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January 21, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Observe and Let Go

We all have experienced an upsetting reaction as we live through some unwanted situation. Then, feelings of fear, guilt and shame may rise up and grab our attention.

As we move toward more and more self-mastery, we notice that these upsets show us “our stuff”. Michael Singer author of The Untethered Soul speaks to this:

“If you truly want to grow spiritually, you’ll realize that (not standing up to) … your stuff is keeping you trapped. Eventually, you’ll want out at any cost. You will then realize that life is actually trying to help you. Life is surrounding you with people and situations that stimulate growth.

You don’t have to worry about right or wrong. You don’t have to worry about other people’s issues. You only have to open your heart in the face of anything and everything and to permit the purification process to take place.

When you (open your heart) , the first thing you will see is that situations will unfold that hit your stuff. But in truth that’s exactly what has been happening your entire life. The only difference is now you see it as a good thing because it is an opportunity to let go.”[1]

How to let go?

We consciously witness our condition. We find that place inside us that stays calm and observes us under all circumstances. Singer states,

“You notice that there is something to be released. You then must be aware that you, the one who notices the stuff coming up, is distinct from what you are experiencing. … You are noticing it, but who are you?

This place of Centered Awareness is the Seat of the witness, the seat of Self… If you let go and then stay in that seat of awareness, what you are feeling will pass.”[2]

We can bear witness to the upset, feel what is uncomfortable, allow it to flow through us.

Analyzing and reviewing the situation takes us deeper into that fear and represents holding on not letting go. It takes more of our awareness and keeps the stuff in place.

The Example

Chloe attended a meeting on “goal setting,” a topic with which C often felt uncomfortable feelings. While listening, she started to feel vulnerable, angry, shamed, guilty and more.

Inside she reached for calm and a return to feeling confident. She observed that she was not shifting immediately. Can she make that ok to feel lousy at that moment?

Granted, Chloe was less upset than in past experiences on this subject: she was making progress in her mastery. As soon as she could, she left the meeting, went on to food shopping and partook of soothing internal conversation.

Internally, our star was tempted to start a tirade, pushing against the assumptions and contents of the lecture.

C knew that fighting brought more of what she did not want. Instead, our girl followed her inner guidance to get her mind on some self-expression that felt good to her.

Her main agenda at that point was to be with herself, pass some minutes and go for enjoying what she could.

Our heroine realized she had a bit of headache. Mostly, C made what she was experiencing ok. That meant she was ok being reactive and miserable for a few minutes. Release any struggle, just let it go.

That afternoon letting go looked like taking a walk, working on an article, writing a friendly email. Chloe was in the flow, ate an early dinner and watched a tv program new to her and enjoyed it.

Yup, rather than struggle and rage, this protagonist took the advice to “keep going.”.

The next day dawned and the sun came out. She let herself be.

In our culture, it is common to deny the feeling and put a smile on your face. Instead, it is more effective to surrender to the feeling in that moment, then moving gradually into coming back to ease. Offer yourself gift of some time. Flow with the momentum and allow recovery bit by bit.

Have some stories of your letting go that you want to share? Please comment! Have a question? This author will respond 😊

Take Away Message

A human cannot go from feeling awful to radiant and delighted in one sweep. The “feeling bad” has some momentum. Honor it and give it some time to dissipate.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

[1] Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul (Oakland, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2007) p.74

[2] Ibid, p. 75

January 15, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Feel Good as We Reach For a Goal

We want things all the time. Laws of the Universe indicate that feeling good, in fact feeling as though we have already reached our goal, allows the Forces of Good to bring to us what we want. We can remain calm and trust Life to provide.

Presenting Issue

Cammie approaches life with optimism and good feeling. Her circumstances changed, and this woman found herself in need of a lawn mowing service.

She wanted to find a lawn service easy to use and reasonably priced. C noticed the possibility that a new service could cost a lot more than she was used to. No! instead she chose to put focus on ease and flow as she sought the assistance.

A neighbor mentioned that his nephew might be able to provide lawn care. After two weeks of waiting to hear from the nephew, Cammie shifted her strategy.

Others in C’s sphere recommended searching online using Facebook or the like. Our heroine did not prefer this approach. C wanted to feel some connection to the business she hired.

Inside this dear woman felt calm and that all would be ok.

In the past our star had found local assistance by looking for postings of business cards or signs at local establishments.

Therefore, Cammie proceeded to the bulletin boards of the cafes and hardware store.

“Well look at that”, said C to herself, “Posted in a local store is a sign from an enterprising person who was looking for lawn care jobs.”

From there the process flowed excellently. Once contacted the lawn man came by to assess the job and offer his price.

Resolution and Take Away

Cammie hired the young man on the spot.

Look! C had remained composed, cheerful and trusting of Life. Her efforts were minimal and the service easily came to her.

We can apply this relaxed and happy approach to any of our goals!

Do you have stories from your life where what you needed flowed easily to you? Please share them! In such times where so much tension surrounds us, good to read about how each of us can live in clear and positive expectancy.

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January 7, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Accepting My Human Process

We can become aware of our repeated thought patterns and then condemn ourselves for not changing our behavior fast enough. So many of us might feel impatient with ourselves.

“Hey I have been on a growth path for ___ number of years. Why am I still recycling this stuff! (Implied) I must be a jerk!”

Please read on encourage the acceptance of your humanity, a better frame for what is going on with us as we notice our familiar upset states and inner dialogue.

Edna’s Call for Help

“I am upset again. I know my addiction to politics explains why I continuously watch the depressing news about the election and what is coming. In addition, I made another move in real estate and this time I really think I did myself in. What I bought was such a mistake! Again, I have made things worse.

I call to get relief from a load of regret that burdens me,” declares, Edna

This protagonist does want relief and knows to seek it from Wise Counsel who offers soothing words and from Jin Shin Jyutsu, the art of harmonizing the being’s energy.

Wise Counsel begins:

“This prayer for you is popping into my mind: ‘Please Lord keep me in touch with my inherent self-confidence.’

As we increase our awareness, we each build our self-confidence. As we live, we flow along processing our feelings, thoughts and actions. When we are awake, we are always growing—even when we may not discern signs of the expansion bit by bit. Let’s acknowledge ourselves and breathe in the credit we deserve.

Importantly, all humans create patterns of thought. As we age we keep practicing some older ones even as we build new ones. People take time to change habits: Let’s realize this.

When we see ourselves in thought patterns we don’t prefer, again we gently reach for a new one.

We practice supporting ourselves and soothing the parts that get upset. Conjuring things like “I am doing my best. I am alive to my journey. I am partnered with Source Energy. Source Energy has my back.

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We notice what we don’t want in ourselves. We ask/pray for a change and then we align with the Forces of Good as we live our lives. As we accept features of ourselves, we enjoy the journey. “

Then Edna received a Jin Shin Jyutsu session. She breathed into feeling the hands on her body altering her state of being toward more acceptance and toward knowing that All is Well. With JSJ E could feel profoundly relaxed.

Have you a story to share about accepting yourself with more kindness and patience? We would all enjoying hearing them—a way to sink more deeply into our compassion for one another.

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January 2, 2025
by Janet Pearlman
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Universe Responds

When we are staying aligned with Source Energy, when we feel good a lot of the time, we can attract assistance in remarkable ways, tapping into the Forces of Good. The Universe will respond to our alignment. Please read below for one example.

Darien and Lonny

Darien got a note from beloved brother, Lonny, letting her know his news: he had been diagnosed with Diabetes Type 2. He informed her about the changes he was making in his life, the enormous shift in eating patterns, new rigorous and daily exercise protocol and more. He changed his life, lost weight and more.

After a few months, Darien had a chance to visit her brother in person. From the calls she had known that her brother felt depressed about his physical health. When she arrived at his home, she took one look at his face and saw an expression like she had never seen on him before. Wow he felt very down and hopeless.

Throughout her visit of about three days, she talked her brother and offered perspectives that she thought were encouraging and upbeat.

Her words seem to have little effect. She parted feeling quite uncomfortable. “Gosh, I deeply wish to be of more service,” thought D. “Forces of Good, please show me if there is something I can do to insert more optimism for him.”

She had two days of driving in order to reach her home. Along the way she listened to audiobooks and enjoyed that kind of companionship.

At a moment in the13 hours of driving, the idea popped into Darian’s head—get him a David Spangler book.

“Ok. I will do that,” mused our star to herself.

Action Arriving Home

Soon after arriving home, Darien felt moved to look at books online. At this point she still did not know which book to get.

As she searched, somehow she came upon a work she had heard mentioned by others Source Field Investigations by David Wilcock. On impulse she decided to buy it.

Then in that same search she discovered a relatively new David Spangler book. Lonny had enjoyed this author in the past. D herself did not recall ever reading a Spangler work.

In a flash our star received intuitive guidance to send her brother this new Spangler book now.

So, the heroine followed and off it went.

Wait for a Response

Oh dear inside Darien wanted to know how L received this gift. Calming herself she knew when someone sends a book, there is really no telling when the recipient feels like reading it or what his reaction will be. “Breathe and carry on,” D told herself and then focused on her own business.

In about three or four weeks, this protagonist received an email from dear Lonny.

“I enjoyed the book so much and I feel so enormously much better. Thank you.”

Her dear brother got the uplift she so wanted for him—somehow. She did not directly know what would help. But by following her intuition and surrendering to Flow of Life some assistance got delivered.

So soothing to notice that we can be a vehicle of Well Being without knowing the details. 😊

Do you have stories where you have received such help or were guided to offer it? Please share!

December 18, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Composure in the Face of Confrontation

What a glorious moment when we realize we can “protect” ourselves by NOT fighting back. What if instead we strengthen and stabilize our own knowledge of Well Being.

In the moment of a confrontation, we might fill with fear and follow the impulse to defend ourselves. Isn’t that done all around us? We have habits to fight.

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Is that our only choice? NO! Instead, we can face hostile words with composure. What we remained balanced, marshalled our own personal power and forfeited taking the “fight” bait.

The Tale

Geraldine and her partner P have some habits of interacting that are based in anger and fear. For example, P would ask G to do something for him in a commanding voice. G would feel ordered around and not want to be addressed in that tone.

Soon, the exchange would shift into two angry raised voices, hurling of insults and the like.

Geraldine was noticing her own reactions. Becoming more aware of her thoughts and reactions. “Hey,” G exclaimed, “I want a happier life! What are steps I can take to get that? I often list how I want that other person to change, but what can I do?”

Our star acquired some support and crafted some new strategies for interactions with P.

New Response

Geraldine dove into experimenting with responding differently. When P started directing angry accusations her way, she did not react. She chose to remember she was safe no matter what he said and to maintain her calm.

What happens when invectives are thrown and there is no reaction? Interestingly, P was taken aback. He stalled and sputtered. He turned up the meanness of the insults. G stayed calm. He backed off.

Geraldine felt immediate pay off. Whereas with the former approach, she fought and hurled insults. This time she kept her composure and her feelings were not wounded. The fight had no fuel.

Empowered Perspective

This heroine stood up to her own deep fear. Formerly she had thought her safety depended on fighting back. As she supports herself, she succeeds in creating a happier life.

Have you taken a new posture toward a habitual exchange that had been unsatisfying? Let’s share stories and support one another in these acts that take composure and courage.

We can all cut the wires behind those “buttons” in us that get pushed. We claim freedom!

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December 13, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice Our Inner Stories

We are putting focus on finding good bit by bit. Our habits shift. An aspect of this unfolding is observing how we feel.

Below is an illustration of a protagonist who started to feel uncomfortable and unsettled. As most humans, she gave herself “reasons” and “justifications”. She had feelings which she projected onto what appeared to be “facts.”

We become more alert to what stories we invent and if the content of those tales rings true. (We can discover more Good than we realized!)

Please read on.

The Illustration: Two Parts

Part I

Darnella had been doing some art events and outings with a friend J for a couple of years. She had been invited to some family dinners, included in parties, enjoying one another. During a recent period, the new companion got very busy and joined in fewer excursions.

Darnella saw signs of a waning friendship and felt a bit abandoned. “No big deal,” thought D, “Of course I am fine and will do other stuff. I wonder if I offended her.

As more time passed the heroine admitted, “I miss this friend. I wonder what I did wrong.”

Time passed. Darnella moved on, put focus on other things, enjoyed other people and activities.

Pop in her inbox our star had an invitation to do a couple of things with friend J. With surprise, D realized that she had thought she was disliked or left behind. “Wow,” exclaimed D to herself, “I made up that she disliked me. I had projected my past hurts and self-blame onto friend J. Forces of Good are flowing more strongly than I had been letting in!!”

Friend J still welcomed her companionship. D had been incorrect in assessing this situation.

Part II

Mauricia was experiencing some strain and discomfort in one of her legs. Over the years M had healed unusual leg conditions and at times those conditions did reoccur. Here she was again.

In the past she used a practitioner of the work of Moshe Feldenkrais, Movement through Awareness, to learn to use her body in new ways. The concomitant changes allowed M to find a comfortable gait and new patterns for walking. She awakened to know she needed more of that kind of training.

The last time Mauricia interacted with her practitioner, G, she had cancelled an appointment without 24 hours notice. That therapist had accepted her reasons without charging her. M felt a bit guilty for that.

First M emailed G, no response in four days. Then M thought to leave a voice message (her memory that G did not like texting.) Within 24 hours G responded.

In her life G had lived through many changes and explained what was required to work with her in her new circumstances. Within another day Mauricia created an appointment with G who was delighted to work with her again.

M thought, “All this guilt I felt was not relevant to G. G carried no ill will. My discomfort was from what my being had generated. G was happy I got in touch for more therapy.

Isn’t it good to notice how I can allow more Good to flow to me!

Do you have any questions? Do you discern how we get pay off when we notice our own mindset and uplift it? What stories can you tell to inspire us?

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December 2, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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See as the Forces of Good See

We have been trained by our culture to judge others—look for qualities we don’t like, for rule- breaking etc. Many avoid admitting their fear because it is an undignified quality—not respected and makes us vulnerable.

In order to grow more self-awareness and personal power, we will want to notice when we feel uncomfortable. We want to allow ourselves to know when we feel fear, guilt, shame.

We notice we feel other than good. These discomforts tip us off that a habit of thought is operating in us. With practice, we know we can shift those bit by bit.

Let’s make anything we feel ok, even interesting tho perhaps uncomfortable. In that gaze inside, can we take the stance of our innocence, view ourselves as a deeply loving figure would?

The Fear Reaction

Meryl was following one teacher on line and enjoying the inspiration and growth the woman sparked inside her. M listened to one podcast recently, and she admits she got triggered off.

Amidst the tension, M perceived the teacher seemed to be deviating from her key message: encouraging the listeners to do inner work, reaching past hurts and acculturations to align more and more with pure love. Instead, this leader appeared to recommend very specific actions from her followers with a warning if he or she did not there would be dire consequences.

Meryl felt a withdrawing and tightness, a fear reaction. She thought, “This is too difficult for me! I want to use my energy in other ways.!” Then, this star pulled back from the speaker. Earlier the leader had crafted messages wanting each “student” to think for his or herself and check out recommended actions with individual personal guidance internally.

Our heroine felt confused, uncomfortable, threatened.

What Next?

What did our heroine do? First of all, M made it ok to feel thrown off her game, to experience all those feelings coming up.

Truth be told, this state did not clear in just one day or two.

Meryl made that ok.

The protagonist proceeded to focus on other activities, ones she enjoyed: eating out, juicy conversations, trips to local beach, gripping novel and more. Additionally, Meryl made lists of people for whom she was grateful to have as friends and M called up her own treasured qualities she delighted to offer the world.

As she did this, the dear woman felt good and happy again.

And after several days when she then put focus on what had troubled her, M could proceed, assimilate what she liked, discard the rest. She felt her own power, ready to move forward. Meryl felt strong.

Resolution

Seeing herself as innocent during this process represented such a fundamentally important first step. In making it ok we know the judging voice is not true. We know that we always have a Loving Figure inside us accepting us throughout our journey of unfolding.

On top, we discover that we are easily able to see others in our life as innocent too and release our judging habits.

Do you want to report on an occasion where you accepted yourself and then were able to shift your thinking? Please share!

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November 25, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Notice the Worry, Then Refocus

We love feeling tip top. We realize that part of our living we will have times of feeling other than good. When we pause to refocus, we expand, we attract what we want and ALL THAT IS benefits. Perhaps this account from Petra’s life will illuminate this process.

Petra’s Art Show

Petra had a gig to hang an art show at a venue with high ceilings, walls painted with a color providing excellent background. The setting up process required someone who was agile, preferably tall and good on ladders.

In the past Petra attracted someone to offer the help she needed.

As installation day approached, Petra felt worried and nervous. She thought, “Would the available ladders be sufficient high to allow us to reach the fishline hooks on the ridge, to align the height and spacing of the pieces without great stress? I usually love hanging art shows.”

With the anxiety and stress-out feeling growing bigger suddenly this heroine exclaimed inside, ‘Wait a minute! I want to return to feeling balanced and good about this art show. How can I get some soothing?”

P reached out to a man recommended for the task who could not commit to her job. Interestingly, this dear woman felt much calmer once she spoke with him, even though he did not offer to help. She had started the action. Petra began to feel that it would all be ok.

Inspiration Comes

After that call, dear P received an inspired plan. Into her head popped the idea to ask a young tall man who vends at the farmer’s market and who had been friendly with P for many months.

Our protagonist fueled her inspiration with Abraham Hicks recordings as she headed to the market. As this star approached his stand, in his joy he chanted Petra’s name! What a welcome!

She began, ‘If I ask you a favor and you don’t want to, you won’t hate me, will you? Guys just say yes or no, right?’

Petra explained her big ask and offered some healing sessions for he and his wife as balance.

Wow he thought about his schedule, then he said yes.

That next day this fellow offered fabulous assistance to hang the paintings. With long reach, skill and a big smile he whipped those pieces on the wall. The other helper and P arranged the work, judged wall positions and more. Great team.

Take Away:

Petra wanted to create a lovely display at this venue. When she became aware of her worry, she refocused on how well the installation would go.

The bubble up of tension stimulated a new awareness. P received inspiration, followed a clear path, felt better. Then she attracted all of what she wanted.

Do you have a tale when you noticed, shifted your mood, and got results that pleased you?

Please share! It is so soothing to support one another on our journey.

Early on the previous artist had recommended a man who she pays to assist. P reached for trust in Well Being to supply a competent assistant who would barter for services rather than require a cash payment. That is what our star really wanted.

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November 19, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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Tips on Self Support

When we analyze a situation deciding what action to take, we can face a myriad of factors many of which can be daunting. Oh my! how can we sanely sort through a complicated circumstance?

Track this: we want to think as positively as we can. How can we find balance when events feel overwhelming?

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Wait, are we focusing on what we do NOT want and thereby creating more of that? Let’s shift that pattern to dwell upon WHAT WE DO WANT thereby, becoming more effective!

Assistance for Tanya

Tanya received some money from her sister, invested it and lost a chunk of it. T blamed herself thinking, “I could have bought a lot with those funds that slipped away! I feel awful!”

This dear woman’s fear about money got stimulated and feelings of hurt came up about past financial projects that did not go well. T felt fear every morning.

So many of us can relate to the habitual response to repeat self-blaming patterns.

We want to change to affirmative cognition! Our heroine sought help to regain her strength and her knowledge of abundance. For assistance she contacted an advisor.

Enter Wise Counsel

Wise Counsel spoke:

“It’s such good news that you want to clean up the thought pattern that finds fault in you and creates more of what you do not want. How wonderful that you catch yourself! Isn’t it great to be practicing positive thinking and building a trend to attract what you want.

Let’s cultivate compassion for yourself. We know you are ok in this moment however you feel.

On this human journey, our habitual thoughts require some considerable practice to shift. What a worthwhile undertaking!

Appreciate whatever you can. Perhaps you can build in times of the day when you purposely pause to notice what is going well.

Flow with what is easiest. And offer yourself plenty of rest in your day.

What you are doing is enough!”

Outdated thought: “It is taking me so long!”

In addition, our heroine realized she was on a journey of changing deeply held habits of thought and that shifting these will take some focusing over time. This is what the growth looks like for everyone.

Outdated thought: “I should be giving more service to the world”

When we are feeling frisky, full of life, feeling good, flowing and creating—tuned in, tapped in, turned on—we are giving abundantly to this dear planet.

We are one with humanity and when we thrive, we contribute mightily.

Feeling Success

This protagonist felt great relief as she shifted her thinking. T tasted the ease that is possible. For additional help she received some Jin Shin Jyutsu allowing the release in body, mind and spirit. And she supports herself with the directive; “Keep Going!”

Please share your stories of lifting your own self talk. Do you have a question? Please ask it! Together we are creating a more satisfying journey!

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November 14, 2024
by Janet Pearlman
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More “Good” Than We Know

We recall the story from times past of the farmer whose son broke his leg at harvest time. The farmer felt so discouraged and cursed his bad luck.

Then, shortly afterwards, the ruling army rides up to his home seeking maturing sons to fight in the war with enemy forces. The farmer’s son could not be drafted due to his injury. So, the son is left safely at home.

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Sometimes, one event feels disappointing and then through an amazing serendipity (divine grace?) all goes well after all. We get pay offs from maintaining our emotional balance and trusting in Forces of Good.

Account

Netri loved arts and crafts and enjoyed viewing them. N got excited about participating in the artisan studio tour of her geographic area.

Last year our star had enjoyed going with a special female friend, Dena, who organized a day’s trip and drove. N reached out to Dena to ask if she might go with her for this year’s tour. In the first conversation it sounded like, no, this time D had conflicting activities. Then as the event was to start soon, this protagonist reached out and new plans were afoot. They chatted briefly and determined D was now free to do this tour, they set the hour to meet. Netra felt delighted and looked forward to a Sunday drive together.

On Saturday morning, D called N to ask her where she was and that D had been waiting for her. N said, “Oh my, I thought we were going Sunday.” D responded, “No I knew I was freed up to go on Saturday.” N cried, “Oh I am so sorry for the confusion. Please go out and see the studios. I have a conflict on Saturday morning.”

N realized then that somehow in the planning conversations she and Dena had never stated the day of the rendezvous clearly. Oh my. N felt disappointed. Not only was she stimulated by the event, she valued the companionship of traveling together all day.

Carrying On

On Saturday, Netri did not go down the path of blaming anyone. Instead, she appreciated the uplift in her body and mind from the yoga class she attended. N had a phone call with a distant friend scheduled and enjoyed the catch up including an adventure in healing from a broken hip and replacement.

She focused on looking for good.

Unexpected Rendezvous

On Sunday Netri decided she would go out and view a few artisan studios locally. Our heroine walked in the door to this lovely pottery and gift shop and there was Dena. Surprise!

Dena had attended church and then had headed out to a day of visiting creators of crafts. N asked “Could we figure out how to do this together?”

Soon they determined where to park and leave one car for independent activity at the end of the afternoon.

The two had a good day. They popped in at about 9 studios. Netri soaked up the enjoyment, marveling at her good fortune.

The Universe had granted her wish in such an unexpected way. This dear woman flowed with gratitude and awe!

Good flows to us when we actively connect with Good.

What tales can you share that demonstrates how this works for you? We love giving and receiving inspiration.

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