Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Relief from Self Judgment

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Many of us are noticing the habit of thought of judging ourselves. That cultural training to look harshly on aspects of ourselves shows up in legions of folks. We who are actively increasing our personal power address this training, catch ourselves in self-condemnation and move to self-forgiveness and self-love.

As we are more and more accustomed to feeling good, we observe when we feel tight and upset. We may feel guilty or worried – even worried that we feel guilty. How do shift towards positive when in this tangle?

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Example

In her sixties, Amanda experienced gut pain and had some scans. Her physician shared that those pictures showed sores and lesions in her gastrointestinal tract. He prescribed a medication for three months to start.  Amanda became very upset about requiring a medication at all and at the prospect of needing it for an extended period, possibly years.

Amanda recalls that her stomach would ache with tension as a child while seated at the dinner listening to her parents’ quarrel. Her worry goes to her gut from way back.

Now she feels worried that she feels guilty. She “feels to blame” for her current bodily condition.

So upset, Amanda contacted Wise Counsel for assistance.

The Exchange

Wise Counsel: Oh my you are suffering on many levels here. I have some thoughts that can bring some better feeling.

A: let’s go!

WC: At the moment there is so much uncertainty in your situation. You want to fill the role of empowered patient, you want to face your situation with courage.

It is tempting to compare your story to that of your other family members whose health deteriorated and who became dependent on medical institutions. That thinking increases the pressure on you and intensifies the struggle.

Instead, let’s go directly for an attitude that makes being on your own side most important.

Amanda: I don’t understand yet.

WC: You want to feel the best you can in this situation, even though it is stressful. Let’s make it ok if you feel overwhelmed right now and upset as you review this.

No matter what you are feeling, Well Being is pouring down around you and you are loved. Let’s make it ok that your being has had tension in that part of your anatomy for decades.

You are able to list many inspirational perspectives. That’s great!

And let’s make it ok if you still notice you are experiencing negative emotions and are not shifting on a dime. Let’s offer kindness to yourself and remember that it takes time to move to better feeling.

You have been trained to be conscientious about “doing the right thing.” Let’s give yourself lots of latitude for finding balance. You are totally loveable now. The internal voices of judgement sound so righteous! But now you are flowing with compassion as a higher purpose.

A: Oh my! I feel very soothed by knowing I am loved. It does not matter what I feel right now or at any time. I might feel worried or guilty in this moment but I am making that ok. I can breathe! What a relief!

WC: Please let’s have patience with ourselves, show kindness as we address some habits of thought that are long standing, deep and very painful. This is what the road of recovery can look like.

Do you resonate with this person’s account? Do you have an anecdote to share? Does it help you? Please contribute to this blog!

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.

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