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When we do not feel good in the present moment, we can ask ourselves what is going on with us?

Example

Recently, Larue had an opportunity to have dinner with a new male prospect. Before too long she found herself annoyed and disappointed by some of his qualities.

Then she awakened to how she felt tight and judgmental. “I don’t like when I am finding fault with a new acquaintance. It does not feel good. I am the one out of the flow right now.

I feel angry with myself.”

L’s upset increased as she saw the gap between how she wanted to be processing this experience and how poorly she was feeling.  She judged her discomfort, and, as she focused on her tension, she got more tense. Drat! She had spent only three hours with the new man.

Larue would prefer to open her heart.

Time to Process

That evening in a group meditation, this protagonist asked herself how she had been hurt and if there was a story there. She accessed Unconditional Love for herself. She wanted better attention from this man.

The traumatic memory rose to consciousness: a conversation with her father during the parent’s divorcing time and he did not acknowledge her feelings.

“Oh my.  I have grown to be the adult who can offer love and acknowledgement to that hurt place in the past.

In the past I had condemned myself for the hurt experienced by both my father and me. It felt like I had caused his pain.  That self-judgment had the sting”

Larue spent hours that evening feeling and releasing that old stuff.  From here and forward L knew she  could stand strong bearing witness to her own times of feeling poorly. It felt like a forgiveness bath for all the players in that drama from years ago. 

Now the dear woman could feel the pain lessen, and she could validate that she was completely ok, then and now.

Refreshed

After a few days, our heroine realized that she had more tolerance for the new man. L wrote a note to make contact again and soon they were setting up the next visit. This star relished feeling a fresh beginning under way, feeling easier and more confident.

She loved the light hearted sense inside and the presence now of her playful spirit.

Appreciations

This gal appreciated much in what had transpired, she:

• Had noticed her “not feeling good”.
• Dove deeply into processing this blip.
• Brought a soothing presence to herself
• Used her personal power to clean up an outdated hurt.
• Cleared a past hurt that had plagued her for years.
• Enjoyed noticing the growth she attained in her dating adventures, popping up to awareness over several days

Undoubtedly, most readers have released past hurts and felt relief. Do you want to comment or tell one of your stories of making yourself good when the outdated inner messages labeled you? We will all benefit.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.