At times our compatriots may reject our leadership and follow their own plans. For us this can feels frustrating! We may want them to show a different attitude or behavior, to forgive us or affirm our innocence .

We recognize our strong feelings. A personal power moment: We notice our uncomfortable mood. We know we can do something about it.

Commonly, many of us want to blame someone else for for how they “made us feel.” We review in our minds how “wrong” they were.

Another Path

When we hear ourselves saying internally, “that person did not treat me well.” we wake up to our complaining.

Wait a minute! We take responsibility for how we feel under all conditions. And then we can remember that WE are innocent and worthy. WE are already loved and loveable. And we get our mind on… what we can appreciate. No one “makes us feel” a certain way.

Let’s get our mind on Forces of Good. Perhaps we take a break and notice the beauty of the soft light through the trees in early morning and the cool air; or the flowers that bloomed overnight; or the contented sighs of the sleeping dog.

We look at our agenda for this moment: Breathe! Greet the neighbor!

Illustration

Darcy worked for a woman for many years. She wanted to make the living environment of this employer as satisfying and lovely as she could—meeting D’s own standard for excellent performance.

The homeowner welcomed a new person into her household. At first, Mr New participated in maintaining a “satisfying and lovely” household. Sometimes, Mr New would listen to D’s suggestions. Often, he would not follow them.

Darcy began to feel frustrated that her vision of “satisfying and lovely” was not being fulfilled as she had pictured. One day, while discussing this with Mr. New, he reacted with strong oppositions and an angry and insulting outburst.

Time past and D wanted that environment to settle down, to be friendly and harmonizing. Alas, Darcy observed hostility remained. What to do?

Turning to Wise Counsel:

D: He is not forgiving me. He is not cooperating! I don’t like this! How can I find calm again?

WC: How can we take responsibility for how we feel under circumstances like this?

Inside our dear hearts, we want forgiveness.  This man is not delivering it.

Is he judging you harshly? It matters not! You have the power to offer yourself the soothing the thoughts and feelings that you need. And, you can let go of the incident.

You learn to be easier on yourself. Creating a satisfying and lovely household can be shaped in many ways.

Turn to enjoying the employer, her house, and the work you do there. You have dominion over that.

Mr. New does not control YOUR feelings, your inner environment.

Isn’t that good to recall!

Will this require you changing how you think? Yes it will. Steady as you go, bit by bit. Worth the focus!

And then you will have new strength and a higher level of self support to utilize in any number of situations.

Darcy: I am already underway refining this self-loving capacity.

Thanks for steering me in a moment of confusion.

Have you been taking on focused growth like this? Please share your methods and stories of success.

About the Author

Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.