Those of you who have been playing with inner work have heard about living in present time. I heard about it early in my journey of conscious growing years ago. These days I am paying more finely tuned attention to focusing here.
Recently I have been noticing what I do when some comment or condition upsets me. I register that I feel out of balance. I notice I don’t feel good. Then I listen to the flow of my thoughts. Am I making a negative prediction? What have I begun to assume? Have I started to create “what this means”?
One illustration: A person I am dating experienced a moving violation while driving. I felt some cringing inside me.
I feel our of balance.
I don’t feel good.
This person does not pay attention.
This person is not a good driver.
I am at risk if I ride with that person.
This person may keep doing this.
That cringe shows me I feel fear. I want to withdraw. I certainly do not feel good.
Pause. Take a breath.
Where did I just take myself inside?
How do I recover?
Depending upon how upset I have gotten, I may want to distract myself for awhile. Do some reading, call a friend, rest with some Jin Shin Jyutsu.
Then I might pivot– Have I ever had a moving violation? Yes
I noticed when I went through that I became inspired to pay closer attention to my driving. I became an even better driver. Oh look! Sometimes an accident can inspire even better driving.
I recommend reading a post I wrote in early 2015 “Looking for Good in the Unwanted.”
I don’t feel good when I assume the worst of this man. I like watching for all the good in him.
What a different life I can live if I catch myself creating a fear trail and instead start to look for good when “what I don’t want” appears.
If all the bad stuff is not to be guarded against, then I can allow an incident to occur, and return to feeling pleasure in life. I can look for what I can enjoy right now.
I have more fun enjoying him!
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Most Happy New Year! Thanks for reading my blog this past twelve months. I value all of you!