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September 30, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Body Blip Blessings

Remarkable! We bring more joy to ourselves as we appreciate what comes from all situations—both comfortable and not so desirable. This applies to instances where we have some physical disharmony. Below review about ways to appreciate these unwanted conditions.

Appreciation One; Practice Focusing on Well Being

When in distress, we may find ourselves reviewing what unwanted situation is presenting; a habit of thought so many of us run.

This past week Tammy noticed her pace in walking was slower and somewhat awkward. She started scanning for what she did “wrong” to “cause” this. Her mind reviewed this disabled limp and felt depressed, too.

But “Wait a Minute,” Tammy cried. “I want to reach for doing something for myself that is more constructive. Instead of bemoaning my fate or worrying, I want to bask in the healing underway right now!

Our star treated herself to a Feldenkrais session. She exclaimed, “Boy did that feel great– a freedom in body, more energy and a major shift in mood for the better. I love turning points!”

Appreciation Two: Learning the Value of Ease and Rest

Tammy said to herself, “I make it ok. On my life path I will have some discomforts. I felt dragging, slept more, enjoyed my food, rested, read engaging novels. Let me call up Imagined Figures of Protection and Support.”

T continued through her day, “What can I notice? I loved the way I felt after yoga class, the revitalization coming through a mist of discomfort. I saw outside the frost on the freshly mowed grass. Wow I can hear so many active birds singing their heads off: glad I slowed down enough to take that in. I envision walking with ease.”

Appreciation Three: Taking the Bounce

When facing the unwanted, we receive greater inspiration toward what we DO want to create. Let’s recall how many innovative healing methods are created because someone really needed them? These contrasting experiences provide fuel for our inner fire—to move, to create what IS WANTED.

Like reveling in sunshine after a rainy day, we get to experience success in healing, showing ourselves this tremendous power to which we always have access.

Healing and Renewed Focus

Before too long Tammy feels both her leg and gait improving. How rewarding! After a period of tension, fear and drag with a body disharmony, our heroine loves feeling extra good on the other side of contrast.

This dear woman continues to keep her focus on how health flows through her in so many bodily systems. Further, T slows down at times and takes the opportunity to notice details of nature, a hawk perched high in a fir tree,

Her life is enriched by the yoga, movements, breath and other tactics she began because a particular condition inspired them.

What stories of recovery do you want to share? How did you help yourself? Please comment. We benefit from others insights.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

September 25, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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We Have Attention

We want to affirm the Forces of Good as we go. Periodically a habitual thought may pop up, “I am single and alone in life.”

We may be unattached romantically but are we alone? Answer: No!

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Ernest Homes wrote: “It is only as we mentally align our consciousness with abundance that (the Good) can seek us out”[1]

“Being told to behold God’s face forevermore means that we should recognize life, poise, power, peace, joy, in and through everything and everyone. This has been called practicing the Presence of God. We can all do this with the certainty of splendid results.”[2]

Manifestation Story

As this tale opens, our heroine, Maven, is driving home from an exercise class and some errands. She looked forward to a long drink of water, some gardening, and later a walk.

Now in her neighborhood, suddenly she is startled by a loud unpleasant noise, a jolt, and realizes something has happened to her car. Immediately she pulls over, gets out to see her rear driver side tire is completely flat.

She feels a bit shaky, receives a breath. Internally, “I need help. I will call the roadside assistance I have through my insurance.” To her horror, the number does not reach any entity. Is it saying something about call again later? Pause.

Then she calls the neighbor across the street hoping she can discuss her situation with him and figure out next steps.

She had reached him and just begun to speak when a car appears at her side. That person asks if she is ok.

Quickly she excuses herself from the phone call, points the kind stranger at her blown out tire.

Kind Stranger, pulls up in front of her, comes out of his car to assist her. Despite having an eight-year-old son in his vehicle, he offers to replace the damaged tire with her spare.

Competent at his task, he soon has the useless tire off her car. As he looks for what caused the blow out, he discovers that a piece of construction debris, rebar, has punctured not only the tire itself but also the wheel frame. The sight is so horrifying and impressive!

As Kind Stranger is completing the task, returning her jack back into her car, Maven asks him what she can offer him? “Shall I offer you some money?” He says, “No thank you. This was my gift.” They exchange contact information just in case they need to connect in the future.

What happened here?

Maven received help for this crisis in under FIVE minutes. A competent, generous man appeared almost instantly.

If this star had had functional roadside assistance, this fix would not have happened as quickly. And the rescue was delivered immediately and free of charge. WOW!

Maven does practice tuning to Good. Awakening further, this dear woman knows now more deeply she is far from “alone”.

Certainly she was offered “splendid results” and how!

Do you have a narrative to share about similar miracles that you received? Please inspire us!

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[1] Ernest Homes, 365 Science of Mind Reader,( New York: Tarcher/Penguin, 2001) p.273

[2] Ibid

September 9, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Pay offs

When we keep our focus on the Forces of Good, we enjoy the signs of this abundant flow. We do not complain, argue, resist or push away. Instead, we reap rewards for ourselves and for those around us.

Vehicle of Good

Jessie raised horses and taught dressage. One day she went over to her neighbor’s farm to collect some offered discarded lumber. While she was there, she noticed the open horse feed bag standing half full.

As a frequent visitor she knew that bag had been full recently. J asked her friend, “Did your horse just get into the bag?” The man next door responded, “Oh my, yes she did. Apparently, my horse gorged herself today. I had not noticed.”

This star leaped into action. As an expert on horses, she knew that much overeating can kill a horse. Immediately the two located that animal and began the treatment that can remediate the situation.

The horse was saved that day. The heroine served as a vehicle of Good and she was thrilled!

Easy Results Flow

Pepper met in a small book group with two friends. As they were anticipating the prospect of lunch first, Clara, one friend, excitedly declared her objections to much of the book’s last chapter which had a focus on political beliefs of the author.

Inwardly, Pepper sighed. P preferred that this group discuss the author’s mental and spiritual formulations, ones that can raise our spirits, increase our faith and offer tips for growth. Outwardly she did voice that she did not prefer a political discussion.

Pepper participated in getting the lunch on the table and for all to catch up as they relished their meal.

About an hour later, they started the discussion. Pepper dove in enthusiastically reviewing the many insights she gleaned from an early section. The others joined in and soon were sharing their underlined sentences that impressed them.

The assembled women excitedly shared what each appreciated in the work. Soon members shared moving personal stories where Good prevailed, how prayer worked for them, miracles and more.

Someone realized they had talked an extra hour. Happily, they decided on the next book and on a next meeting date.

Pepper focused on what she loved, the group flowed along. There were no objections voiced, no arguments. All went well.

Simple Solution Pops

Clancy had purchased a new EMF cell phone case for a future need. Just yesterday C decided the current one looked much the worse for wear, she pulled out the replacement.

This protagonist anticipated an easy switch. As she did the transfer, she saw the case was not closing “Oh my, this thing does not work for me, and I still do need a new case.”

Clancy felt a bit ruffled. Immediately she began research into returning it (No go. The “return by” date passed months ago.) She regarded competitor websites, examined features and prices. Our gal started to assume she would forfeit the cost of the one she had stored.

Soon this star required a break and left the “problem” alone as she switched activities, had lunch, worked in the garden.

When Clancy swung back around to the case, our heroine looked at it and smiled. She put the phone in the new case, grabbed a hair tie from the desk, wrapped it around the newly encased phone. The case closed well with that hair tie banded around it.

Instant solution. Relaxation and “easy peasy”. Forces of Good just handled it and very quickly.

Want to share some of the pay offs from your appreciating and easy living? We will enjoy them!

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September 2, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Scary Health Report: Fear and Recovery

Many of us are gripped with fear when we or a loved one receive a scary health report. Even for those building his or her personal power, this kind of news can rock our world, triggering strong emotional response.

Let’s read about how one woman returned to balance and the wherewithal to carry on.

Help to Shift

Linda reacted to a health report from her husband’s test: he required an investigative procedure regarding the screening of a stool sample. She felt terrified.

As she thought it over in her emotional state, Linda realized that she followed many natural health practices. Her husband did not. But she had influenced him to be less attentive to regular screenings. Gary listened to his wife’s thoughts and then used his own judgment.

Linda went to consult with Wise Counsel as she recognized she was panicking.

L: “It’s my fault. I thought Gary could get the screening test every three years. Now we see that if it had been annually this abnormal cell discovery could have been spotted earlier.

I thought like it was me. I follow a careful diet with detoxifying and nutrifying woven in. He does not do that.

Gary wants to blame me too, because he was following my advice!

I don’t want him to have cancer. Oh my God!”

Wise Counsel: “This is a finding on an early test. You don’t know how much ‘disease” is involved if at all.

Let’s look at this business of blaming yourself.

Blame is related to fear and anger. Instead of feeling it fully we put it out (either on self or other) as blame. Blaming thoughts are not scientifically or metaphysically true, not sound thinking at all!

Let yourself feel your uncomfortable feelings knowing that those emotions are passing through you, not creating the future nor defining who you are.

Additionally, You are not responsible for another adult’s health. Health involves so many complex factors including not only things like exercise, what we eat, but very much what thoughts we hold about ourselves, our body, mind and spirit. Looking at the picture this way, how can the wife take the blame for a condition in her spouse?

Perhaps your dear one’s first response in his fear reaction was to put ‘blame’ on you. We can have compassion for his emotional reactions while knowing these statements are not true!

Instead, let me help you calm yourself. Tap into your strength, access your focus on Good and on miracles. You are resilient and you can handle some of life’s curve balls. 😊”

Linda continued breathing and listening. She was able to take in some of the comforting thinking and start to shift.

Then Linda asked for a Jin Shin Jyutsu session for help in changing her emotions, attitude and energy. The JSJ helped this dear woman shift her body, mind and spirit in a dramatic way. Then L felt ready to face the health information and support her beloved constructively.

Take Away for Readers:

Recognize panic: Know you are not offering yourself your best wisdom at this moment. Make it ok to feel what you feel. Skip projecting or receiving blame.

Reach for help with soothing thinking. A friend to call; a book handy with wisdom. This strong feeling will dissipate with some time.

Practice uplifting formulations as you feel calmer. Flood your being with feelings of Good Abounding and Well Being build strength and resilience.

Do you have experiences of recovery to share? Please comment. We all benefit and love to be inspired!

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August 26, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Affirm Wholeness

When we find ourselves with an unwanted bodily condition, let’s use our personal power to affirm our wholeness. We want to perceive from strength and acknowledge the minor blip in our Magnificent Ever-Present Wellness.

We attract what we want in our beings by 1) Envisioning our Healthy State and 2) Feeling as though we were already there-healthy and whole.

When we experience a body blip of some kind, some hurt, illness or condition, we marshal more energetic influence when we bathe ourselves in an inner picture of Well Being. Let’s put some focus on all that is still working!

And, let’s be clear in the knowledge that bodily conditions move through. Keep focus on the Force of Well Being pouring around and through you right now.

Please maintain your inner vision on your Full Health state.

One Success Story

Casey was diagnosed with a condition called leaky gut syndrome. In this circumstance, the body allows food particles to get out of the gut and into the next layer of the body. As a result, the body acts as though it is allergic to all those foods that escape.

C chose a holistic physician and followed the recommended protocol: five different supplements at each meal and a specific food plan based on the food allergy testing.

To facilitate her healing, Casey was discerning in how she communicated about her condition to herself and to others. For example, Instead of declaring, “I am allergic to (certain food that tested positive)___________.” (After all, her condition was time -limited. She would be able to eat it again before too long.)

Our heroine stated, “When I was tested last August, I had a reaction to that food but now I am healing my gut and expect to be able to eat it before too long.”

Casey complied with the program for one year. At the 12-month mark, this dear woman was tested for allergic reactions: results showed that all but one of the long list of foods was ok to enjoy again! Our star had healed her gut!

If we have something in our bodies we want to shift, let’s not talk about it like it will always be true! Instead, use our awesome personal power to bring on the condition we want to experience.

Another Illustration

Margie had a leg condition which made it hurt when she took a step. Facing this, M wanted to find some aspect to put her focus as she went through her day, some method of paying attention that was not complaining or reviewing unwanted.

When exiting her car during this blip, Margie declared inside, “I am able bodied! I walk around on my own steam.”

She engaged in a healing strategy combining a body work and Chinese herbs with her positive mental focus. Before too long, this star returned to walking with ease.

As we follow this path, we can expect to have moments when our habits of thought pop up. Oops we find ourselves thinking/saying, “What a pain this is! I hurt!” or “I want to feel better right now!”

Expressing kindness to ourselves, we make it ok to have reactions, pain and grumps. As we feel a bit better, we again inspire ourselves by reaching for statements that serve us even better.

Do you have success stories demonstrating how you have healed yourself? Do you have questions about how to empower yourself as you allow healing to unfold? Please comment! What you say matters to you, to me and to all of us!

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August 19, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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On the Path to Self-Mastery

Have you ever gotten annoyed with a friend?

We might notice the upset and be tempted to rail against that person’s behavior, perhaps struggle, argue, fight back. Instead, we could pause and allow what we feel to be, make what happened ok. Go further, we can admit this is an opportunity to grow.

Michael Singer wrote, “If you truly want to grow spiritually, you’ll realize that (not standing up to) … your stuff is keeping you trapped. Eventually, you’ll want out at any cost. You will then realize that life is actually trying to help you. Life is surrounding you with people and situations that stimulate growth. [1]

Today’s Illustration

Lavina felt irritated following a conversation with a good friend. At first, she wanted to ignore the feeling and keep going. She had reasons for being piqued—and in the first wave of reaction L wanted to list and review those reasons.

After a day or so of this, L realized she did want to face the hurt and shift her thinking and emotional state.

This heroine wondered, “What is going on with me? When I get perspective what went on here is not that big a deal. Yet my emotion still rages.

This dear woman knew that to feel better, reviewing and cataloging the grievances was NOT going to help. Instead, L wanted to pur her focus to something that felt good.

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In her life Lavina had cared for others for many years and frequently held back on her own needs. L thought,

“Am I angry with myself for allowing an old habit to run?

Instead, why don’t I shift into forgiving myself now and move into my power and vibrancy?

Can I make it ok to have allowed an old hurt place habit to play out? So what? This is part of any human’s growth journey when changing unwanted habits of thought.

In present time I love that I safeguard my own needs.”

Lavina processed and then tuned into herself, softening the outraged thoughts. The past hurt and charge was shifting. And L did feel improvement. YAY.

Our dear protagonist had returned to present time. She had taken her time to replenish her good spirit, not rushing or pushing herself. L got willing to change her vibration and took time to do what it took.

Make Note of the Steps

1) Notice how we feel and especially when we do not feel good.

2) Admit we want to shift our vibe. We know we want to feel better, will refrain from blaming others; will do the work required to grow.

3) Speak kindly with oneself, feel the discomfort, reframe and remember the truth.

4) Make the highest priority to feel better

5) Bask in the relief, appreciate the awesome power of aligning with Good.

Michael Singer:

“You don’t have to worry about right or wrong. You don’t have to worry about other people’s issues. You only have to open your heart in the face of anything and everything and to permit the purification process to take place.

When you (open your heart), the first thing you will see is that situations will unfold that hit your stuff. But in truth that’s exactly what has been happening your entire life. The only difference is now you see it as a good thing because it is an opportunity to let go.”^[2]

With regard to the friend who had annoyed Lavine, that woman sent her note in a loving and kind mood, sharing her interest in some topic they both enjoyed.

Lavina’s vibration change seems to clear the air without any discussion. She found good feeling and good relations flowed.

Do you have a tale of forgiveness and recovery to share with us? Please do. We all love to be inspired.

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[1] Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul (Oakland, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2007) p.74

[2]Ibid

August 13, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Building Trust in the Good in Life

Let’s trust life a bit more and allow for a positive Flow of Good. We can witness a brief beat of life and create a cautionary prediction. Instead, let’s increase our consciousness of what we project forward, ensuring more and more that we attract what we DO WANT. We can stay more relaxed and let our good vibration carry us more than perhaps we have trusted in the past.

Stories

Story #1

Mary Katharine convened an Abraham Hicks support group where advocates came together to discuss how they align with Good and trusting their lives more and more.

One day someone new to both the group and the AH teachings attended. This person began to listen and expressed some resistance to what we were putting forth.

The new one started to contradict MK and argue. In her mind Mary K joked with herself that she would be wise to practice trusting the Flow of Good right now, even though she felt a whisper of fear arise. Our star kept breathing and remained calm and open.

Within two beats regular members of the group spoke to contradict the newcomer, articulating a knowledgeable and calm response.

Immediately the resister backed off and the tone in the room shifted. MK had been defended without any effort on her part. She relaxed.

Story #2

Clarisse twisted her ankle while moving around some furniture. Yes, she was in pain. She stopped to apply some energy healing. She slowed down in participating in this project instead of ignoring her pain.

Consciously she stayed in the moment, attending to her body and what was needed for the endeavor.
1. No she did not tell herself that she would suffer and be limping around for days. Instead, she flowed along and the next day her ankle returned to health. She had healed overnight.

Story #3

Darleen came into the meeting room and took a spot in an empty row. In past gatherings that had been where she sat next to a friend. Still she felt relaxed and easy about where she settled.

Soon she looked around herself and spied that the row behind her was filled with her buddies from past meetings. Another observed, “You are sitting all alone.”

D stayed relaxed; she was fine.

Within two minutes others arrived and soon the row was filled with people she enjoyed.

D was struck with the insight: “Wow good thing she had skipped any emotional reaction to that prediction of her aloneness—for heaven’s sake it was changed for the better very quickly. Life flows! I bet I can skip emotional reaction much more in life.” She matched the vibe of the Forces of Good and got supportive circumstances.

Have fun with noticing your thoughts and experimenting with greater optimism. Play with the power of focus to direct yourself toward outcomes you prefer.

Do you have experiences of success to report? Please share your stories!

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August 7, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Allowing Life to Respond with What’s Wanted

We cultivate feeling open hearted and happy, aligned with Forces of Good. What we want flows to us as we maintain this frequency. Let’s trust the process of Life more and more

Clarisse felt her disappointment flowing. She found another plant that had been eaten by wildlife. She worked hard in her beloved garden – now she discovered chopped off stems!

Possible Solutions

What could C do? Hmmm how about fencing? She started her strategic thinking. What type and size animals were the most destructive? What kind of fence would work and on what kind did she want to gaze from the window? Our heroine lived where the views were magnificent and certainly, she wants to continue enjoying those vistas. More pondering.

At the time. Clarisse owned an old truck. In the recent past she had adored that vehicle and had had many good times with it. Now for a chunk of years it sat idle and was repurposed temporarily as a storage unit.

Un-related circumstances? On the surface it might appear so. This star had received two inquiries: was she selling that truck? If so how much did she want for it?

Hmm, she was considering how to handle the vehicle.

Plot Thickens

As life flows, one of the gentlemen who wanted the truck, worked near her home and had tons of experience with putting up fences. Bing! A fun possibility popped in C’s head.

What if this heroine traded for the fence job? This sharp female would make sure an advantageous deal was forged: materials, labor and maybe some cash in the transaction. This particular associate was very experienced in electric fencing which would be invisible—a key fact for protecting the view from her property.

Clarisse felt her enthusiasm for this venture rising. What else did she need to research before she started having conversations with the relevant players?

Pause Pause….

Meanwhile days passed and the protagonist cleared some unwanted items from her abode. That undertaking involved taking a load to the nearby recycling shed where items with some value could be left and others could find uses for them.

Recently C took a car load over to that shed. While there, another local was leaving off some goodies, and they took a moment to chat.

Since it was on her mind, dear C mentioned her thoughts about this electric fence endeavor. The other woman spoke with enthusiasm. “We put up an electric fence that is working great for us. Golly, would you be interested in coming over to have a look at the way we did it, the materials we used, what we have learned about structure and placement?”

Good Flows to Her

Clarisse had to focus to close her mouth in this astonishing good fortune. She said, “Wow, that is so generous of you. I would love to view your set-up and listen to some pointers on what you have learned. That would be so helpful”

Cool! This offer was perfect timing for her next steps, for her to get a good chunk clearer of precisely what she wanted to create and how. What were the chances of running into an opportunity like that with no effort at all?” she pondered.

For this project the star had not struggled with the idea, nor was she rushing into anything. Clarisse was taking her time and letting things come to her. Wow again! Without “trying hard” she got assistance unexpected and treasured. What a world! C felt so grateful!

What stories can you offer that resonate with this tale? Please share in the comment section. We inspired one another!.

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July 29, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Relief from Self Judgment

Many of us are noticing the habit of thought of judging ourselves. That cultural training to look harshly on aspects of ourselves shows up in legions of folks. We who are actively increasing our personal power address this training, catch ourselves in self-condemnation and move to self-forgiveness and self-love.

As we are more and more accustomed to feeling good, we observe when we feel tight and upset. We may feel guilty or worried – even worried that we feel guilty. How do shift towards positive when in this tangle?

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Example

In her sixties, Amanda experienced gut pain and had some scans. Her physician shared that those pictures showed sores and lesions in her gastrointestinal tract. He prescribed a medication for three months to start. Amanda became very upset about requiring a medication at all and at the prospect of needing it for an extended period, possibly years.

Amanda recalls that her stomach would ache with tension as a child while seated at the dinner listening to her parents’ quarrel. Her worry goes to her gut from way back.

Now she feels worried that she feels guilty. She “feels to blame” for her current bodily condition.

So upset, Amanda contacted Wise Counsel for assistance.

The Exchange

Wise Counsel: Oh my you are suffering on many levels here. I have some thoughts that can bring some better feeling.

A: let’s go!

WC: At the moment there is so much uncertainty in your situation. You want to fill the role of empowered patient, you want to face your situation with courage.

It is tempting to compare your story to that of your other family members whose health deteriorated and who became dependent on medical institutions. That thinking increases the pressure on you and intensifies the struggle.

Instead, let’s go directly for an attitude that makes being on your own side most important.

Amanda: I don’t understand yet.

WC: You want to feel the best you can in this situation, even though it is stressful. Let’s make it ok if you feel overwhelmed right now and upset as you review this.

No matter what you are feeling, Well Being is pouring down around you and you are loved. Let’s make it ok that your being has had tension in that part of your anatomy for decades.

You are able to list many inspirational perspectives. That’s great!

And let’s make it ok if you still notice you are experiencing negative emotions and are not shifting on a dime. Let’s offer kindness to yourself and remember that it takes time to move to better feeling.

You have been trained to be conscientious about “doing the right thing.” Let’s give yourself lots of latitude for finding balance. You are totally loveable now. The internal voices of judgement sound so righteous! But now you are flowing with compassion as a higher purpose.

A: Oh my! I feel very soothed by knowing I am loved. It does not matter what I feel right now or at any time. I might feel worried or guilty in this moment but I am making that ok. I can breathe! What a relief!

WC: Please let’s have patience with ourselves, show kindness as we address some habits of thought that are long standing, deep and very painful. This is what the road of recovery can look like.

Do you resonate with this person’s account? Do you have an anecdote to share? Does it help you? Please contribute to this blog!

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July 22, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Calming Self in Frustration

At times our compatriots may reject our leadership and follow their own plans. For us this can feels frustrating! We may want them to show a different attitude or behavior, to forgive us or affirm our innocence .

We recognize our strong feelings. A personal power moment: We notice our uncomfortable mood. We know we can do something about it.

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Commonly, many of us want to blame someone else for for how they “made us feel.” We review in our minds how “wrong” they were.

Another Path

When we hear ourselves saying internally, “that person did not treat me well.” we wake up to our complaining.

Wait a minute! We take responsibility for how we feel under all conditions. And then we can remember that WE are innocent and worthy. WE are already loved and loveable. And we get our mind on… what we can appreciate. No one “makes us feel” a certain way.

Let’s get our mind on Forces of Good. Perhaps we take a break and notice the beauty of the soft light through the trees in early morning and the cool air; or the flowers that bloomed overnight; or the contented sighs of the sleeping dog.

We look at our agenda for this moment: Breathe! Greet the neighbor!

Illustration

Darcy worked for a woman for many years. She wanted to make the living environment of this employer as satisfying and lovely as she could—meeting D’s own standard for excellent performance.

The homeowner welcomed a new person into her household. At first, Mr New participated in maintaining a “satisfying and lovely” household. Sometimes, Mr New would listen to D’s suggestions. Often, he would not follow them.

Darcy began to feel frustrated that her vision of “satisfying and lovely” was not being fulfilled as she had pictured. One day, while discussing this with Mr. New, he reacted with strong oppositions and an angry and insulting outburst.

Time past and D wanted that environment to settle down, to be friendly and harmonizing. Alas, Darcy observed hostility remained. What to do?

Turning to Wise Counsel:

D: He is not forgiving me. He is not cooperating! I don’t like this! How can I find calm again?

WC: How can we take responsibility for how we feel under circumstances like this?

Inside our dear hearts, we want forgiveness. This man is not delivering it.

Is he judging you harshly? It matters not! You have the power to offer yourself the soothing the thoughts and feelings that you need. And, you can let go of the incident.

You learn to be easier on yourself. Creating a satisfying and lovely household can be shaped in many ways.

Turn to enjoying the employer, her house, and the work you do there. You have dominion over that.

Mr. New does not control YOUR feelings, your inner environment.

Isn’t that good to recall!

Will this require you changing how you think? Yes it will. Steady as you go, bit by bit. Worth the focus!

And then you will have new strength and a higher level of self support to utilize in any number of situations.

Darcy: I am already underway refining this self-loving capacity.

Thanks for steering me in a moment of confusion.

Have you been taking on focused growth like this? Please share your methods and stories of success.

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