We can recall instances when someone in our social spheres “drives us crazy.”  Inside us we call, “How can they keep saying that? They are ignoring my advice!”

If we choose, we can pursue the opportunity to explore our emotion and thought pattern that has gotten triggered. Perhaps we can soothe the frustration in ourselves. Isn’t it fun to contemplate the inner power we can liberate if we focus there!

The Illustration

Karen lay in quiet time at end of a yoga class. Her mind wandered to her husband who won’t take a supplement she had recommended. K then recalled how this morning the two participated in an online consultation with the nutritionist from his medical practice. That person suggested what Karen had already pointed out to her dear one. K cried in her thoughts, “Why won’t he listen to me?”

The Assistance

Donna tells Karen, “Well, if you want, you could use this moment of frustration to benefit yourself.

What is at the heart of your strong reaction?

Is there a part of you that feels lesser because he did not heed your advice? At the core do you want more recognition as a source of important information? 

You want more respect. What if you offer that more and more to yourself? You know your nutrition information is worthwhile. We don’t know his reasons for not responding to your ideas. His reasons for not listening to you have nothing to do with you! You can honor yourself right now.

Karen listened attentively and was willing to consider that possibility. This star knows it will require practicing to change her reactions.

When we feel an emotion like that, we have had a button pushed. Most of all of us do that at time.  We can see an opportunity to know ourselves better.

Do you have a story from your growth process that resonates with this account? Please share it! Questions? Please put it in the comments. You will get a response! 

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.