On occasion we wake up to realize we are heading for a situation that we don’t want. Yuck. How to make the best of it? Oh my what if we discover we expect something we do not want. At first we may not realize our power to shift our thinking so that we flow through this circumstance with ease and pleasure. Let’s read about rolling forward, taking charge of our focus and our fun.
The Weekend Trip
Kara felt some difficulty getting along with her boyfriend at this juncture. Their routine included alternating weekend jaunts, each traveling two hours to arrive for shared time. The night before this visit, the two spoke and debated whether to meet. Kara decided she could have fun even if this boyfriend was tired, grumpy and pulling away. Our star got clear she can create a time she could enjoy.
Here is what Kara did:
- On the drive there she played classic rock and sang along with the radio. K relished the beautiful scenery on the drive.
- She reviewed thoughts of what pleases her, some memories, some natural beauty, some inspiring quotations and more.
- Once arriving, she relaxed into keeping her focus on what she could appreciate: Kara asked her companion to walk in the woods on the property soon after arriving. K loved all the trees, moss, undergrowth plants, views of fields and more.
- In preparation, the lovely soul had brought tons of vegetables she really liked and prepared a great well seasoned stir fry for dinner.
- Early in the morning, Kara went outside to sit in a farming field, listened to myriad birds, watched the mist rise. Our heroine took pictures and meditated.
- In the later morning, the couple went to a wild place where they basked in the beauty of a lovely natural environment, spying spring wildflowers, mushrooms, various types of plants and trees.
Kara took charge of her own experience, tuning into each moment to relish. This dear woman grabbed the reins of enjoying her life whether or not her companion behaved as she would have preferred. We aren’t reliant for joy on how another lives—isn’t that fun to show ourselves!
Thomasina heard many reports from others about how they were choosing to celebrate Thanksgiving only with their immediate household. T lived alone. Hmmm. What would please her? She thought about preparing loads of food to eat on her own and for her this time, that much kitchen work did not sound good.
What could she do to create a good day?
The Thanksgiving Day dawned as one of sunshine and pleasing temperature. Thomasina got clear that she wanted to enjoy herself especially well today.
First she went on a little excursion to collect discarded leaves, an effort that would offer her a supply of needed material to stoke her compost creation for months. Then after a rest, she threw herself into a project to extend her garden square footage using permaculture techniques, a task had on a list for months.
Down she laid cardboard, newspaper and straw. How satisfying to complete this!
Later she prepared some special dishes, using one hour of oven time for both. And she had a lovely phone call too.
Thomasina relished her day, putting attention on what pleased her, soaking up the beautiful weather and environment.
Do you have tales of how you changed your expectation to make the best of things? Isn’t it powerful to develop muscle in facilitating our good time under all kinds of circumstances! Yes! Please comment with your tools and tips.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. She inspires others to know themselves and compassionately to develop skills of empowerment. In her forty-five year journey of self-discovery, she has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at email@example.com to arrange an appointment.