Have you ever gotten annoyed with a friend?
We might notice the upset and be tempted to rail against that person’s behavior, perhaps struggle, argue, fight back. Instead, we could pause and allow what we feel to be, make what happened ok. Go further, we can admit this is an opportunity to grow.
Michael Singer wrote, “If you truly want to grow spiritually, you’ll realize that (not standing up to) … your stuff is keeping you trapped. Eventually, you’ll want out at any cost. You will then realize that life is actually trying to help you. Life is surrounding you with people and situations that stimulate growth. [1]
Today’s Illustration
Lavina felt irritated following a conversation with a good friend. At first, she wanted to ignore the feeling and keep going. She had reasons for being piqued—and in the first wave of reaction L wanted to list and review those reasons.
After a day or so of this, L realized she did want to face the hurt and shift her thinking and emotional state.
This heroine wondered, “What is going on with me? When I get perspective what went on here is not that big a deal. Yet my emotion still rages.
This dear woman knew that to feel better, reviewing and cataloging the grievances was NOT going to help. Instead, L wanted to pur her focus to something that felt good.
In her life Lavina had cared for others for many years and frequently held back on her own needs. L thought,
“Am I angry with myself for allowing an old habit to run?
Instead, why don’t I shift into forgiving myself now and move into my power and vibrancy?
Can I make it ok to have allowed an old hurt place habit to play out? So what? This is part of any human’s growth journey when changing unwanted habits of thought.
In present time I love that I safeguard my own needs.”
Lavina processed and then tuned into herself, softening the outraged thoughts. The past hurt and charge was shifting. And L did feel improvement. YAY.
Our dear protagonist had returned to present time. She had taken her time to replenish her good spirit, not rushing or pushing herself. L got willing to change her vibration and took time to do what it took.
Make Note of the Steps
1) Notice how we feel and especially when we do not feel good.
2) Admit we want to shift our vibe. We know we want to feel better, will refrain from blaming others; will do the work required to grow.
3) Speak kindly with oneself, feel the discomfort, reframe and remember the truth.
4) Make the highest priority to feel better
5) Bask in the relief, appreciate the awesome power of aligning with Good.
Michael Singer:
“You don’t have to worry about right or wrong. You don’t have to worry about other people’s issues. You only have to open your heart in the face of anything and everything and to permit the purification process to take place.
When you (open your heart), the first thing you will see is that situations will unfold that hit your stuff. But in truth that’s exactly what has been happening your entire life. The only difference is now you see it as a good thing because it is an opportunity to let go.”[2]
With regard to the friend who had annoyed Lavine, that woman sent her note in a loving and kind mood, sharing her interest in some topic they both enjoyed.
Lavina’s vibration change seems to clear the air without any discussion. She found good feeling and good relations flowed.
Do you have a tale of forgiveness and recovery to share with us? Please do. We all love to be inspired.
About the Author
Janet Pearlman is a spiritual teacher, counselor, healer and artist. These posts demonstrate everyday applications of the path to greater self knowledge and mastery. Opportunities for greater empowerment abound in the moments of our lives. As we all go for operating from a centered and loving space, we are creating a world where peace can prevail. In her forty-seven year journey of self-discovery, Janet has deeply studied the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Ernest Holmes, Inayat Khan and more. Janet offers individual sessions by phone and in person. Please contact her at jpearl555@earthink.net to arrange an appointment.
[1] Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul (Oakland, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2007) p.74
[2]Ibid