We all experience unwanted incidents, some more traumatic than others. We understand that these circumstances happen to most of us. As we keep going, we can exercise more awareness in our responses and more loving kindness for ourselves and all concerned.
A Tale of Recovery
Going to a routine appointment driving in the pouring rain, Barbara turned into a parking lot where a car was paused in an unexpected location. B could not stop in time and hit it.
It seemed no one was hurt; B and the other driver were walking around and attending to exchange of information, calling police, tow trucks, insurers, etc. Though in shock, this heroine attended to the business at hand.
Immediately Blessings Showed Up
As Barbara processed, she was able to notice some kindness flowing: the man nearby who offered his office as a haven out of the rain, the police who came and said “accidents happen.” Upon reaching home, our valiant soul reached out for support and got some relief. Many voices saying she was ok.
Not surprisingly, inside B guilt and shame continued to well up as she revisited the trauma. The dear woman had never before been responsible for such a serious accident.
Allies Appeared
The next day the star called a new friend, Paul. In the course of the exchange she told him about the accident. That lovely gentleman offered to come up to see her that very day– and did :). Paul set his sights on helping her to get her mind back on some fun. It worked!
Focus on Positive
From the focus on inner development, Barbara knew that to help oneself recover, she put focus on thoughts that were grounded and positive. B observed that her mind kept coming back to review that upsetting moment with sound and jolt of crunch.
The energy of that incident was so present. So valuable to rest in the knowledge that she was ok, that it was ok to flow with these powerful feelings and ok to let time help them subside.
Self-Blame Thoughts Ran
In the moments feeling the painful emotions, fun was not within feeling reach; it seemed impossible. Importantly she had trained herself to realize: the run of habitual thoughts are not true! Just after the experience stress like that fills the whole inner screen– briefly– but pleasure and good are still around. Phew! B still had access to good!
Resilience
In a couple of days Barbara felt her liveliness returning. Isn’t it great that she could feel awful and find her way to feeling much better again! Even though over the next two weeks she did tap into the distress repeatedly, each time with greater ease this protagonist returned to feeling the joy of living for big stretches of the day.
One day B was chatting at a meeting, recounting her recent drama. Wisely Barbara related to this colleague that her biggest challenge involved forgiving herself.
“Tell me about it,” said this dear person who was suffering from a serious health challenge. I could have gotten a screening test for the disease I have but I chose not to do so.” Now his body has an advanced case.
Barb thought, “Wow maybe this car blip is not that big a deal after all. That puts it into a bigger perspective. I am a good person, I am, I am. :) “
Noticing the Hidden Blessings
Barbara observed she was able to:
Could stay in present time to handle various reports, vehicle appraisals.
When feelings of shame came up, more and more quickly B could find a fresh view again, some fun, some relief.
Reap benefit of Forces of Good sending her assistance. She got help releasing her negative self talk.
Resilience, shorter periods to bounce back to recovery and satisfying moments.
More robust and quicker release of guilt and shame.
Greater agility with surrendering the judgmental havits and more trust that Good prevails and life flows.
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About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.