Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Catch Yourself and Switch


Using the guidance on these posts? Key formulation: Catch yourself and switch to better feeling thoughts. Here, an example:

Magnolia adventured forth with her internet dating life. On the initial rendezvous over dinner she and Bryan chatted easily, sharing meaningful information about themselves,

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laughing and enjoying. Our dear heart felt like she had known him for awhile. Before they parted, Bryan asked her out for another time.

For about a month or so they saw each other about twice a week, he continuing the practice of setting up the next time they would meet before parting.

Magnolia started to worry and not feel very good between dates.

Here is what was going on in her mind:

She did not want to get too excited.

She did not want to get hurt.

Was he a good match?

Bryan was separated, not divorced– was this “rebound”? Would he go back to his wife?  and more… other questions ran through her.

Wait a minute! Magnolia paused — she wanted to feel better than this! Thinking this list of questions did not feel good.   Uh oh — with honesty  she admitted to herself she had gotten wound up and realized she was going down the wrong path with this inner flow of distress.

What to do?

Our star wrote in her journal, did paper processes toward uplifting herself.

She sat in nature, gazing into a beautiful natural scene.

In self reflection, our heroine recognized that those questions were a form of fear.

In what felt like a bold move, Magnolia decided to discard the dating tips from the culture– throw out concerns about rebound, not pursue analysis about “a good match” and the rest. Letting go of all of that and the “what ifs” felt better!

This guidance came to her– Tuning into feeling better was all she had to do.

New inner thoughts:

Did she enjoy being with this man? YES!

Did she enjoy talking with him? YES, very much.

That was all she needed to know for now.

Proceeding, she decided to trust herself to receive further wisdom. Her mantra: Stay in the present moment.  If she starts to experience one of the many forms of fear, she will breathe through it, soothe herself. Keep going.

Dating does stir the pot of past hurts, personal insecurities, low self esteem, and more.  By continuing to date Bryan, our Maggie signs on to process much of her stuff from other relationships and periods of her life.

When she feels filled with nagging questions, she is not seeing this man clearly. Wouldn’t it be great for her to calm and lift herself privately? Then return to present time and having fun.

Maggie wants to enjoy her life … with an companion. For now she is enjoying the courtship– and NOW IS WHERE SHE LIVES!

Do you have any comments? Do you have stories that resonate with the message here. Please comment! You light the world!



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