Yesterday I got new brakes on my car. When I arrived in the small auto shop office, I was greeted by the office manager wearing green pancake makeup and black spiked hair wig. At her feet stood a dog in costume, dressed as…. (I had to be told) a cow. The dog in the cow suit won my heart.
Ms Green Face and I chatted as the mechanic worked. She and I have been getting to know each other over the last couple of years, as I wait for various auto repairs. She reported that recently a medical practitioner told her she was “ambivalent”, both about what direction to take in her career and about whether to have children. She wanted my reaction.
I replied, ” I admire how you live your life, enjoying it. You are waiting for clarity to come to you. I know it will. Living life you will pay attention, feel your way and the answers you need will come to you in right timing. I appreciate how you are not forcing yourself to formulate a goal or to make a decision that does not feel good and right to YOU. You are following your own guidance, and I heartily endorse that.”
Being called ambivalent had the aspect of being called something not good. A bit of shame got activated. I want each of us to find our own wisdom and appreciating what is in front of you facilitates the receiving answers. (Hence my comments to Ms Green Face above).
She listened, thought a minute and said, “That feels right to me. It feels so much better than worrying that I am supposed to have answers right now and do not.”
I continue, “Yes of course, you want to feel good when making these important decisions (aside to readers: hey good move to feel good when making all decisions). Then it is so easy to take action. Then you can’t wait to act.” Ms. Green Face shone with her relief. She felt happier and leaned over to pat her “cow”.
Have you experienced times when knowing what to do comes easily to you? Isn’t that fun and doesn’t it bring you joy? Have you pushed yourself to act, perhaps following advice from another and then felt off, not great? Gosh, when we stop to think about it, we know we would rather feel good!
Activate your skill at focusing on things you love, activities and people you relish.
I endorse your waiting till you feel good and have a clear impulse to act.
Have reactions or comments? Have stories about how you got followed your knowing, your gut and got great results? Please tell me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I enjoy hearing from you.