We can easily notice that so many folks around us are filled with fear in these times. What strength can we develop to support ourselves in resilience and self-mastery to remain calmer and more balanced each day?

Tools for the Inside Job

Macy rented half a duplex house adjacent to an empty lot. The landlord owned both. In this account the owner came to inform Macy that the the land had been sold on which a house would soon be constructed. Our heroine filled with adrenaline as the dear man relayed what he knew. She wanted to remain controlled though she was feeling panicked.

M went inside and reached for phone support to a dear friend. M said, “I need a few minutes of hand holding. Are you sble to offer that now?”

“Yes,” replied her comrade.      

Our protagonist told the facts, soaked up the compassion. Sweetly, her own mind started to offer her soothing.

Examples

I. Victor Frankl recounted some incidents when he supported himself while confined to a concentration camps. In one scenario, Frankl wrote that he glanced up from an outdoor work site and viewed a breath-taking sunrise. The other prisoners nearby quietly communicated to take that moment to look to the sky. Together they enjoyed that, a rare blessing for them. On another occasion Frankl recounted how much he dwelled on how deeply he loved his wife and how grateful for her he was. During his prison term, this man did not know her fate, yet F persisted in filling himself that that deep affection and the gift she was for his life.

2. This year one of Macy’s respected leaders recommended everyone consider doing a parasite cleanse. L felt reluctant to do that, bided her time considering that option. Then a recorded track was sent out on parasites. Lacey avoided that too, associating it with a fear laden subject matter.

When she shifted inside a bit, this dear woman decided to listen to that cut. In a more balanced state, Macy found she easily listened to the recording.  As she spoke with her friend, our star realized she had been afraid of the image she had conjured in her head of what she would hear. What was actually there was not frightening when faced. Oh. “Good to Notice—I scared myself,” L blurted out.

“I want to watch what I make up about this sold land.”

3. Earlier in her life, Macy had a painful break up of a long-time romance. What a tragedy it seemed in those months of the parting process!

• Now looking back twenty years hence, so many blessings came after that event. So much good came from this “tragedy”.What if the people who move next door in that house to be built house become wonderful friends?

• What other benefits can M experience from what seems unwanted now?

Macy found calm and vowed to herself to look for the good to unfold.

We can practice observing what we think. When we are frightened, we can slow down and take a pause.

Why not use a time-out to find some balance, get support, work in the garden or chill. Then what else could we think?

Conclusion

This phone call helped Macy find some relief. Though she did not know her future, the heroine found her power with a balanced new perspective and self support.

Do you have an incident of calming yourself down that you would like to share? Please do offer it in the Comments section.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.