Those of us following a path of self-mastery will experience fear and related emotions as we proceed. Recognizing only the power of Source Energy, we want to give no power to fear. We all grew up in a culture abundant with others feeling fear and we humans will need to practice continually in the honoring of the One Power.
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Therefore, our growth involves noticing and recognizing old hurts and fear. Return to the One again and again, we know this is the process required, and we accept it. We do experience uncomfortable feelings, make them ok, and then we release them.
We know we are on track. Learning how to steer ourselves, to support our own dear selves in our growth process, we align our perceptive lens with Goodness.
Lamay’s Story
At 3 am one-night Lamay realized she had awakened from a “bad dream,” one filled with dread. In the nightmare L was part of a family, where the tense interaction propelled her to leave the room and go hide. She felt frightened.
Our star could not get immediately to sleep. “Oh my,” said our heroine to herself, “My thoughts are filled with scary images. I feel adrenaline coursing through me. What to do to soothe myself now?”
In her study of building personal power, Lamay knew that pushing against this discomfort would not speed her recovery.
Instead, this dear woman rose to head downstairs to check her email. Her strategy at first: steep herself in her present time real life. This action would serve to put her mind on something off the topics which trigger the terror.
Then Lamay came back upstairs and sat in her contemplative corner, complete with candles, where she regularly focused on Faith, Forces of Good and Well Being abounding. Our protagonist read some supportive passages while telling herself what she was processing now was ok.
At this point L felt some relief and also still some impatience and irritation.
Lamay crawled back into bed and applied hands on herself (Jin Shin Jyutsu) to bring forth more experience of harmony and calm.
(Hook the right hand over the left shoulder, with the left hand point your fingers up under the left collar bone. Hang out in that position for 2 – 5 minutes. We feel tension drain away—not just an abstract thought.)
Despite the irritation and lingering jitters, this courageous soul called on Faith knowing her dear being is ok right now. L feels the confidence of knowing this brief event does not define her.
Each of us can find relief for ourselves, each with his or her own strategies. We can be ready to self soothe as we flow in abundant transformation.
How do you soothe yourself? Please comment and share what works for you.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
We reach for seeing Good through our days. The story here demonstrates how we can create wonder when we catch ourselves not focusing on Good, consciously shift to looking for Good. Please enjoy how this account unfolds.
The Beginning
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A year ago Danna and Christopher dated for a few months. A few weeks before what unfolds here D and C reconnected at a gathering honoring D’s art work. Chris surprised Danna by appearing at her side over carrot sticks, crackers and cheese.
Before the event ended, C had inquired if D would like to join him for dinner right here at the restaurant. She gratefully accepted. As they parted, the dear man stated he would like to get together again for a walk as the two had done last year.
The Follow up
A couple of weeks later, Danna received a text from Christopher asking for her company as he celebrated his birthday. Soon after he described his vision of what he planned: a meal at a drinking salon like place with a menu that was mostly fried foods. As part of the afternoon, he planned he would imbibe 4 beers.
Our Star felt torn. She wanted to support the man celebrating his birthday as a friend. On the other hand, D did not drink alcohol and was rarely in the company of those who did drink. This woman did not feel comfortable with how she pictured this “date” unfolding.
Hmm, D felt self-protective, yet she wanted to come from a generous spirit. Rising up she felt irritation and started down the thought pattern: she deserved better.
She called a friend to discuss this conflicting thinking.
On the call her lovely consultant mentioned arranging for a cake for his day, perhaps some small gifts. The friend got the sense that Christopher had some underlying poor feeling about this birthday which was behind the wanting to drink. Danna received these thoughts and realized these had not occurred to her. D’s thoughts had been thinking of and protecting herself.
“Oh” pondered D,” I enjoy offering gifts. I am a good listener. Maybe I can offer something valuable here.”
The Shift in Thinking
On purpose Danna realized her irritation and fear were a choice. “No,” she said, “I want to enjoy myself and these attitudes will color my perceptions of whatever unfolds. Let me start to look for what I can contribute. Let me trust myself more deeply to handle what shows up.
I will park my car close enough to our meeting place to drive myself where I need to go. I will not rely on Christopher’s sobriety to keep me safe.
The Open Sharing
On a phone call two days before the planned rendezvous, D shared with C more about how she felt. Danna said, “I don’t feel comfortable with the drinking four beers part. I don’t drink and I don’t spend time with people who drink to excess. I plan to situate my car so that I can leave when I need to go.” D did not usually talk about her inner feelings like this—she took a risk.
Chris had no idea that this heroine felt uncomfortable with his drinking plan. He assured her that she would not need to leave the date.
The Day Unfolded
Danna met Christopher easily at the appointed spot. The drinking focused restaurant Chris had chosen was not open during the afternoon. (Inwardly D cheered YAY.)
Danna then steered them to a place with an Asian food buffet. Chris had a culinary adventure and enjoyed it.
Then they went to a place featuring craft beer and he enjoyed two beers. D did not drink.
Then he wanted ice cream (she sat with him for that).
Summary
Danna looked for ways to enjoy this occasion and found them. She attracted a meal that was a treat for her. The day was temperate with sun and clouds: lovely. The events flowed easily, she chattered away.
After almost 4 hours she was tired and he walked her to her car.
D could have allowed self-protection to dominate. She could have felt “put upon” and martyred. She took a giving attitude, cooperative, kind and looking for fun. Because she shifted, she enjoyed herself—and Christopher thanked her many times including a text the next morning. Win/win.
Please send stories of how you shifted and got pay offs. We love inspiration!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
We all want to feel good. Creating more feeling uplifted we reach to appreciate what we experience now. We notice the quality of sky, we see the trees showing buds, we bask in the sunshine after weeks of rain.
In appreciating we build new neural pathways in our brain. The more pathways, the easier it is to look for and find what we enjoy. We stoke the engine of positive vibrations. This welcomes events that seem miraculous.
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Noreen’s Example
Noreen led an effort to salvage a rental space. Would her group have to vacate the premises? For months one suite member had been communicating with the landlord frequently. The group was concerned about temperature in the offices and the expense of the heat bill. In between missives the group bad mouthed management, speaking about the “slum lord” to which they felt subject..
Noreen’s Example
Noreen led an effort to salvage a rental space. Would her group have to vacate the premises? For months one suite member had been communicating with the landlord frequently about temperature in the offices and the expense of the heat bill. The group bad mouthed management and used the term, “slum lord’ , in among the folks in the renting group. At one point those renting the suite had an internal meeting. Visualizing a bleak future of increasing costs with no improvements in the situation, most of the members decided to find other accommodations.
In addition to the HVAC system complaints, the suite was rented as one unit with nine offices so that when one office was vacant the other eight or seven had to cover the rent for any empty space. Renters got frightened of a financial burden as some were leaving, and then more renters baled out.
Folks in two offices, Noreen among them, preferred to continue renting here. How could they arrange to stay? No way could the remaining tenants cover rent for five rooms!
Our protagonist decided to see potential here instead of “ruin.” How could she tap into infinite possibilities? First of all, she began visualizing remaining in the suite and enjoying it.
Then, in coordination with those who wanted to continue, N carefully crafted correspondence to the landlord explaining the problem and the desire to stay. The first and subsequent letters emphasized every positive feature of the building, location, current situation was articulated. That note was loaded with praise for the space.
Meanwhile over about a month’s time and between the letters, Noreen and her team kept their minds as much as possible on the vision of staying and enjoying the suite. On top, our heroine thought about how much she enjoyed many aspects of her life, relishing her housing, free time, means of self-expression and more. This focus was fun. Our star felt calm and satisfied as this process unfolded.
Then, those who wanted to stay met with the landlord and his office manager; they had no idea what views the landlord held.
The results of that session wowed everyone. The building owner offered an enormous level of generosity and positive solutions for the situation, ones better than imagined.
Outcomes included a new leasing arrangement so the empty rooms were not the responsibility of those remaining, a flat utility fee as created to handle fluctuations of heating costs, no increases for a year and more.
When the meeting ended, the landlord who owns a multitude of office parks and other businesses stated, “That was the most positive meeting I have ever experienced!”
As N walked away, she was awed at the awesome power of appreciation. This outcome felt miraculous!
Points to Take Away:
1. Appreciating works well to maintain a positive focus.
2. Enjoy appreciating for its own sake.
3. Make it ok whatever happens
4. Let miracles flow to you.
Why not experiment with appreciating? At a minimum you will uplift your spirits. Observe what happens both inside yourself and in the world.
What else happens? Please comment. We love to share successes.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
Louise Hay tells us that a change in attitude represents a key to heal bodily conditions[1]. We have all experienced parts of our body not functioning as designed to operate. To return to full health we must come back into balance throughout our being body, mind and spirit.
First many of us will turn to a remedy outside ourselves. Let’s recall that we all have inner resources to bring forward. Here we notice how we can bring our thoughts and feelings more into alignment with the Forces of Good, seeing Wholeness, feeling love, basking in ease.
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Some Possible Ways to Focus
In her 40’s Melanie worked hard at a job in business. Periodically M would feel ill “from a virus.” M experienced no respiratory or digestive symptoms– she felt exhausted with general malaise.
In those days, this Star benefitted greatly resting home sick in bed.
This dear woman was not fully aware how she needed relief from the stresses she felt. At that time that was the way M adjusted her perspective and healed toward more balance.
Stories and Possible Tools:
1. Lean on Appreciating What Works
In 1966 Catherine Ponder published her book The Dynamic Laws of Healing. Ahead of its time, the work is filled with many stories of dramatic healing from a shift in attitude.
In one account under the subtitle “How Praise Heals” this author reported that a woman who had failed to get relief from her doctors came for a session. After listening to the client’s long list of woes, Ponder asks the woman to tell her something that was going well with her. Immediately, the woman could think of nothing going well.
Catherine persisted pointing out that the woman had walked into her office, was not bedridden, was apparently seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching. The client responded after some contemplation– her right little finger was perfect.
The counselor told the woman to go home and focus on the perfection of her little finger, to praise its health, to give thanks for Life and refuse to think of her ills. In three days the patient returned and felt better in her whole hand. For months the client continued to see Catherine and experienced more and more health in her dear body. [2]
2. Appreciating Whatever We Can
Among other sources the Abraham Hicks teachings emphasize the high value of appreciating what surrounds us. This author recommends a practice of writing down what we appreciate us once or twice a day.
In 1993 a person attending a seminar reported that she got this advice while attending an Abraham Hicks seminar. At the time of this workshop this protagonist suffered from a cancer diagnosis. Spurning medical care, she went home and immersed herself in listening to recordings of the Abraham Hicks material (easily and abundantly available on YouTube). message.) In a few months, her physician told her she was now cancer free.
3. A Focus on Acts of Kindness Creates a Miracle
A fellow had had a serious bout with cancer, got to a point where the doctors had no more treatments for him. Already in a wheelchair and wanting to make the most out of the life he had left, he decided to focus himself on doing random acts of kindness. The man threw himself into it, relishing the work.
A year later he went back to the doctor, got tested for his malignant stomach cancer was found to be cancer free. The doctor said that the MRI results ” were unexplainable by western science.” This fellow bathed in Well Being while he was so happy in his work!
a. We have awesome power for bringing ourselves back to balance: align our inner state to that of love, peacefulness and Joy. Let’s bask in this!
b. We are wise to notice on what our attention is focused– our health depends on it.
Want to share some tales of how focusing your mind was part of your regime to heal a condition? Please know how your story contributes to the health of all of us! Do you have a question about how to use this post? Please use the comments for what you want to share.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
[1] Hay, Louise, Heal Your Body (Santa Monica, CA: Hay House, 1988) p.1
[2] Ponder, Catherine, The Dynamic Laws of Healing, (Marina del Ray, CA: DeVorss &Co, Publisher, 1966) 99-100.
On this path of growth, we want to become more aware and more curious about how we put what we see into mental pictures. What have we loaded into these observations? We will perceive– that is a feature of our humanity- like the characteristic of the sun radiating heat.
Let’s notice our perceptions and the emotions that “seeing that” generates. Do we feel some discomfort in an awareness—a sure sign that some part of ourselves is loaded in there. It’s a flag to pause and review, to learn more.
An Example
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Lucille had had one date with Mr X. Soon after she discovered that he had posted a profile on a dating site. L said, “Well, I’m glad to have the information.”
Later that week she interacted with Wise Counsel. Active in her growth process, L was open to hearing some feedback.
WC: “I see you used the word “information” as an attempt to be neutral to discovering aspects of this man’s dating behavior. Are you feeling more open now? I sense yes.
Actually, I perceive that you felt upset, maybe anxious and hurt, in viewing his posting on a dating site. In fact, I would guess that you made an assumption: That man wants another woman and is rejecting me. The word “information” was your attempt to reach for more calm and balance than you felt.
At this point you might as well admit what went on with you, and take the opportunity for self-discovery.
Lucille: Yes I was upset. Yes, I do want to learn.
WC: Let’s imagine what could possibly be going on with Mr X. Perhaps he has an intense job, family issues with grown children, guilt over backed up chores. Possibly, the man may be confused about what he wants. Maybe, Mr X feels impatient with getting to know another– just wants to get to the closeness and skip all this other stuff :). As he grows, he may get scared to face certain parts of himself. He is full of his own emotions! The guy may have no clue that you were interested in him.
Lucille: Wow I had not looked at this situation from all his possible perspectives! Your offering offers so much less sting to me! I see now how I invented stories from my own past hurts: I feel soothed now. I feel a lot better when I allow the wider view.
Another Illustration
Janice recounted a incident unfolding this week with her family. Her father defended her sister to the sister’s husband. The sister had not felt loved and respected by the father but after this incident she realized she had been misperceiving for years.
J said, “We feel an emotion and then we made up a story that becomes our “go-to” perception about the matter.” That incident had a profound impact on the sister and on her relationship with her father. She changed how she saw things and felt enormously better.
Take away for readers:
Pay more attention to our emotions. Ask how do I feel?
What story did we just create? Can we shift our perception, even a little.
Can we see more “Good” in this account. Is there an opportunity to give the benefit of the doubt or to look for something to appreciate? Can we refocus my lens on some bit to enjoy?
Do you have some stories of how you changed your view of events and then felt better? Please share them at jpearl@streamofyes.com. With every reframe you are progressing for yourself and contributing to All That Is!
Earlier draft
My experience arises from how I perceive what is going on around me. In my life I am pursing a practice to look for really cool and fun things happening regularly! I want to see myself as wise, confident, competent, sure and beautiful so I am practicing that perception. All these blog essays represent entries observed on that journey.
This week a friend Lucille discovered that a man she has been dating posted a profile on a popular dating site. She reacted with upset and said “Well I’m glad to have the information.” As I listened, use of that word “information” bugged me. After a couple of days when she felt calmer and more balanced, I had a chance to explain my awareness: the word information sounds like it means something objective and detached. She was telling herself she reacted neutrally. It was clear to me, though, she thought this man was moving on to other women and in so doing, rejecting her. She had filtered what she had learned, and it went to upset without her realizing what happened.
Another friend Janice recounted a incident unfolding this week with her family. Her father defended her sister to the sister’s husband. The sister had not felt loved and respected by the father but after this incident she realized she had been misperceiving for years. Janice said, “We feel an emotion and then we made up a story that becomes our “go-to” perception about the matter.” That incident had a profound impact on the sister and on her relationship with her husband. She changed how she saw things and felt enormously better.
We all do this. Let’s get more aware and more curious. What have we loaded into these observations? We will perceive– that is a feature of our humanity- the sun will radiate heat, a characteristic. How can we know what is loaded into our perception? Our emotions are the indicator. If I notice discomfort in what I experienced, that is the flag to tell me to review what I just “saw”. What did I tell myself about this?
Here is an example involving looking more closely at what is going on for the other person. When I spoke with Lucille, I hypothesized what could be going on for her date: he doesn’t have time to date because he has an intense job, a creative life, grown children, household chores and more. What if he is confused about what he wants. Possibly he feels impatient with getting to know another– just wants to get to the closeness and skip all this other stuff :). He feels afraid and wants to avoid facing parts of himself. He is full of his own emotion and did not intend to reject her.
This account soothed her, this view was so much less personal with less sting. As the interaction between Lucille and her male friend is unfolding, she now see that her assumption, “the information”, e.g. “I am rejected”, was untrue. Telling it this way she felt better.
What story do we tell ourselves? I proceed with alertness in my day to how I feel as events unfold. Can I see more Good in the story I am seeing? In the case of Lucille, with my help she opened herself to perceive an action from a busy, confused and good man . It felt worlds better :).
Take away for readers: I can pay more attention to my emotions. If I feel “off” or worse, I can inquire to myself what did I just perceive and what story did I create about it? Can I shift what I see, even a little. Is there an opportunity to give the benefit of the doubt or to look for something to appreciate? Can I refocus my lens on some bit to enjoy?
Do you have some stories of how you changed your view of events and then felt better? Please share them at jpearl@streamofyes.com. With every reframe you are progressing for yourself and contributing to All That Is!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
In this culture many of us have the habit of thought to review our grievances. When we go to the topic of forgiveness, it seems to involve going over the transgression against us.
There exists a Universal Law: “What is like unto itself is drawn.” This means that if we continue to go over and over the hurt part, we draw more of it to us. NO! We don’t want that!
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Let’s put our attention toward WHAT WE DO WANT. That will involve reminding ourselves of all manner of Good already flowing to us. We can appreciate the people, places and events around us. We are encouraged to appreciate ourselves as well.
Example
Carrie Ann (CA) follows the suggestions in this blog’s posts. CA knows that whatever she puts attention on she gets more of that. If this dear woman puts attention on what she does NOT want, she will attract MORE of that. We need to recognize when we are reviewing unwanted— it works against us.
In a woman’s group meeting CA noticed how the other group members were drawn to report on how each had been wronged, a regurgitation of each’s resentment.
As she listened, this heroine perceived with compassion how many still were judging themselves inside. It was a big deal, a big change, for each to declare they were ok even as they remembered their “thing needing forgiveness.” In light of instead pursuing what we do want, these group members needed to behave differently now in order to get more wanted results.
Carrie Ann recommends when we become aware we are resenting, when we notice we want to forgive, then we switch to a look instead for what we can enjoy in this present moment. Group attendees declared, “It is most difficult to let myself off the hook. It is so hard to forgive myself!”
For sure, the letting go when we are hurt takes considerable focus and often a good chunk of time. Things shift for us bit by bit. And the discipline of this shift toward more and more appreciation can have miraculous pay offs. The principle of like attracting like works every time!
As we experiment with putting more focus on the GOOD, we discover the GOOD in ourselves! Wow we are becoming better and better each day and see we are ok right now.
The Star knew that these folks would get more satisfaction by feeling grateful for much in the world around them including themselves.
As each woman looked for Good around herself, she brought more Good to herself. Then it’s so much easier to release resentments and judgments!
We bring to our minds what we do want and become aware of more of it already here.
Easily we allow the flow of love into our beings, more and more. This represents a deep spiritual evolution. We appreciate that we are taking this on! WE release shame for past events.
Really, no “forgiveness” needed. We keep basking in Good and beaming it to others.
Do you have questions about this post? No? Please share examples from your life of how you reframed a hurt and let love flow in.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
We all have experienced some unwanted bodily condition. We all want to feel in harmony. Let’s remind ourselves we carry harmony now. We are Whole.
Let’s pause and breathe in that Well Being Abounds and live into how this awesome power is always with us.
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Esay examples: Cuts, bruises, burns heal easily. What a wonder! We trust the Power of Well Being to Heal Us. Bask in that evidence.
Improvements from Taryn
Taryn sought Jin Shin Jyutsu[1] with two bodily conditions to address: a type of cancer and a blood condition. She had been acculturated to focus in on what was not going well (like so many of us). Seeing physicians often she took their grim tones and dire predictions to heart. She focused on being a sick person.
In this hands-on art of JSJ, practitioners are trained to see the client as already in his or her perfection, already whole. T chatted while she was receiving her hands-on treatment, soaking up the relaxation and more.
Taryn absorbed the message that she was mostly well. She heard the message; “You are so much more than your diagnoses, and your contributions vaster than your current job.” Our star soaked in this attitude.
Early on this heroine reported on her check up with the blood doctor: the doctor was surprised to see her improved condition—since that physician had predicted her rapid deterioration.
The dear woman continued to receive JSJ sessions. After a year or so T went into remission from the cancer. She knew deep down her change of attitude “Mostly well; Already Whole” had made an enormous contribution to the course of her condition. Our heroine continues to focus on wellness!
Charlotte’s Tale
Charlotte discovered Jin Shin Jyutsu and felt called to come for some sessions. She had a growth behind one of her eyes and wanted to reduce that. She also had curvature of the spine. C came for sessions for over a year averaging three times a month.
She knew in her heart she could get help. And with that focus on Well Being toward the end of that year Charlotte went for her eye check up. The growth behind her eye was dramatically reduced. Also, our star walked more erectly. This heroine was thrilled!
Letting it go is so very key, trusting that we are whole now. YES! Feeling held by the Forces of Good and allowing the flow of life. In our Mind’s eye we KNOW we are already whole.
There are those among us with serious debilitating conditions. The recommendation here is to put as much focus as we can on Indwelling Health and Wholeness.
We can release the worry and fear and continually find the Love and Well Being— even if the condition persists we are claiming enjoyment of our life.
Do you have stories of healing unwanted conditions you want to share? Please comment! Attitude is everything! Well-Being Abounds!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
The more we practice personal growth, the more we recognize when we are afraid. We are all ready to notice literal shaking in our boots. Over time we catch ourselves with our thoughts that arise from fear.
Thoughts laced with fear are misguiding us, our perceptions are distorted. Isn’t it great to practice more ways to overcome fear! We learn how we all have that power as we turn our attention toward what we DO WANT bit by bit.
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At first when we feel a trepidation strong and pulsing, we may want to run or hide.
Instead, with practice and commitment, we can put our focus on WHAT WE DO WANT. And move in that direction.
Janine’s Example
Janine received notice that her current situation for storing her possessions could not continue: she would need to find other accommodations for her stuff. Oh my! This woman felt a flood of panic and dread. Wow she felt so threatened! Yikes!
How would she ever accomplish this clearing out? To respond here represented a lot of work. The new plan for storage represented a mini-move that would take some weeks.
Her Approach
The Star reached for soothing herself. She knew it would involve allowing the strong feelings, fear, insecurity, and more, to pass through her while calling on wisdom and powerful techniques.
A voice inside her spoke, “The beliefs behind this fear are outdated. Last time I got this scared there was not really any danger,” recalled Janine with a smile.
Our protagonist could not shift her strong flow of emotions on a dime. No human can. Let’s all recognize that and make it ok.
With kindness towards self, when our heroine felt strong negative emotion rising up, she employed these tools from her self-care toolkit:
Focus on what she DID WANT.
Ask Inner Guide for next steps
Follow the guidance received
Seek and receive support from friends
Enjoy walking in nature
Read a novel
Visualize the flow of Love and Protection coming in.
Rest and rejuvenate
As she could, Janine worked her agenda. Each day this dear woman became clearer and more energetic, doing step by step the tasks of the project.
Before too long friends with trucks volunteered to assist her. She got assistance in many forms. She made it ok whatever time it took.
Outcomes
Many folks received some new treasures, charity shops benefited. J enjoyed the openness and space resulting from the clearing effort.
Janine stood tall, basking in her aliveness, more able to take life as it comes. The dear woman enjoyed perceiving her greater strength in addressing fears as they arise. How relaxing and satisfying!
Do you have a story when you stood by your commitments, moving through your fears to your brighter future? What worked for you to make that passage? Please comment. Let’s share our wisdom!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
We all experience unwanted incidents, some more traumatic than others. We understand that these circumstances happen to most of us. As we keep going, we can exercise more awareness in our responses and more loving kindness for ourselves and all concerned.
A Tale of Recovery
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Going to a routine appointment driving in the pouring rain, Barbara turned into a parking lot where a car was paused in an unexpected location. B could not stop in time and hit it.
It seemed no one was hurt; B and the other driver were walking around and attending to exchange of information, calling police, tow trucks, insurers, etc. Though in shock, this heroine attended to the business at hand.
Immediately Blessings Showed Up
As Barbara processed, she was able to notice some kindness flowing: the man nearby who offered his office as a haven out of the rain, the police who came and said “accidents happen.” Upon reaching home, our valiant soul reached out for support and got some relief. Many voices saying she was ok.
Not surprisingly, inside B guilt and shame continued to well up as she revisited the trauma. The dear woman had never before been responsible for such a serious accident.
Allies Appeared
The next day the star called a new friend, Paul. In the course of the exchange she told him about the accident. That lovely gentleman offered to come up to see her that very day– and did :). Paul set his sights on helping her to get her mind back on some fun. It worked!
Focus on Positive
From the focus on inner development, Barbara knew that to help oneself recover, she put focus on thoughts that were grounded and positive. B observed that her mind kept coming back to review that upsetting moment with sound and jolt of crunch.
The energy of that incident was so present. So valuable to rest in the knowledge that she was ok, that it was ok to flow with these powerful feelings and ok to let time help them subside.
Self-Blame Thoughts Ran
In the moments feeling the painful emotions, fun was not within feeling reach; it seemed impossible. Importantly she had trained herself to realize: the run of habitual thoughts are not true! Just after the experience stress like that fills the whole inner screen– briefly– but pleasure and good are still around. Phew! B still had access to good!
Resilience
In a couple of days Barbara felt her liveliness returning. Isn’t it great that she could feel awful and find her way to feeling much better again! Even though over the next two weeks she did tap into the distress repeatedly, each time with greater ease this protagonist returned to feeling the joy of living for big stretches of the day.
One day B was chatting at a meeting, recounting her recent drama. Wisely Barbara related to this colleague that her biggest challenge involved forgiving herself.
“Tell me about it,” said this dear person who was suffering from a serious health challenge. I could have gotten a screening test for the disease I have but I chose not to do so.” Now his body has an advanced case.
Barb thought, “Wow maybe this car blip is not that big a deal after all. That puts it into a bigger perspective. I am a good person, I am, I am. :) “
Noticing the Hidden Blessings
Barbara observed she was able to:
Could stay in present time to handle various reports, vehicle appraisals.
When feelings of shame came up, more and more quickly B could find a fresh view again, some fun, some relief.
Reap benefit of Forces of Good sending her assistance. She got help releasing her negative self talk.
Resilience, shorter periods to bounce back to recovery and satisfying moments.
More robust and quicker release of guilt and shame.
Greater agility with surrendering the judgmental havits and more trust that Good prevails and life flows.
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About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
We might have someone direct criticism at us. It can happen. In how we react we can gain deeper awareness of ourselves. Then, however we react we can make that ok. We can see what habits of thought are operating in this moment and then shift as we have new insight.
Darlene’s Example
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Darlene holds a professorship at a nearby university. Recently a student in one of her classes quit. This person did not merely walk out: She hurled some mean-spirited comments to Darlene on the way.
“You have anger problems,” the exiting student screamed at the teacher. “You are obsessed with defending yourself.”
Inside Darlene, those statements hurt. Then D felt disappointed with herself that she would let that kind of thing bother her.
Our star called Wise Counsel (WC) for support.
Darlene: “Why do I care what that student thinks of me?
As I processed the incident, I began to worry about my career. I started feeling overwhelmed and that I never get enough done. I feel miserable!”
WC: “Most importantly, I recommend that we be kind to our dear selves. We all feel uncomfortable when someone points out unwanted qualities about us! Isn’t it quite human to have some reaction. Let’s accept that. Let’s make that ok.
Yes, you have been working on shifting some outdated patterns of thinking, one’s like blaming. One good thing worth noting: in this instance you did not start to call her names! You controlled yourself. No blame to the one who criticized passed your lips.
You had thought, ‘Why do I care what that student thinks about me?’ Isn’t it great that immediately you realized you did not take her word as being true about you! You would rather feel balanced. That is a step toward higher consciousness, a positive aspect.
In this story, someone blamed you and then you blamed yourself for getting triggered. Since we know most humans would feel some reaction, let’s make it ok that you felt your response. Let’s ACCEPT this human process.”
Darlene: I can get lost in the habit of self-blame and then, in feeling overwhelmed.
WC: Yes, you have identified those well entrenched habits of your thought. You are already on your way to shifting them. Good for you that you persist. Good for you that you recognize the habit!
Let’s ACCEPT that this is what the process of changing thoughts looks like. Noticing the habit and then bit by bit reaching for a new thought.
Such an important milestone to shift from self-blaming to self-accepting! We can say “Uh oh I am doing that again. Isn’t it great that this time I am noticing!”
Simple on one hand, yes. And simple first steps are like planting an acorn. Innocuous seeming action—and wow what a magnificent oak of a being we are growing!
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About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
