We can learn to be more self-loving. For many of us it does require practice! The habits of self-shaming seem so deeply embedded in us.

We can do it!  Allowing the change to progress bit by bit. We decide we will shift.

We are training ourselves to be more and more aware of how we feel. For Heaven’s sake it matters when we feel quite poorly! We start to recognize that some incident has triggered the shaming habit.

Of great assistance is feeling good more and more of our days. More taking stock of the many instances (almost daily) of things going well for us; more appreciating and more feeling happy. In that way we can more easily perceive that we just fell into a shaming rut.

Isn’t it great to shift out of responses bit by bit!

Our reactions show us what is going on inside ourselves—point out that inner material we might call “unconscious.”

Yes we notice when our “think poorly of self” is running and then we witness that it is not our truth. Instead, we remember we are completely ok right now. The shine of our beings remains strong as we clear outdated mental hygiene.

Example of Progress in Self Loving

Eleanor went to look for a certain pale green spring skirt. This dear woman checked her main closet, the back up closet, the stored clothes in bins. This item of clothing appeared lost.

What was she saying in her head as her search progressed? Part way into this process this heroine started to notice her fear and the nature of the internal chatter.

“You misplace items! You don’t pay enough attention to your possessions. I guess you gave it away. Did you not stop to tune into what you still wanted? You were rash. You are sloppy!”

What an unkind self -tirade!

Eleanor sat calmly and observed what had been running under her radar for a time. Well for Heaven’s sake, E wanted to be kinder to herself regardless of the reason.

In this awakening, our star declared that it was ok if she no longer owned this skirt. Those statements about her were not constructive, not reflective of her self-worth or what she knew to be true.

E soothed, “I want to practice underscoring my value, listing aspects to appreciate. Not only is my life ok now. I am a Wondrous Being of Light!”

Meanwhile during the next chunk of hours, this protagonist found the skirt!

The Take Away: she progressed on the path of self-kindness by witnessing the old programming. Then she could (and did) shift. Clearly, E was loving herself more and more.

Do you have a story to share of how you made new choices and love yourself? Please share it!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.