We are becoming more and more awake to what we are thinking and to how that feels. We love when we feel good.
With momentum on feeling good more and more, Good flows to us in a myriad of ways. We realize more and often frequently, “Oh my, I am blaming myself again,” or “Oh dear, I am finding fault with someone outside myself. “
These kinds of changes are at the core of moving to the next step in our evolution.
Bruce Lipton, well known author of Biology of Belief[1] and internationally known speaker, tells us that 95% of our time we operate from subconscious programming. Living in the now, we will wake up and, “Wait I don’t want to be doing that or saying that– I am catching myself in the habit.”
Then we have a choice point: Will I blame myself for repeating a habit I want to shed? Or Will I cheer myself on for noticing that I want to shift what I just thought or said? I have certainly increased my consciousness. I can see my progress and make some right now.
Read a story how one woman shifted away from a habit to a more supportive view.
Illuminating Account
Laney realized her favorite boots were no longer comfortable.
“Bless me, apparently my feet are expanding a bit at this stage of life. The boots I have used for the last five years are no longer comfortable. My toes hit the front—today they feel too short. I had thought I would make do with them until recently when I came home from a hike with a big toe ache that lasted a day or so. Yuck!” L awoke to the fact that she now requires a bigger size.
Our heroine continues, “Inside I started to get upset about this. And I realized, ‘Wait a minute I am blaming myself for needing another pair. Did I do something bad? I should have…. Hey, I have the money, I can order online.’
Whoa! SHIFT! Why not make it ok to need a bigger size. My feet spread. Oh well. I can skip this self-scolding. What if I simply accepted that my feet expanded, and I need new boots.
I ordered them, they came, they fit. they are comfortable.”
Not all of us would scold his or herself for this. On the surface it seems so simple.
Laney found it an important new choice in thinking. She thought, “When I skip the self-deprecating thinking and then concomitant emotional upset – it is akin to finding space in a formerly cramped closet. Life is so much more enjoyable! and EASY. I can say WOW. That is a life I want. I love that I let life be easier.”
Let’s be aware: the building of new habits will involve us noticing that we just said (or thought or did) something that we used to believe …and now we are back and remembering we have more power.
We need lots of repeating the new pattern: we make it ok to notice what we were was just doing. We say to our dear self , “Good going… I returned to present time! I remember another way to think!”
Rejoice! Isn’t it great that we are learning and progressing! I am learning– this is what waking up looks like!”
Do you have a story about your process to shift your habits of mind? Please comment. Be part of all of us creating more fun!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. In these posts composed of true stories, she inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
[1] Lipton, Bruce, The Biology of Belief (Santa Rosa, CA, Mountain of Love/Elite Books, 2005)168