Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Maintaining Sanity


Many of us practice purifying our thinking, i.e. to feel Good and know Good. As we proceed in life, some incident is likely to stimulate feeling a deep fear and then we have an opportunity for processing it. In this post Carmen seeks relief from terror and worry that grips her in the wake of a house purchase.

Carmen’s Worry Rant

Flowers I, 16 x 20, acrylic on canvas

Carmen and her husband recently purchased a house after months of searching. Now she is worried because her husband  is unhappy. He declares often, “We paid too much for it.”  Though our star does want this house, she wants to please her husband,too During the bidding process which they experienced side by side, the husband did not air his misgivings at that final bid. 

C bemoans, “My husband did not share his true feelings.  Now I want him to be happy with the house. I want to fix this situation and I cannot! I am so upset”

This heroine consulted a wise counsel to get some relief.

Wise Counselor Assists

Wise Counselor offers,

“How would one measure that one “paid too much.” There is no sane way to ascertain that as a fact. No one knows what bid the other side will take. Actually, even the sellers do not know in advance what they will accept because the variables of other offers and market conditions form a unique mixture of circumstances.

When one lines up with the Forces of Good, one does not berate oneself. Telling ourselves we ‘paid too much’ tortures and shames ourselves. We inject a chemical soup of stress pouring into our bloodstream. This line of thinking damages ourselves! With practice we can learn to stop doing that!

Yes, many around us talk like that. Viewed conventionally. “we paid too much”  may sound “normal”. Instead, those reading this blog are learning to live more in line with Good.

Humans live in this moment only. What could have happened or should have happened represents unsound formulating, less than sane.

We do not know what bid a seller may or may not have taken at some point in the past. Therefore, you do not know what price ‘you should have paid’ or what price was ‘too much’.”

Carmen asks the counselor, “What would I do to get relief from worry here?”

Counselor answers, “As you notice you are very upset, distract yourself with another activity. Rest from that troubling topic.  Perhaps, exercise, gardening, do something you love. What can you appreciate in your life?

When the emotions run negatively and high, we can use a tool such as Jin Shin Jyutsu or Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) to recover our balance, soothe our thoughts and feelings. If you have begun to use JSJ, that art will calm you as you hold each finger separately for two minutes.”

Jin Shin Jyutsu Soothes

The conversation stops and the Counselor offers JSJ to Carmen. With that harmonizing session she can let go of that uncomfortable mind set and allow the flow of the Forces of Good. Soon Carmen feels peaceful and relaxed. She is returned to feeling aligned with Good.


When we feel upset, we can help ourselves.

We know we are surrounded imbued with Forces of Good, protective, loving, healing energy. Let’s line up with feeling Good.  

Let’s live in this moment, let the past go.

We know that others manage their own feelings and we cannot make them happy.

We can relax and restore ourselves. Then we keep going.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

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