Janet Pearlman

Living in the Stream of Yes

Habits and Change


Pasture Near Home, 9 x 12, Acrylic

Pasture Near Home, 9 x 12, Acrylic

The self empowerment process involves changing habits– big time. Making changes in the way we think and behave is at the core of moving to the next step in our evolution.

When I want to think a different way than I seem to be thinking now,

I will be required to notice when I am “doing” the habit. Abraham has the catch phrase– “doing that thing you do”

Bruce Lipton, well known author of Biology of Belief and internationally known speaker,  tells us that 95% of our time we operate from subconscious programming. When we want to use our consciousness more than we have, we will notice, we will wake up and say — wait I don’t want to be doing that or saying that– I am catching myself in the habit.

Then we have a choice point: will we beat ourselves up because we notice we were doing it again– soing what we just proclaimed we don’t want to be doing….. or will we appreciate that we are conscious right now?

Our habitual thought may be self blame.. duh.. many of us surely know about that one. In the past I have said to myself “What a jerk!” when I catch myself. Instead, I want to say “Good for me. I just noticed some piece of underground operating.”

Here is testimony that serves as an example:

Bless me, apparently my feet are expanding a bit at this stage of life. The boots I have used for the last five years or so are no longer comfortable. My toes hit the front–they feel too short.  I had thought I would make do with them until recently when I came home from a hike with a big toe ache that lasted a day or so. Yuck! Awoke to the fact that I now need a bigger size.

In my mind I started to get upset about this. And I noticed– wait– I have the money– I can order online.  As I paused I saw that my habit of thought involves blaming myself for needing new boots– I did something “bad”… I should have ______________.  Wait! SHIFT . I want to make it ok to need a bigger size. It happened. Wow what if I skipped this self blame . What if I simply accepted that my feet expanded, and I need new boots.

I ordered them, they came, they fit. they are comfortable.

This seems so simple on the surface– but I felt like I was entering a new life. When I skip the self deprecating thinking and then concomitant emotional upset – it is like finding space in a formerly cramped closet. Life is so much more enjoyable! and EASY. I can say WOW. That is a life I want. I love that I let life be easier.

Let’s be aware: the building of new habits will involve us noticing that I just said ( or thought or did) something that I used to believe …and now I am back– I am remembering I want to change.

That is the way we learn. So more and more I make it ok to notice what I was just doing… I can say “That a girl you are back returned to present time! You remember another way to think! Good going! ”

Hee Haw! Isn’t it great that I am here now. Isn’t great that I am learning– this is what waking up looks like!

Do you have a story about your process  in changing your habits of mind? Please send one using the comments section. Or write a bit of your reaction to this piece.  Be part of all of us creating more fun!


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