Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Build Strength from Upset


Those of us reaching for feeling good are building new neural pathways moment to moment. These new pathways represent new strength in our ability to focus.

When we are born, we are guaranteed that choosing our focus will be part of our life experience –we will find ourselves close up and personal with something we do not want. We focus on what we DO WANT so we get more of it.

We get what we hold in our thoughts in this attraction-based world.

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In this account Selah has an experience she really does not want. What can she do to build strength instead of magnifying the upset?

This star, Selah, reached for being connected to Source Energy often in her day. She felt good vibes flow from her heart and frequently spent time enjoying her yard. Daily she would create various projects: crafts, home improvements, garden.

On one particular day two houses down the street a man drank heavily and spoke loudly. It had happened previously. This time the invective was as if the cursing was pounding the air, accented by a menacing din of blaring music.

Our heroine lost her composure for a bit, triggered into a distressed and depressed reaction. Selah felt at her wit’s end — in her head she wailed, “This is my home!” And still, she reached for a response from a higher consciousness.  What on earth could she do?

This dear woman sought out assistance from someone who would give her advice that she could respect. This guide began, “The most important thing for each of us is to maintain our connection to Source Energy. We make our priority our own nervous system—regaining that “feeling good” place. First put some focus on calm, perhaps distracting ourselves with something pleasurable. Certainly, offer ourselves time to recover.

This assistant offered the inspiring words of Howard Thurman, influential author, philosopher, civil rights leader. “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”  https://libquotes.com/howard-thurman/quote/lbn4k5i

This situation hurt Selah deeply. This shifting to a calmer and contented place took days into weeks bit by bit through the days. Internally at times she heard herself complain, “But I want to work in my yard!” Stronger, she did not dwell there, pivoting out of that victim mentality again and again.

Moving on, S found ways to soothe herself and knew she was taking power in her mindful steps to recovery. Her ability to focus where she put her thoughts represents her power, and she kept choosing to build resilience in how she uses her consciousness.

Once she got feeling better, options to continue popped into her mind, she could:

  1. Wear earphones and play desired music for our own ears.
  2. Put special attention on the beauty surrounding herself. Relish each aspect—the color of the flowers, the combinations, the textures!
  3. Review strong positive memories.
  4. Appreciate the many friends she has attracted.

She was so glad she was using this situation to grow. She was expanding her love for herself and her understanding of others. Her courage expanded too. With delight she embraced the continuous practicing needed and S loved expanding her capacity for love.

Did you find this piece thought provoking? What bubbled up for you? Can you think of more approaches to strengthen ourselves under similar circumstances? What do you do for yourself?

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