As we recognize our autonomy, we are empowered as we affirm the positive. This is a huge step for many. Where do we focus our dear self with the energy of this freedom? Read about this account to learn about further steps in our path of unfoldment.
Story
Bella attended a memorial for Gail, a woman of her generation. B had not known the person well and still enjoyed hearing all the heart-warming testimonials regarding how the speakers had benefited from knowing this deceased dear one.
In one friend’s account, Gail was entertaining the group at a party when she declared, “I no longer want to be a good girl—in the past I have devoted my life to that. No More! “
The gathered folks at the memorial all enjoyed that anecdote and admired Gail’s awakened spirit.
Observing Bella felt a strong impulse to say more about that. To flesh out what that “good girl” sentiment meant to her and what she personally had done with it.
Bell’s Perspective
As the event was ending, Bella received an invitation to visit with a new acquaintance for dinner. Delighted, Bella accepted.
As the meal unfolded, B took the chance to talk more about that “good girl” remark.
B: Yes, it is great for us each to expand beyond roles that we were given early in our lives. It is so important to tune into our own reactions desires and dreams. We shift our focus off pleasing others or meeting a societal standard but on what we really want.
I want to reframe my consciousness to serving Love. My mind jumps to attuning to an inner force of unconditional loving.
“I am not a good girl.”
Bella continues: Outwardly I may appear to follow a path of societal norms. Being a good girl can look like a compassionate response, a kindness, a gesture of generosity. That feels great!
Saying no to being a good girl could look like an expression of anger, defiance for its own sake. For the mostpart I want to move swifthly through those to reflect the Forces of Good operating through me.
My goal is service to Self-Mastery in Love and not some random rebellion. And we know much focus is required to pass up resentment, anger, hatred, blame and the like.
For me shedding the good girl label does not open the floodgate for the opposite of love and care to dominate.
Another way to say it: I want to live in a genuinely Good way.
This requires me to pay attention, not to behave as though straight out of society’s can of programmed “sweet or quiet” attitudes, but instead to move towards nobility, calm and openness.
The dinner companion nodded and smiled, “I see your point. I cheer you on for living into those high ideals.”
Soon the two parted. Bella’s comrade hugged her with affection and said, “You are a treasure. I am so fortunate to have happened upon you. Thanks for taking time to have this visit.”
We have all been through passages of shedding outdated roles and imposed rules. Please share stories of your next steps and joys you have experienced.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-six year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.