We have been trained by our culture to judge others—look for qualities we don’t like, for rule- breaking etc. Many avoid admitting their fear because it is an undignified quality—not respected and makes us vulnerable.

In order to grow more self-awareness and personal power, we will want to notice when we feel uncomfortable. We want to allow ourselves to know when we feel fear, guilt, shame.

We notice we feel other than good. These discomforts tip us off that a habit of thought is operating in us. With practice, we know we can shift those bit by bit.

Let’s make anything we feel ok, even interesting tho perhaps uncomfortable. In that gaze inside, can we take the stance of our innocence, view ourselves as a deeply loving figure would?

The Fear Reaction

Meryl was following one teacher on line and enjoying the inspiration and growth the woman sparked inside her. M listened to one podcast recently, and she admits she got triggered off.

Amidst the tension, M perceived the teacher seemed to be deviating from her key message: encouraging the listeners to do inner work, reaching past hurts and acculturations to align more and more with pure love. Instead, this leader appeared to recommend very specific actions from her followers with a warning if he or she did not there would be dire consequences.

Meryl felt a withdrawing and tightness, a fear reaction. She thought, “This is too difficult for me! I want to use my energy in other ways.!” Then, this star pulled back from the speaker. Earlier the leader had crafted messages wanting each “student” to think for his or herself and check out recommended actions with individual personal guidance internally.

Our heroine felt confused, uncomfortable, threatened.

What Next?

What did our heroine do? First of all, M made it ok to feel thrown off her game, to experience all those feelings coming up.

Truth be told, this state did not clear in just one day or two.

Meryl made that ok.

The protagonist proceeded to focus on other activities, ones she enjoyed: eating out, juicy conversations, trips to local beach, gripping novel and more. Additionally, Meryl made lists of people for whom she was grateful to have as friends and M called up her own treasured qualities she delighted to offer the world.

As she did this, the dear woman felt good and happy again.

And after several days when she then put focus on what had troubled her, M could proceed, assimilate what she liked, discard the rest. She felt her own power, ready to move forward. Meryl felt strong.

Resolution

Seeing herself as innocent during this process represented such a fundamentally important first step. In making it ok we know the judging voice is not true. We know that we always have a Loving Figure inside us accepting us throughout our journey of unfolding.

On top, we discover that we are easily able to see others in our life as innocent too and release our judging habits.

Do you want to report on an occasion where you accepted yourself and then were able to shift your thinking? Please share! 

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.