Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Self-Blame Releasing


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So many of us have experienced self blame. Most people have habit of thought to wield blame in some way—We make someone or something “wrong” about something. For some the frequent target is one’s own dear self.

As we raise our vibration toward more Good, we can release the habit of making ourselves wrong.

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Lorraine Notices

Lorraine left a friend a phone message that she would offer the help that friend needed. The friend responded with “thank you” Unfortunately,  Lorraine did not get the word that her offer was accepted—so the chance to be of help that day was missed.

These days Lorraine goes down that self-blame pattern of thought much less frequently than earlier in her life. Ove this L discovered her mood did dip. Oh my the heroine noticed that a string of excuses ran in her head.

Waking up to Habit of Thought

Next L observed herself coming up with thoughts that were finding fault with her friend. “Wait a minute!” our star told herself. “I don’t want to be going down this road.”  

Oh my, this protagonist was blaming her friend for L’s missing the call, deflecting her self blame for not making this favor happen to blame her friend instead.

“Whoa!” thought Lorraine, “I want to soften and make it all ok.”

Instead of all this, Lorraine wanted to accept what happened. All is ok. “

The friend sent an email that glowed with acceptance. That woman showed graciousness and flowed with kind acceptance.  No big deal that the favor did not happen.

At one time inside L prided herself on doing favors for others- if she did good, L knew herself to be Good. If she did not do favors  L might be less than “good” to herself and others.

The Shift

Now our star is building self compassion even more strongly. The heroine wanted to sing out to the world—“Hey! We are all good anyway! We are composed of Goodness and We beam it out more when we focus on GOOD”

Is it a joy to follow through on doing a favor for a friend? Yes it is. And our self-image and knowing of Good allows us to flow with life and accept some pot holes on the way.

Is it valuable to notice what we are thinking as we breathe in and out? Yes it is! We have so much power to wield to shape our lives!

Do you have stories of forgiving yourself? Are you making progress on shifting that habit? Please report in and inspire us all!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

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