We are practicing becoming more aware of the feelings and thoughts that arise in us. Cultivating this presence, we develop greater ability to steer our course more effectively with greater enjoyment.
At times we might notice our state adrenaline pouring into out bloodstream, we have the habit to react with DOING SOMETHING.
Additionally, when we feel this fear, often our minds may fill with some image that fuels the fright, definitely some scenario we Do NOT want.
A New Habit
In lieu of taking immediate action, we can create the new skill of taking a pause. What if we say to ourselves. “Wow this is fear. What do I think will happen?” In this way we realize we are MAKING UP something unwanted and we are scaring ourselves!
With the pause, we then have the opportunity to envision what we DO Want and to invent a different scenario than that threatening picture. How do we get to wanted? We have been learning what to do
Reach for feeling better and keep picturing what we DO WANT.
Perhaps some illustrations of how a person can use this life changing capacity.
An Illustration
Rodney rented a place to live. With permission from the landlord R had laid out some money to fund a repair. Soon thereafter this dear man wanted the money laid out to be promptly refunded.
The owner was laid up with a serious health condition. The daughter helping her was inexperienced at carrying out all the responsibilities associated with the owned properties. Then the son of the property owner experienced a significant accident and was hospitalized.
Rodney started to worry that his concern was getting lost in that family’s problems. Where was the action he sought?
At first R envisioned being neglected, being stuck with this bill without reimbursement, being taken advantage of. That mental picture stoked his fear. In this man a voice cried, “I have to act to take care of myself!”
Rodney Takes a Pause
Surrounding this, there are infinite possibilities of outcomes. Many of us have been trained to let these emotions run and then dictate our responses. New suggestion: This hero could take a pause.
R decided to follow this thread. This star declared to himself, “Wait a minute: I want to get clear what I DO WANT. I can use my energy to imagine being paid in full as the family gets back on their feet. The son will come home, the owner/mother will feel better and clearer. The daughter follows the instructions of the experienced, calmer lead.”
R held this vision. Filling with resilience, he can get in tune with the flow of the Universe. He need not push because he has heightened emotion with more phone calls and letters.
Outcome
R waited and let some time pass. Then the owner felt improved health and mood. He interacted with her and then he easily made his points and received the agreement and cooperation he wanted.
His approach of taking a pause, letting life flow, paid off for him.
What are some of your stories on how you took a time out, a chill out and let something go for a bit? Please share how well this works for you!
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.