

For example, Issy heard birds chirping all winter, relished the signs of spring popping all around her blossoming of trees, stands of yellow flowers and more.

We can “test drive” Tipping’s suggestions, experiment with seeing when and how they help us, and employ what’s useful in our toolkit for changing our habits of thought.

Please share what happens for you in the comments. What questions arose, if any? How were you enriched? It feels so good to lift our guilt and let life flow!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Colin C Tipping, Radical Forgiveness, Making Room for the Miracle(Marietta, GA:Global 13 Publications Co, Trust, 1997)

March 18, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Thoughts on Where We Focus and When

Each day as we grow on this journey, we can awaken more and more to the power of our focus! We enjoy the flow of creation and we pause when we feel less than good and inspiration momentarily wanes. In that case, we switch where we look, reboot and rest.

Do you recall how Leonardo da Vinci would address it (as in How to Think like Leonardo da Vinci[1])? If the solution was not flowing easily, he recommended taking the time to go juggle for awhile. Allow one’s mind to concentrate on that activity a bit. Rest but actively engage elsewhere.

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With that, we allow ourselves to receive a solution.

In practice, we can substitute some other focus for juggling . When we experiment with filling ourselves with some form of both play and appreciation, the process will produce results.

Change Where You Look

Example #1

Last night Barry woke with a bad dream. B attempted to return to slumber but he found himself disturbed by the emotions and images of that still swirled inside him.

What to do? His “trick”: change his focus. Barry left his bed,  went to his device to check email. The man found both stimulation of a fond memory and a delight in the prospect of a new connection.

His mind was soothed and then he laid down again. With B’s  hands he offered himself some Jin Shin Jyutsu Self-Help—found himself drifting off and then slept another few hours. Yes! This protagonist succeeded in shifting his attention.

Example #2

Gordon reminisced about a brother-in-law, Tod, from whom he’d been distanced by a divorce. Tom and G had become friends sharing the common interests of art, gardening and personal growth.

Gordon had a trick to remembering Tom’s birthday: it fell a week before his own. Gordon went to jot off a celebratory note to T with a light spirit. Part way through G wanted to name Tom’s sons and realized he had forgotten their names.

This star reviewed some past correspondence in an effort to find recall those appellations. No luck then. Onward he went in the greeting and wished well to the sons generically.

Our hero knew the magic of shifting focus. G went on with some quiet time, putting attention on thoughts like Ernest Holmes says, “I know and understand that Good Alone is Real.”[2] He breathed and felt good.

A bit later, the dear man looked again at past emails which might contain the names of Tom’s children. Know what?  This  time his freshened perspective had pay off. The names are Evan and Aidan.

We can raise our awareness to notice when we are on a roll and when we find ourselves off track. When we notice we can wield our  power by taking a pause instead of forcing our way. We want to use our time more effectively, stay in the flow of life, enjoy ourselves more and get pay off with greater ease.

Do you have illustrations of how you have wielded your focus to your benefit? Please comment and show us how!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Gelb, Michael, How to Think like Leonardo da Vinci (New York, NY: Delacorte Press, Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, 1998)

[2] Ernest Holmes, 365 Science of Mind Reader (New York: Jeremy P Tarcher/ Penguin, 2001)

March 12, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Focus on Compassion Over Resentment

We can find ourselves so irritated at another. If we are spit on, it is tempting to spit back. Does spitting back serve us? With that we are focusing on what we do NOT want. Keep perusing to hear about another approach.

The Account

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Debbie attended an exercise class with a woman named Cassie.

Cassie resented Debbie. Debbie was not sure what triggered the response: her skill level which was a bit higher? Not approving of some aspects of D’s lifestyle.

Getting Hurt

Debbie wanted to remain calm, contained, and be as friendly as she could toward Cassie. Debbie made harmony more important than retribution as a matter of both principle and effectiveness.

Cassie would say hurtful things. One day C actually whispered offensive words into D’s ears, demeaning her character.

Debbie felt shocked and hurt by this behavior.

Week after week C came to the class and our star too. How could Deb handle herself so that she did not attract unwanted from C? How could she wield her personal power in both self-protection and compassion?

The heroine caught herself worrying about the next meeting. D felt fear and resentment. A focused inner response was needed!

The Pivot

First, Debbie wanted to lift her own spirits. She spent time imagining what delighted her and what flowed well in her life. Hey she could name new clients, and other fun opportunities.

For many weeks Debbie successfully avoided Cassie. If C came to class, they interacted in cordial demeanor.

Weeks passed. In one session Debbie felt a bit depressed about something in her life. That day Cassie interacted and made some unkind gestures and references.

A class event was coming up that this protagonist wanted to enjoy it. Deb got deliberate: she practiced her good mood. D kept in her mind feelings and images that supported and cheered her. For example, the dear woman recalled times she really enjoyed this class and how good her body felt.

The Event

The day of the event came. Debbie got lost on the way to the event and could feel the habit to start bad mouthing the organizers and complaining. Whoa there! D shifted herself and sat quietly a minute. She had much to appreciate.

Soon she was out of her car. Just then Cassie parked. D stopped on the sidewalk to wait and walk in with Cassie. Both chatted on the walk inside.

In a few minutes while the organizers relayed last minute plans and instructions, C stood near D. “Wow,” D said to herself, “Cassie’s eyes are filled with fear. Oh my, probably that fear fuels C’s unkind comments.”

When Deb processed this, she realized the “attack” had been nothing personal. In the day’s proceedings, D looked for opportunities to show Cassie kindness and support.

The event went well Debbie felt at ease and enjoyed herself. She kept her focus on sending light to her teammates and the viewing fans.

Isn’t it satisfying to view how one woman used her power inside, shifting her internal landscape? Debbie shifted out of her own negativity and instead, uplifted herself and those around her. Cassie has never spoken unkindly to her again.  

What successes are you having using your power to change inside first to make a difference? Please comment and share them! We all love inspiration!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

March 4, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Perceive the Good and Thrive

We have the power to notice our emotions and steer ourselves back to knowing the Good. Please soak in this account of how one woman shifted her thinking and basked in the Good that flowed.

Lola’s Story

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Lola belonged to a group where members listened to one another and offered spiritual support. The group leader sent out a request to members that each participate in a task that would bring income to the group such as sale of raffle tickets, baked goods sales and more.

Our star found the prospect of these jobs burdensome and depressing. L felt pressured to do more than what she could easily offer and preferred to contribute from her strengths and  what brought her joy.

Hey, Lola observed that she felt quite irritated by this request. This heroine felt an impulse to quit the group altogether. Ok time for this protagonist to sit quietly and find what was the core of her upset.

Breathing in and out Lola reached for soothing herself. Oh my, L felt fear and resentment of being forced to do what she felt was not best for her. L can make these feelings ok, breathing. L can contemplate one step at a time.

Recovery from Fear and Irritation

As Lola came back into present time, she followed her ritual of pulling an oracle card. Wow the card she chose articulated just what she had been observing in the group leader. That person was trying too hard, pushing for goals that were too far ahead of what was flowing easily now. One key sentence from the card booklet read, “Don’t let fear that your desire won’t manifest cause you to try to bend life to your own will…. Instead, just show up—be present. Attend to what is before you in each moment.”[1]

The card articulated her feeling so well. How refreshing!  Lola felt understood, and then she allowed herself a short nap.

Upon waking she felt a simple and empowering thought, “If I am asked directly to sign up for these projects, I can decline, stating I don’t want to do those things at this time. “

Ready to Interact

Prepared now to stand up for herself, Lola again found her groove. She wanted to move to music as she prepared her morning green drink. Then off L went to the group meeting.

The dear woman had shifted to feeling calm and strong. The Universe supplied her more gifts that day. The lecture that morning felt perfect to reinforce the inner work Lola had done.

When we notice a habit of thought not serving us, we can make up new formulations and attitudes! We can attune to what the Universe continues to provide for us—the sun rises, new opportunities flow, synchronicity abounds!

At the meeting colleagues at the gathering exchanged strategies for getting through stubbornness, anger and fears.

Lola was delighted to share her tools (ones she had used just hours earlier) and benefit from the experiences of others. L felt connected then and respected, part of the world-wide human cohort reaching beyond immediate self-protection.

Really cool to notice that so much went well. Much enjoyment and good vibe—L noticed that as she returned to well-being and Good flowed to her!

Worth noticing what thoughts are running! Worth soothing ourselves!

Do you have a tale to tell along these lines? Please honor us with it!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.


[1] Alana Fairchild, Rumi Oracle Guidebook, (Victoria, Australia: Blue Angel Publishing, 2016) p.141

(Mission statement here).